One of my "friends" got dumped and all her friends ditched her and stuff cuz shes really wierd.. so i was nice to her and now she wont leave me alone!! She calls me almost everyday and everytime she does something she has to call me and tell me! She wants to come to my house all the time and i just cant take her anymore!! But i feel that if i tell her how i feel she will just get all depressed again... what should i do!?
2007-06-29 09:49:44 · 10 answers · asked by Amy J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just be honest with her. Someone has to tell her what she is doing to drive other people crazy, or else she will never learn, and she will never stop. It might upset her in the short run, but it will help her become a better person in the long run if she learns from it.
2007-06-29 09:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by Randy G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to be busy. By that I mean let your phone take all messages, then you can screen them and only call back the ones you want to speak with. Then, If she drops in to your home, do not answer the door. You have to be shrewd in planning for this but eventually she will get the message without you having to say something to hurt her feelings. It may involve some little white lies like ' Oh I am taking a new class right now" or I have to meet a cousin etc.....But then you need to remember things like what night the class is on that you fabricated. Anyway I just think thats an easier way. She will survive and she will find someone else to burden since she is not really caring aobut you very much but rather focusing ( obsessing) on herself and her problems.
2007-06-29 16:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know I made the same mistake once. There was this girl in one of my classes and everyone was mean to her because she was kind of annoying and I felt "Bad'' for her. That was a big mistake! Because she annoyed the holy hell out of me! I hung out with her for about 6 weeks and then I had my fill. I just stopped answering her calls (she called me 6 times an hour) cold turkey, and I said little to nothing to her in class. I just didn't have the heart to say to her face "I can't stand you anymore, because I think that your the most annoying person in the world (Well next to my mother)"
Just tell her that you are busy or that your Mom doesn't want anyone to come to the house right now. (that is if you still live with your parents, Its always worked for me when I was living with Mom and Dad)
But seriously if she is driving you that crazy you need to let her know how you feel.
2007-06-29 17:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by JillardG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel and let her know that you are not liking what she is doing.
Real friends will understand this and won't get offended.
Maybe she is using you in this trying time of getting dumped. But don't let her take over your life.
Maybe she should go to a professional if it is that bad.
I hope she comes out of her depression, but it is not fair to you.
I would tell her to back off a bit, but that you want to be her friend. But tell her to treat you with more respect than to putting off on you all the time.
If you let her treat you this way, you will come to resent her and maybe do or say something that you will not want to have said.
If she cannot control her depression. she has to deal with it..not you..but you will become just like her if you dont say something to her and let her know how you feel
2007-06-29 16:59:19 · answer #4 · answered by lionhearted63118 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, she is having a hard time with all the rejection. The things that u guys find weird need to be pointed out but in a "gentle" way. You need to tell her that you have other things going on this summer and that you will have to be selective with when you guys talk and stuff....that your not getting things done that you need to get done because she is always calling. You DO need to make SOME time to start nicely pointing out why others don't want to be around her. You could use examples of other people...like what they do that you don't like and say how it bugs you to be around them when they or anyone does those things....it is all in how you present it.....choose words wisely.
2007-06-29 16:58:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to set limits firmly and now. you need to say to your friend, gee I realize youve been thru a tough experience, but right now my schedule is full of my summer activities. You seem really upset about what happened to you, perhaps your mom can make an appointment with a counselor so you can discuss your feelings about it. Im sorry i have my hands full now, and i just cant get into the pain youre experiencing. How bout we do a movie next month?
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2007-06-29 16:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to be nice about it and ..tell her that though you appreciate her freindship..that you need to keep an open mind about having other freinds..and that though you get along w/her that she isnt your best freind and that you need sometime for yourself too..if you cant say it to her or on the phone..write a nice letter so you dont have to get a bad reaction right away...good luck
2007-06-29 16:56:56 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just b/c you're the only person who will listen to her gripe does not make you her personal "unload all her stress on" buddy. Set boundaries, and if it offends her, tough nookie. It's not your problem she can't find constructive ways to unleash her stress. She's bringing you down with her. That's not fair to you.
2007-06-29 16:54:52 · answer #8 · answered by pixey03 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when she grows up and becomes famous everyone will wish they'd been nicer to her.
2007-06-29 16:59:25 · answer #9 · answered by myassisdragon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you obsessing about this?
2007-06-29 16:52:42 · answer #10 · answered by UnderwaterTomato 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋