My ex husband is suppose to pay 300.00 every other week for child support. Originally we had custody set up on every 2 weeks alternated. Now he told me we could reduce this to every other week *if* I would return the chid support to him. I did this because my kids were so miserable with him and his new wife. Now he is wanting me to write a letter that is notarized showing I pay this back and always will until the kids are 18. He wants this because he is trying to finance a house. If I do this to keep the peace, will this hold up in court, should we ever go back to court?
2007-06-29 09:18:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I would ask him to put the offer in writing, sign it, and send it to you. When you get it, petition the Court for a change in his visitation. You can use the offer signed in writing by him to show that he was trying to use his visitation as leverage to lower his child support.
2007-06-29 13:07:34 · answer #1 · answered by chio 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Until it is in writing, you can always demand the child support back. In fact, if it is NOT in writing, your ex was kind of stupid to agree to this... but you may be equally stupid. It is very complicating. Ultimately, I think you should discuss this with an attorney. You don't want to screw this up and have the ex rip you off or take advantage of your desire to "keep the peace." You are walking on a slippery slope here. Y!A is not the place to get an answer to something this important and delicate. Good luck!
2007-06-29 09:28:39 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not give your money back to your husband. Especially if he is the one that is ordered to pay child support. He is just trying to get out of paying child support and is using your kids as an excuse not to pay. You stand your ground and do not let him intimidate you. If he can lay down with you and have kids then he sure can be man enough to help take care of them. Just because he is getting a house, that has nothing to do with you or your kids.
2007-06-29 09:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by TANEISE C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you give that money back you are sick. He is to pay that child support -if it is court order he will be going against the law ask for it back ---call the police on him right now.
The reason why he wants you to wait until the kids are 18 which means he does not have to paid then- if you go along with him then you are messing up your kids life more
And why are you doing anything to help him-he wants to buy a house but he wants his kids to go with out food,clothing, and other stuff because he wants to do some thing for him alone-selish bast***d.
If he doesnot want to see the kids that is find but to this is not keep the peace and it will not stand up in court because you are not going to sign anything. You are going to keep that money and put it in the bank as trustee to the kids and used it for things the kids want to do.
you need to go to the lawyer and talk with them -this is so wrong!!!
2007-06-29 09:22:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess I would not agree to it. If he doesn't want to see his kids go and get the custody amended. I don't think this would change his financial obligation though. If that were the case there would be a lot of men out there trying to get out of paying because they are choosing to not visit their kids.
2007-06-29 09:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by Hockeyfan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You writing such a letter would be mortgage fraud. Also, you are BOTH in contempt of the court order.
Tell him no. And if you really don't need the money then put it in trust for the children's college.
By the way, even if you did sign such a letter it has no legal effect on support and/or custody.
2007-06-29 10:29:18 · answer #6 · answered by hexeliebe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No I would not do this. Paying to support his children is why he was ordered to pay that amount. Paying child support doesn't not mean he is paying to see his kids more. Its based on income not how much he will see them. Just because he is choosing to reduce visitation does NOT entitle him to paying less child support.
2007-06-29 09:56:31 · answer #7 · answered by lostinloveandhappy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally speaking - I would never do this, and never sign that - he is definately getting what he wants. how old are the kids? will they be at an age soon where they can decide if they want to go there or not?
Ok, I read the comment above mine- I am TOTALLY with him on this one!!! use this to YOUR advantage.
2007-06-30 03:31:27 · answer #8 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why should your children go without support so he can have a house for his new wife:? Do NOT SIGN ANYTHING MAKE HIM PAY THOSE KIDS THEIR SUPPORT, HE'S A LOW LIFE. YEA GO BACK TO COURT AND DON'T RETURN ANYTHING TO HIM THAT IS YOUR KIDS MONEY AND YOURS TO HELP YOUR CHILDREN...PUT IT IN BAK ACCOUNTS FOR THEM ,,, AND LET COURT KNOW WHAT HE IS DOING.
2007-06-29 09:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by joyce s 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋