I have been seeing my boyfriend for about a month now, but i havent told him i am ts yet. I am scared of ruining everything, and i am sick of being told i am a liar for not telling him. I wanted him to get to know me first. He is my first real relationship. Im 20, he's 22, and we like each other loads, he rings me everyday for a natter about anything. But i know this cant go on forever, i know i have to tell or break, and i want to do neither....
2007-06-29 09:15:49 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I am assuming you mean female to male.
You haven't told him yet? That means you haven't been that intimate (sex) with him yet.
After he recovers from the shock when he sees that you are still male equipped, he could very well beat the crap out of you.
You had better make up your mind to tell him - and soon (preferably in a very public place). I don't mean to scare you but there have been many documented cases of a TS being seriously hurt - even killed - by someone they deceived into thinking they were a born female.
There is, of course, the slight possibilty that he may find that your are TS somewhat appealing. Regardless - you MUST tell him.
2007-06-29 09:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by nycguy10002 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Honesty is always going to be the best policy here. There are plenty of men and women (myself included) who are perfectly willing to accept a post-op TS lover at face value.
In my opinion this should always be disclosed before a relationship becomes "romantic" or "physical". Because if you don't then you are running the risk that someone will feel that they have been deceived and they may react in a violent way. This would put you at personal risk...
Frankly you surely want someone who can love you for who you really are rather than some idiot who is going to pass moral judgement on you when they know nothing about what you have been through!
2007-07-01 06:06:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhmmm...I understand the issues here and your reluctance, but you do have to tell him. I wouldn't say you're a liar, but if he doesn't know who you really are - physically, spiritually, emotionally, or any other way - you may be living a lie...
Find a way and a time to tell. It will be extremely hard, and it may not end the way you wish, but you owe it to yourself to be real.
2007-06-29 16:20:42 · answer #3 · answered by Steve S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you see the Crocodile Dundee film when Paul Logan had to grab every woman between the legs to check she wasn't a 'you know what'. You don't want your boyfriend doing that to every prospective girlfriend do you...tell him ASAP.
2007-06-29 17:08:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have told him right off the bat. If you tell him now chances are he won't want to be with you anymore! It's important to be honest in any relationship!
2007-06-29 16:30:42 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Sexi Man 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you have to come clean and tell the guy. Mabey he knows but is waiting on you telling him. Mabey he'll be over the moon about it. MABEY HE WANTS YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE.... its not all down sides. good luck x
2007-06-29 18:12:09 · answer #6 · answered by stevie-b-101 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is only so long you can keep up the pretense of being a 100% girl. My concern is for your safety. Please tell him soon but do it in a safe environment.
2007-06-29 16:20:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth and if he dont accept that then he aint your lover girl
2007-06-30 05:22:36 · answer #8 · answered by harrypotter040 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you'd want him to do to you if you were in his position...don't lead him on then break his heart...o girl you neeedd to tell him...you never know...please tell him before you make things worse!!
2007-06-29 16:21:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
what the hell is TS? if it is Transsexual than he should have known immediately. you may as well tell him now, and when it ends in a breakup than you can move on.
2007-06-29 16:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by warsuxdeathsux 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋