why are teenages so hard to live with theses days?

Question

my 13 teen year old dauther is unbearable sometimes it gets everyone down it doesnt matter what i do its never enough

Answer 1

'THEY' say it is their Hormones/whatever, but I know two guys that are Bro's and there is only 2 years difference in age.
And one is a nightmare and the other is a happy person nothing ever too much. So presuming boys go through this as well, it don't really make sense, regarding Hormones, think i is personality trait, and some young boys/girls want to prove they are whatever to their Ma's....good luck, try ignoring her!!!

Answer 2

I have a 14 year old girl and a 12 1/2 year old boy. Are they unbearable? At times. But most the time they're all right. I believe it's they way I raised them.

I am very direct and never pull any punches, but in the same respect I love them with all my heart. But ever since they were small - I warned them there would be boundaries and that I would never put up with teenage attitudes and will demand they're respect. It is sometimes tested - but then they suddenly get that look on their face as if to say, "Sorry - I just lost my mind for a moment".

I think our generation has done them an injustice - by basically giving them everything.

My kids live with both their parents in an upper middle class home in a beautiful community in SOCAL. They have great schools and access to everything. My fear is that when it's time to be on their own - they'll think that they are entitled to the same as they have now - without working for it.

That is the issue. Entitlement.

Answer 3

Well, to be honest your daughter, is probably someplace saying "why are parents so hard to live with"

It's hormones and just everything, I'm 16 and i under stand how she can act, and why she might be acting that way. On the other hand i can also see how your point of veiw would take on the same situation.

At that age, especially being a girl it's hard, with all the changes that you go through. Her hormones are probably jumping all over, and the way she acts is not entierly her fault.

If you get angry or upset with her, when things like this happen it makes it worse on her, she's not only totally unsure of what's going on, but she also has a parent seemingly "nagging" at her.

If you took some time to sit and talk to her about it, and maybe showed her you understand, by not getting angry/upset with her when she gets moody, things might be smoother.

Answer 4

It's called Puberty.
This process can take a year or even six years. This time period is when a child's body takes on those characteristics that define it sexually. Both males and females bodies will each take on a different shape. Puberty leads to adolescence.
Adolescence is a transitional period between childhood and adulthood. The changes of adolescence do not occur on a strict timeline; instead the changes occur at different times according to a unique internal calendar known only to the person. Adolescence can be a very difficult time. You are no longer a child, but you are not an adult yet either.

Answer 5

Teenagers have always been hard to live with. First off, your daughter is starting to deal with some crazy hormones, and her attitude isn't necessarily always her fault (but that is in no way a cover-all excuse). Also, psychologically, it's natural for teens to want to break away from their parents, or to assert their independent opinions at inopportune times. I suggest you talk to your parents, or anyone older that knew you as a teenager, to get some pointers on how they dealt with you when you were being a brat at about this age (believe me, this attitude happens to all of us). Not only would you get some tips, it could also cause you to be a little more sympathetic to what your daughter is dealing with right now.

Answer 6

I think that's normal. Especially for girls. Every girl remembers being 12-14, and it is a really tough time because there are so many horemones and changes and stuff. I am 27 and pregnant, and I can honestly say that my emotional ups and downs of being pregnant along with all of the physical changes doesn't even hold a candle to the stuff I was going thru at that age. So basically just wait it out, it won't be that bad forever. She just needs time and space and a bit of understanding. :)

Answer 7

I am 15. I make my families life hell. I know I do it but I don't stop. We have a lot of hormones, alot of pressure from school and everything is changing. It's just a stage. It's mostly girls. Just stay away from her and don't let it upset you.
Understand that what you do is apprieciated even if she doesn't show you. She would miss everything you did for her if you didn't do it.
If it gets out of control, stop. Don't do anything for her for a few days. It will show her how much you do for her. My mum did it, it made me respect her more. But I still don't get on with her. It will change. The only thing you can do is wait.
Sorry, I wish we weren't like this but we can't help it.

Answer 8

theres alot going on now then there was say 15 or 20 or more years ago. Theres being sucked into living up to an unrealistic body ideal, popularity, being rushed to grow up too fast, prepubescent promiscuity and living up to it, incredible brutality to those who are different, cutting, and diseases that wont just go away with a pill, cream, or whatever and of course the opposite sex. I think that would be enough to make anyone caught in the middle of it (that would be teenagers) a little irritable.

Answer 9

I know the feeling!! I got three teenagers and a little one under 10. I just cope by trying to remember how hard it was for me to cope with all the changes I experienced at that age and think of what and how I would have liked my parents to have dealt with my issues. Tough I know, but you will come out the other end and so will she. Just try to remember that she is stuck in a difficult place - between childhood and womanhood - and needs all your love and support. Deep breaths and good luck xxxx

Answer 10

Its just the way they were raised up until this point, and how theyre treated every day.

Kids only put out what they take in. They might try new things, but its the parents job to not allow what they dont want in them.

It sucks, but its the hard truth. Teenagers are more work than newborns.