is it too late for an abortion?

Question

I am 13weeks pregnant this weekend, is it too late for an abortion? Is it right. Me and my boyfriend don't get on, he hates me,always putting me down. I am a theatre nurse started the job in april, no family near by. missed lots of time, due to pregnancy. need to work, but got so many problems, wanted it to work with my boyfriend, he seemed happy about the pregnancy, now he just wants rid.

Answer 1

Talk to a doctor, they will be able to let you know if it's too late. Whether it's right or not it's a matter of opinion. In the future, take care of yourself.

Answer 2

Please don't make your desision over how your relationship is with your boyfriend.
Think about the baby you have growing inside you.
What if you have an abortion and then things work out with your boyfriend anyway?

I had an abortion 5 years ago when I was 6 weeks pregnant while going out with my ex. Now I'm married and have a beautiful 5 month old baby and tonight before I was going to give him a bath I was tickling him and he's got the cutest little giggle and it's times like that when I look at him and think, that could have been him, I killed a little person and didn't give them a chance in life.

13 weeks isnt too late for an abortion, but really think about what your doing. Having a baby is life changing and absolutely amazing. You'll get through it if you decide to keep it.

Good luck - honestly. x

Answer 3

You need to make the decision that is the best for you, especially if you don't feel like you will be with your boyfriend much longer. Bringing up a baby on your own isn't the end of the world, plenty of single Moms (and Dads) do a brilliant job and love every minute of it. You need to have a long hard think about what you really, really want.
Speak to your Doctor about the latest time to have an abortion. Different NHS trusts have different rules. Where i live i think it is 12 weeks, but my friend wanted an abortion after this time so travelled (after being referred by her Doc) to Bournemouth to have it done.
Good luck and i hope you make the decision that is the right one for you x

Answer 4

At 13 weeks your baby is about 4 inches long and weighs up to 20 grams, about the size of a peach.

There is a heartbeat, it can be heard with a doppler. There are fingers and toes, there is external genitalia, arms, legs, ears, eyes, ears, face.

I would research fetal development to make sure you want to abort. I have many friends that aborted in highschool not knowing how developed their babies were before they aborted, they found out later when it was too late.

Women find themselves in situations like this quite often, everything falls into place once the baby arrives. You could also put the baby up for adoption if you feel abortion would be the wrong route for you.

There is so much information I want to share with you regarding abortion, but I cannot condense it into one answer.

Please email me if you need support or more information. I will help you as much as I can. Love and hugs, be happy.

You dont need a man telling you what to do with your baby and your body...tell him to shove his uglyness up his butt.

Answer 5

I don't think that it's too late, but most are done in the first 12 weeks of pregnancy and some places restrict when abortions can be done to the first trimester or first and second trimesters. Check your local family planning center or with your ob/gyn.
Is it right? Not for me, it's not. But whether it's right for you or not is your decision. Right now, you and your boyfriend are under a lot of stress. Don't make a decision lightly. Let your boyfriend know that his verbal abuse will not be tolerated. It's his child and you are the child's mother, it's your right to be treated with respect at this time.
At the start of the second trimester, you may start experiencing a drastic decrease in "morning sickness"; at least, hopefully you will.
Have you considered giving the baby up for adoption? There are many mothers who opt for open adoptions these days, if they feel that they can't care for their child. Open adoptions let you pick the child's family and negotiate how much contact, if any, you want to have with the child. I worked with a lady a few years ago who placed her son for adoption. She was in her mid-20's at the time. She just couldn't care for him and she knew that giving him to another family to raise would be best for him. She sees him about 4 times a year and gets pictures and letters from his adoptive mother at least once a month, if not more. He knows that she is his biological mother and that she loves him and that she wanted him to have the best life possible.
Find out what the cutoff date for an abortion is in your area. If you have a couple more weeks, see a counselor to help you work through your thoughts and feelings on being a mother or having an abortion, and on your relationship with the baby's father. You may need to cut him out of your life and seek child support if you chose to keep and raise the baby or ask that he sign away his parental rights so that you could place the baby with a family of your choosing at birth.

Answer 6

there are a few places that will do an abortion at this late date you will have to search for the information. some states allow up to 18 weeks i think new york is one but they are only done in some places in new york i thing Albany does them. I don't know where you live so i cant look it up for you. but get moving if you want one because the time goes quickly. and if you are too late for your area you can always do adoption just think of all the wonderful people who are looking for a baby who cant have one. they would love to have your baby. and if you ask for an open adoption you can ask for pictures and maybe even see your child once in a while.
think about your options you have to live with your decision for the rest of your life.
good luck to you

Answer 7

The practical answer is that it's not too late, but the process will be a little more painful for you than if you'd done it early on.

But the emotional answer is what's really important here. This is YOUR baby, and you seem to be hinging a whole lot about whether to keep it or not based on what your boyfriend thinks, who by your own words, hates you.

You need to stop thinking of him and start thinking of yourself and what YOU want. Ask yourself the following questions:

1) Are you prepared to support your child financially and emotionally, to give 100% of yourself to someone else who will be completely dependent on you for their needs?

2) Are you prepared to clean up the mess when your kid pukes all over the bed in the middle of the night, stay up with the crying baby until morning, and still be prepared to work the following day, on a regular basis?

3) Can you really count on your boyfriend to support this child as a father, both financially and emotionally? If not, are you fully prepared to take every legal step to MAKE him support the baby financially?

4) If your boyfriend decides to step out of the picture entirely, are you prepared to face all trials of motherhood alone, including when the infant grows into a screaming 2 year old?

5) Do you have adequate means to support the health of the child, and the resources to make sure your child is cared for during the time you need to work? Do you have the freedom to suddenly take off from work if an emergency comes up?

Think about all of this...because in all likelihood, you will have to handle most of this alone, especially since you have no family nearby and your description of your boyfriend paints him as unreliable at best.

Answer 8

its not to late and you can still have an abortion up to 22 or 24 weeks i cant remember which. however the longer you leave it the harder on you emotionally it will become. to be honest it does sound like you are trying to make excuses as to why you are having an abotion which you shouldnt do at the end of the day it is totally your decision and you should not care what others think. just remember to think long and hard about it and do whats right for you and the baby
good luck
kayleigh xx

Answer 9

You may be beyond the deadline. Have you thought about adoption? There are many couples out there who would love to have a baby- many who can't have a child on their own due to genetic reasons or infertility. I would seriously research your options. A lot of adoptive couples will pay for your medical expenses (if you're not on a medical card already) and will help give you support.

It sounds as if you realize that your boyfriend is a looser. It's better to realize that now. However, don't make your baby pay for the inability for you & your boyfriend to get along. You have just finished your first trimester & from this point on, your baby is basically formed (internal organs, brain, etc.). Give someone else a chance to love him/or her. Rethink your life to find if it's a posiblity at all that you can keep the baby. It's a decision that you must give full attention to because if you make a rash decision then you will have to live with it the rest of your life.

Good luck!

Answer 10

To late you can't just change your mind you should have thought about all the maybe's of what if's at the start of your pregnancy, and remember if you have an abortion you are killing a life, so think about it and can you live with doing that?????
Whatever you choose I hope it's the right decision for you and Good luck xx

Answer 11

You are going to get such a wide range of opinions on this question that it will be virtually impossible to figure out what is right or wrong. So I'll just say this: it is not, physically, too late to get an abortion. Whether or not it is right or wrong? That's your call. If you decide you want to have the baby, though, make sure you sue your boyfriend for support. In any case, this is why you should always use protection unless you are married. Good luck!