am i being too mean?

Question

okay everytime i get on myspace this person always messages me or send me a comment or whenever i get on myspace im they sends me a IM (& he cant get the hint i dont want to be bothered) I MEAN THEY DO THIS ALL THE TIME!!. I told this person how annoyed i get whenever they do this and i say it as nicely as i can but the person cannot get the hint. So yesterday i kinda went off on this person & told them how annoyed i am by him & i think i hurt his feelings. what should i do?

oh maybe i should have added this, i know him from school & he lives in my neighborhood.

Answer 1

What do you mean what should you do? You've done it already, be glad that you've gotten rid of him!

Now if your concerned about his feelings be hurt then just tell him that if you came off as rude or mean it really wasn't your intention and you would like to be friends, and then block him from sending you messages when your online!

Too easy.

Answer 2

Well, you tried to tell him nicely that what he was doing wasn't acceptable. When he wouldn't quit, it got to be too much for you. If you feel like you hurt his feelings, maybe you should talk to him again and tell him you didn't mean to hurt him, you just got frustrated and your feelings came out in the wrong way. But let him know that what he has been doing isn't ok with you, and he needs to stop. Hopefully he will understand. If not, just block him from your myspace page and be done with it.

Answer 3

just block him. Sometimes you have to be mean if they don't take the hint. Get used to it, you're gonna run into guys that don't respond to a polite "no thank you". If you worry about hurting their feeling you will live a very annoyed life!

Answer 4

You should probably explain yourself a bit better like saying how you were upset at him and that you are sorry for just going off on him. Tell him that you need your space and having someone there on your back every single place you are is a bit annoying. I would apoligize and if he continued doing it the best thing is just to block him... :/

Answer 5

Well if you feel sorry just send a new message but tell him with a nice language you are sorry by talking that way however many people bother you online and you get exhausted. You do not want to be mean or something but please do not IM me again..Whatever he thinks, at least you made yourself clear and you said sorry..Then do not worry because most people are really sticky..

Answer 6

if u dont want to talk to him well just say we can talk sometimes but just cut down on all the messages! tell him its kind of annoying every single day!

hope this helps

p.s if he sends u messages and comments all the time he might have a crush on u!!

Answer 7

Can't you block his address from being able to send you instant messages and save the problem of "going off" and then having to apologize afterwards?

Myspace should have the tools for you to do this.

Answer 8

Forget about it. Turning off the computer is the place to start. Find another obsession for a few months. You'll be surprised how time fixes this little mis-understanding.

Answer 9

I dont think you were being mean... You just told him how you felt. But it never hurts to apoligize. Just tell him you didnt mean to blow up at him, but you dont want him sending you IMs all the time and talking to you all the time....

hope that helped
-Mandaa

Answer 10

Hey , you have the right to feel the way you do ! Just let him know before it gets to the point of having to hurt his feelings. Then if he keeps on after youve been nice let him have it .