I may have posted this before, but story is, I was married for a few years, then she cheated and got knocked up by another man. She left me for him. He wound up beating her bloody and leaving her. She cried my ears off begging me to take her back, which I still will not do, but out of the goodness of my heart I let her stay in my house to get her act together, for 3 months. The whole time, she tried to rekindle that which is simply dead, and at the end, she left very spitefully. It's been a couple more months, and she's begun it all over again, trying to rekindle a love that's just dead. I applied for a restraining order but was denied. What can I do?
2007-06-29 06:31:10 · 14 answers · asked by idigitaldestiny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
move, change your number
2007-06-29 06:33:54 · answer #1 · answered by Tif 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Man, I almost feel sorry for her. She's scared and she knows just how badly she messed up. However, I can't say as I blame you for feeling like you do.
If moving isn't possible, and your restraining order was denied, I would suggest changing your phone number as soon as you can. It sucks, but if she is really bothering you that much, it will be worth it to do. Other than that, I would say that you have to ignore her as much as possible. You can't give her ANY reason to think that you might love her again. I get that you let her back out of the kindness in your heart, but to her that means that you want her back full time.
Good luck, bro
2007-06-29 13:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, u need to be straight forward and honest. Don't yell at her, but be firm) don't 'beat around the bush' either...saying sumthing like, "maybe...' 'i guess....' u know....Ur mind is set and make sure u let her know that u will not change ur mind. Tell her to just leave u alone, quit crying, quit calling, and move on. Remember, she brought this onto herself. If u have to, change ur phone number, or move outta ur home and move to the other side of town, if u have to. (obviously, don't tell her u moved or where too, also, tell ur friends not to tell her or any of her friends)don't give her attention. if she calls neway, ignore it....don't answer, sooner or later it'll sink in. hey and if it's possible, block her on ur cell and/or home phone, plus, if u and her got yahoo messenger or msn, block her there too.
2007-06-29 13:42:06 · answer #3 · answered by omglikenoway 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is live your life and make sure she knows that you are not interested anymore. If she persists, have her charged with stalking or at the least get the police to visit her and tell her to leave you alone of they Will arrest her, that should be enough,. if not, tell a judge you are in fear for your life and they have to issue a restraining order.
2007-06-29 13:35:17 · answer #4 · answered by Frank L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she is very persistent. I don't understand why they wouldn't give you a restraining order. Have you told her simply that you do not love her and do not want to date her? If so maybe you could go to some members of her family and ask them for help.
2007-06-29 13:41:34 · answer #5 · answered by hootie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Civil Restraining orders are tough to get unless there is physical violence (not advocating...just stating a fact)...Stop taking her calls...stop answering the door...stop any and all contact with her...if she comes to your house and you don't come to the door and she stays out there...call the police...change your phone numbers first though...she will eventually get the message...Its sweet what you did for her...and I get it...but enough is enough...she needs to get help from someone...just someone else...like a professional who can help her sort through the abuse she endured...
2007-06-29 13:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by sharpie68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make it very clear to her that you do not love her anymore. she made the choice to cheat. she left you she made a mistake she lost you. its as easy as that. tell her if she continues this you will get a restraining order. P.S the i dont love you anymore part plays a HUGE role in the conversation good luck!
2007-06-29 13:36:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would try to file for another restraining order and just come out and tell her, and change your number.
2007-06-29 13:35:51 · answer #8 · answered by cabbagepatchgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice what you are doing for her, but suggest that she sees someone for counseling and make sure she truly is working to get back on her own feet. It won't be easier if she's depending on you. In this case, you shouldn't be friends either, because there will be too much pressure.
2007-06-29 13:34:41 · answer #9 · answered by Surya S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact is you have no children with her so it is very easy. Change your numbers, move if you can. Dont return any of her phonecalls and or emails!
2007-06-29 13:34:31 · answer #10 · answered by Tia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart.
2007-06-29 13:35:26 · answer #11 · answered by ted j 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋