How can I talk more softly and less bossy because by nature I am loud mouthed and kind of proud ?

Answer 1

Your description of yourself reminds me much of my little sister. She is loud and bossy. When she walks into a room, you can almost see the whole room light up. When we were younger, this used to get on my nerves. However, she is who she is and where she is today because she was so proud... and loud... and bossy. She's a beautiful person, inside and out, and I wouldn't have her any other way.

You said you were 'proud'. Why change?

Answer 2

Most of the time, loud people are bad listeners too. I hope knowing there are others just like me, proud (because they have a reason to be so) and bossy by nature for whatever reasons, will help you to stop and listen to others. In listening, we learn. As we learn, we become more humble and less proud also, more silent! Try walking with a bowl full of water and a bowl half filled with water. The one half filled with water is more noisy :-) Its easier said than done, so I understand, walking in the same shoes, trying to better myself!

Answer 3

Take a deep breath before saying a word. Slowly exhale and outline in your mind what you wish to express. Keep breathing, in case you are blonde:)-and speak your mind. I find slowing down helps A LOT-even though remembering to slow down is the hardest part. I get loud when I get into what I am saying and sometimes waiting just a few seconds can mean the difference between yelling and smiling as I speak. Also, trying to remember that you don't have to convince people, just inform them of your ideas and then let silence be your guide.

Answer 4

Just looking at the wording in the question, it doesn't seem like the way you speak bothers you. I mean to say that it seems like some one else has told you that your voice, dialect, etc . . . is something that you should change.
If you are a certain way by nature, (as you put it) you should not try and change yourself. If some one else that you are around has a problem with you or your mannerisms, just let them know that you are just being yourself and it is in no way meant to offend any one.
Keep being true to your nature and don't worry about it. You can't change who you are and be comfortable with yourself.

If you are not being rude, obnoxious, or anything in that is socially unacceptable, just let people adjust to who you are and get to know you.

Answer 5

Spend a day with my grandson's gf. You'll see, first hand, how dreadful it is to be around someone who is loud and bossy. It should make you quieter by the end of the day. Come to think of it-I could hire her out. At least she'd be doing something useful.

Answer 6

Remember humility. As others have stated in their answers, you need to keep in mind that you are only one person and that your accomplishments and feelings are small in comparison to the big picture. Also, think about why you have this type of personality and what you can do to change it rather than looking at it as something to control. With hard work people can change their nature for the better.

Answer 7

cause no matter what, someone is better at the things you do. no ones perfect. somewhere on this earth someone is smarter, faster, better looking, better EVER THING! If you keep that in mind that might humble you. being proud is a virtue and also a downfall. to much of anything is bad, even drinking too much water can kill you. that's your personality and you are the only one capable of changing it. do what you feel is right but gaining someones respect i think is most important. if people respect you they won't care how you speak because they respect your opinion and ideas. respect people and understand people and they will respect and understand you.

Answer 8

Punch yourself everytime you catch yourself doing it. It will trigger a conscious method in your brain that everytime you talk loud, it causes pain. You don't have to do it hard, just enough to get your attention. After a week, you won't have to do it anymore, you will have trained yourself to not talk loud. It is called negative reinforcement, which sounds bad, but actually works quite well. It is kind of like Pavlov's dog, but that is called positive reinforcement.

Answer 9

Try not to get so involved in what you are saying. I have the same problem and i know it may sound stupid, but i find that if i try not to feel as much while i am talking then it dosen't come out as loud. i decide what i am going to say, then i relax before i say it.

Answer 10

Try walking in the person's shoes. To be proud and not brash is the way to go.