what should i say to my mom?

Question

me, my mom, and my older sister were having a conversation:
sis- how can you save more money on food?
mom- get your boyfriend to pay for it.
me- he does, when we go out. i offer to pay, but he says he wouldn't feel right.
sis- how come she gets the sweet guy?
mom- don't worry it's not gonna last.

me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 6 months now, and we love each other alot. what should i say to my mom? i thought that was completely rude, and i'm very upset about it.

btw: i'm 18, sis is 21

Answer 1

At this time I don't think you should say anything. To say anything would only escalate the harsh feelings your mother has towards you. Yes it was unjustified for her to say something like that. But, you will be the bigger of the two to not acknowledge her insensitivity.

The day you and your bf, get married. You can stand in front of the entire group of loved ones, and say to them all.

Though some may not have thought we would have worked out, I stand before you today, and introduce you to my friend, my husband, the love of my life. May all of you find a love as great as mine, and sit down.

But, do not tell your bf. This should be something you keep to yourself. It would only anger him, and could cause problems in the future.

I have found it always best, to know who your enemies are, and keep a distance from them. Waiting for the best time to bust them in the cops verbally when they can't speak up without embarrassing themselves.
GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 2

Try telling your mom in the most mature way possible that she hurt your feelings. She's your mom and you need her support. Don't sound snippy or disrespectful or the conversation won't go well at all. It sounds like you really care about what your mom thinks (that will probably never change, I'm in my 30's and still need my mom's approval). Just talk it out, hopefully she'll understand.
The chances of your relationship lasting ~are~ pretty slim....but maybe ask her to find a different way of expressing her concern for you.

Answer 3

She is just looking out for you and doesn't want you to get hurt, at the same time she might be jelouse because more of your attention is towards him than her so maybe deep down shes hoping it doesn't last, No matter what follow your heart and don't let anyone else tell you different. You best bet is to just ignore the commet unless others follow later down the line than it would be a good idea to ask her out for lunch and tell her it hurts your feelings she might just laugh it off and tell you she was joking.
Good Luck

Answer 4

um no offense it is you mother and i don't really know how exactly she said either of the lines but that was really rude and mean.
A mother who advices a guy pay for food to save money and says its not gonna work out just cause your bf of 6 months is paying is just plain rude. Tell her she was out of line to say such a thing, just based on his spending habits! if she just said jokingly to console your sister, tell her that it really upset your feelings. Talk it out, best of luck

p.s. my boyo pays too and he's promising life long commitment even though we're just 18. I really dont think paying means its not gonna last :)

Answer 5

I think you should ask your mom why she would say something like that.
Maybe she's saying that so your 21 yr old sister won't feel so bad. Lets face it, she's older and you're the one that's been in a 6 mo relationship, she's gotta be hurting for that.
Any ways talk to her about it and let her know you got upset with her comment.
"Us moms sometimes speak with out thinking"

Answer 6

Tell her flat out how it made you feel. my mother is the same way, no relationship I have will last or is good to her. But she herself is on her 4th marriage so I stopped giving a rat's behind about her opinion and yeah we don't have the closest relationship but it's better than listening to her put me down, I've told her off about it and our comfort level now is just to leave the other be and we talk about once a month as a courtesy

Answer 7

You mom is just a bitter old woman! How dare she say somthing so out of line to you. She should be happy you have nice boyfriend instead she is waiting for the day when he is an @ss to you!
I think you need to confront her and ask her why in the hell she said something like that to you!

Answer 8

that's just her being a mom....she didnt mean no harm by it... but she isnt there around the 2 of you 24/7 so she doesnt know how deep your feelings are for eachother. What you should do is say hey mom, that comment really did hurt my feelings, i know it hasnt been long but i really really like him and know he feels the same for me....I want you to back me up cause in the moment right now i'm happy and I'd like you to see the good that I see in him too..... :)

Answer 9

I guess she thought that you weren't quite ready to have a relationship to were you'd be thinkning about marriage. I guess she thinks it won't last to marriage.. if that's what you want. Tell her how you feel about him and ask her why she said that. Tell her it really hurt you how she said that. And tell her that tons of mothers would love to have their daughter dating a guy like yours. Ask her if she'd rather have you date someone that didn't pay for your outings and whatnot.

That should really change her mind.

You've got a great guy, there, it sounds like=]

Answer 10

Just ignore it. You are probably young, I am assuming, and sometimes relationships at that age don't last. In retrospect you will understand. The best thing you can do right now is just ignore your mother's comments, because surprisingly enough they usually know what they are talking about.