i need help!, im only 18 and im starting to feel myself attracted to women and not men anymore does that mean im a lesbian? because everytime i see a girl i feel very attracted to her! lesbian women plz help me!
2007-06-29 04:20:35 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
What, EVERY girl you see? That's a bit odd...
You may well be gay, or you might be bisexual. There's no need to panic, is there? Take your time and enjoy it for what it is. try and relax. You'll work it out much easier that way. we can't work it out for you.
2007-06-29 04:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by Wild About Harry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like there are a few people telling you what to do here or telling you who you are. My advice is simply to find out for yourself. You're an adult, so you can do what you want.
If you live in a city that has access to a university, call them and ask if they have a Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual club. Most of them do, usually referred to as the Lambda Society, but they can have other names. Go to their meetings and talk with them. They won't judge you, as most of them have been judged their whole lives so it's a great environment and if nothing else you will make a few friends.
If you don't have access to that, then try snagging some media that will help you understand what the "lesbian" culture is like. Books like "Girl Walking Backwards" by Bett Williams, or the movie "The Incredibly True Adventure of Two Girls in Love". Exposure to the culture will help you understand if it is something you are interested in. And even if you decide it's not for you, then you still will have learned something more about people.
2007-06-29 04:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by Dominus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sweetie you could deff be a lesbian if not just bi. I however have been interested in woman since I was little I always found them atractive but i was too scared to act on it, well now im 20 and im married have been with the man 4 years. 2 months ago i met a girl who was bi and we started a relationship, I loved it! There is no feeling better than that you share with a woman!!! Me and the girl didnt work out, were still friends and could possibly, im hoping everyday get back together, she left us because her ex came back and proposed... its a long story, bad deal. but I still love her!!
If you find woman atractive I hope you dont hold it in like i did, you need to get out there and experiment some. I love my husband but its woman I want to be with, my family knows now that im interested in woman cause I feel like htats what my future will be is with a woman.
I wish you the best of luck!!! also a great lesbian site I love to go to is www.melswebs.com its my fav. you can talk about anything there goodluck hon!!! you can send me a message at angelina_c_2001 on YIM anytime if you need someone to talk to!
2007-06-30 17:28:34 · answer #3 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you attracted to women sexually? Open your mind to the possibility for a second. Does being intimate with another women turn you on? What about having an actual relationship with a woman? Also, take a look at the word and its meaning for a second. If you're exclusively attracted to women then you're gay. Simple as that.
2007-06-29 14:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there such a thing as a lesbian man? I'm just curious cause you've stated that you need help from "lesbian women only" twice... Are lesbian men, straight men then? I'm a bit confused and it seems you are too... Perhaps your horomones are just racing, if it's EVERY woman you see that's driving you wild. You need to answer your own question, but if you are only attracted to women, you might be a "lesbian woman" then :)
2007-06-29 04:27:35 · answer #5 · answered by Jyse 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are very young....your feelings must be coming from somewhere..take your time and explore..but don't put any labels on yourself just yet. See if this is the lifestyle for you ...or if this is just something you want to do for fun and get out of your system. You might just be sexually attracted..but not want to date women. See where you stand. Good Luck!
2007-06-29 04:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear, it sounds like you could definitely be a lesbian (being at the normal age and all) if not bisexual.
could i just ask you to hold out a bit
we've got an infestation of wrestlers who will probably mock you and your questions (they're not fundamentalists, but they're annoying nonetheless)
once they're gone i'm sure this will all be less confusing as you'll know for sure that you're getting all the lesbians to help you and not these fake lesbians (trapped in men's bodies as they are)
speak to you later
2007-06-29 04:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by Kariana S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a lez but I'd like to answer your quesiton anyway if I may?
A)You're 18- your personality won't freeze for the rest of your life until you're about 25 or 26- so you've still got 4 to 7 more personality changes before its permanent.
B)Its normal for you to be curious about memebers of the same sex- it happens, its a part of life.
C)The odd's of you becoming "bi" is about 2%, and the odds of you becoming "lez" is about 4%- these are the straight stastics.
Good Luck
2007-07-06 11:11:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear Cydneyheygirl,
Let me get all this straitened out in my head… You get turned on by women… and not by boys? Hmmmm That’s a tuff one.
Girl there is NOT a dang thing wrong with being who you are. Save yourself YEARS of grief. Fighting with someone you don’t love. Find a nice woman... That loves you... and settle down.
Hugs and the best of luck in your life,
PennyAnn
2007-06-29 04:39:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you exclusively attracted to women? Then you'd be a lesbian.
If you are attracted to both women and men, then you'd be bisexual.
2007-06-29 09:14:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋