here's the thing I have two friends that went through horror experiences with getting the depo shots to the point there were hospitalized and mind you they are in better health then me. My boyfriend is pressuring me to get the depo but I don't want to jeapordize my health, all 'cause this man act like he don't want to strap on a condomn.....he had distance himself from me, didn't pick his phone up until recently im like we have to agree to disagree he won't even agree to disagree...he keep himself distance so im like look its up to u if u want to break up with me over this or not...and he refuses to give me a straight answer......tell me world am I wrong for not letting him control my body? and what do u think of his behavior?
2007-06-29 04:15:23 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Speaking from experience, I had the depo provera shot when I was 16 vuntil I was 19 and it is the absolute worse kind of BC there is.I gained sooooo much weight and it was hard as hell to get it off.Also it cause me to have terrible stomach cramps and it was almost unbearable so tell your man to kiss it hon.For real U can do so much better than that.If he doesn't want to use a condom then just end it because U don't deserve to go through the pain and anguish of that shot.I've been there and it's no fun!!!Good Luck!!
2007-06-29 04:23:36 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK first OF DEPO=BAD i was in perfect shape excellent health when i was 16 my mom put me on depo i loved it for the first 6 months then i started to gain ALOT OF weight i mean alot because it incresses ur appetite to make up for the hormones it loses because of the fact that u no longer have ur period it makes u tired and misserable and as for ur bf Tell him u will do as u please its your body and u have every right to it to say what u do or dont do with it and if he dont like it tell him where he can find the door he has no say over your BODY hes just ur bf nothing more that doesnt mean he has a right to tell u what to do SO SHOW HIM THE DOOR and move on if ur loking into birth control try ORTHO EVRA the patch i love it u still have ur period but it reduces cramps and U only have to change it once a week u do 3 weeks on and 1 week off u can decide when u have ur period its AWSOME look into it and make sure u tel him U WILL DO AS U PLEASE HE HAS NO SAY Hope this helps *muah * Hope things get better for u u seem like a level headed girl keep it up
2007-06-29 11:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by Babypooh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there....I had the depo shot a few years ago. For some women it's great. For me, it wasn't. After I got the shot, I basically bled for 3 months straight. It actually brought on my period and it didn't go away for 3 months. That was a side effect of the shot. Your b/f is wrong to tell you to do this. He just doesn't want to wear condom. Just for that reason alone, I would'nt trust him, depo shot prevents pregnancy, not STD's. Chances are, if he doesn't like condoms, then he hasn't used them with other partners. Even if you do decide to get the depo shot, and he doesn't want to use condoms, I would make him get tested. Good Luck!
2007-06-29 11:22:45 · answer #3 · answered by KatiesMommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like that your bf is a major A hole. You are right its your body and YOU should do with it what you want. If you dont want to take the depo shot then don't. Sounds to me that he just wants have sex with you without protection and that sounds fishy to me.
If he doesn't respect your decision about protected sex then hunny, sorry to say, but i think you should dump him. You deserve someone who will respect you in every way. Get rid of that loser and find someone who will respect every decision you make about your own body
Good luck and kudos for you for remaining to have safe sex, cause who knows what could happen
2007-06-29 12:16:25 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Drop his ***! He sounds too immature for you anyways! If any guy is not willing to care for your body the way you do.. then he needs to kick rocks. He just has no respect for you.. you are a big girl and can make your own decisions.. there are so many guys out there who are so much better than this guy. Dont force yourself to be in a situation in which you may get pregnant with a guy he treats you like his property!!! RUN AND FAST!! :)
2007-06-29 11:21:29 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a jerk!
And, uh, I tried Depo back in college. I absolutely hated it. I had spotting every single day, I gained weight, and much of my hair fell out!
Please dump that guy. I'm sure he'll have some new ultimatum for you next week.
2007-06-29 11:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by nellbelle7 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think that it is time you be the bigger person in this deal and tell him that its either you or nothin at all. if he cant accept the fact that you dont want to do somethin then he needs to go.. its your body and life not his... you do what you want with it, not him.. so if he has a problem with your decision then there is something wrong with him.. not you. i know that would be a hard decision to make but its your life so you choose how to live it. i hope that everything works out for you two for the better.
2007-06-29 11:36:59 · answer #7 · answered by blueberry 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are correct in not wanting that shot.
He has no right to pressure you into taking a drug you do NOT want in your body.
He is being disrespectful.
Since he is unwavering in his demands I would break it off with him, as it sounds like he does not love you enough to let you make a decision about your body and your health.
2007-06-29 11:32:06 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no this is your body,and don't let a man tell you what to do. but on the other hand i'm pretty sure he doesn't want kids right now that is. why not try pills, then that way you will be comparmising with him, not just giving in to something you don't want. i take pills that allow me to have a perios every 3 months it's great!!!, also explain to him the the shot makes you gain wieght! no girl wants to gain! the pills i take are called seasonal, or seasonque, one is the generic. mention this to your doctor, plus no one wants a shot! good luck
2007-06-29 11:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by I Love my Baby Girl 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
dump him - he's not the one who has to deal with the horrible, life-threatening side effects.
Does he know sometimes depot sometimes causes you to have your period for weeks or months at a time? That'll make him think twice!
Maybe you should be open to taking a pill form - they're usually much safer. Maybe something like Ortho Cyclen?
He's right that you should be safe, but he should also be willing to do his part. BCP's aren't always effective, tell him you'll take the pill but he still has to wear a rain jacket if he wants to come out and play.
Sounds like a compromise to me. If he doesn't like it, tell him to get lost
2007-06-29 12:13:20 · answer #10 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋