I have been with the same guy for 6 years he has done some time in jail and everytime it gets harder and harder we have two kids and i want him to be apart of thier lives and i would also like to have one more (with him) but he hasn't been a really good influance in my life or that great of a father he keeps telling me he will change (but past experance hasn't proven that to be true) i love him so much and am feeling bad for even thinking about giving up! and i'm scared cause I don't think i will ever find someone that will love me and accept his kids and love them the way i do!? HELP
2007-06-29 03:36:34 · 5 answers · asked by It's ME surprise 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I highly recommend counseling girl! A counselor will help you process all this crap.
I has been with a man that was in and out of jail and I loved him dearly. I went to a counselor and it helped me tremendously. I was able to live my life and not put all my energy into him. I gained strength. I realized I was enable him. I let go and made him process is actions for himself and it worked. He grew up and became more of a better citizen. I have him 2 choses............get his **** together or it was over. He was great for a couple of years and ended up back in jail. I walked and my life has never been better.
2007-06-29 04:37:26 · answer #1 · answered by aintlifegrand 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lose the loser. If you're wanting to find "the one", you sure aren't going to find someone decent if you're still with him. And, the key is NOT LOOKING. It always seemed like the times when I was looking for a good guy was the precise times I found the men who weren't worth my time. I had gone through a 2 or 3 of them and decided I was done with dating...done! About 3 months later, I met my husband. Odd way, I was pumping gas. We've now been married for almost 6 years.
My other concern with your situation is that the children are going to learn that how he lives, treats you and treats them is a normal way of going through life. I wouldn't want that to be something my children adopted as normal behavior for their adult lives.
Good luck! ;)
2007-06-29 10:47:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you WILL find someone else if you are willing to look. It is time to leave. YOU said it yourself, he is NOT going to change. Think about what it is doing to the kids.
2007-06-29 10:40:30 · answer #3 · answered by Yes I am here!! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What on earth makes you think he actually loves or cares for you and his kids??? Please help yourself make a life for you and your children.
2007-06-29 10:47:22 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just try talking to him and ell him how u feel
2007-06-29 10:41:00 · answer #5 · answered by cherry 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋