The other woman......?

Question

How many of you are "the other woman"? And who has been or is still a victim of "the other woman" I read something in essance magazine about this. I was just wondering....What goes on in the realtionship and why do you choose to do this? How does the husband really feel about his wife and you? Are you in love with each other? And what can we as wives and future wives do to insure that our hubbys don't step out on us?

Answer 1

As far as the "other women", they are home wrecking sluts! How can you love someone that's mistreating their wife? Because they are home wrecking sluts!

All that goes on is a bunch of secrets and underhanded games to keep the unwitting spouse in the dark. The money that's being wasted on the "home wrecking sluts" should be getting spent on the spouse, children or family.

They do it (when they find out the spouse is married) because they are "home wrecking sluts!" No one with a conscious would continue to involve themselves in a relationship like that unless they were a heartless, sou less demon.

What can be done to prevent it? Keep your pistol oiled up and your straight razor at the ready (Joke). Really, a good way to keep your spouse from cheating is to keep them as the apple in your eye. Make sure you remain theirs. Keep people you feel that can be a threat out of the picture. Make sure the both of you continue to do things TOGETHER not just be at the same place but have fun doing it.

Answer 2

Nothing can be done...there is no golden rule that a woman or a man can follow to insure that their spouse doesn't step out on them.
I've been on both sides. The other woman and had a spouse who cheated. And no two affairs are alike. They are just the same as any relationship. Some you love some you don't. You can't generalize infidelity any more than you can generalize men or women.
And no one exactly chooses to be unfaithful, its just that lust carries you away and you give into it. They don't say oh, what a beautiful day, lets see, I need to make a to do list today.
1. take the dog to the vet.
2. get hair cut
3. get some strange
4. p/u dry cleaning.
Usually the more a person is dissatisfied in a relationship, the lesser their conviction to stay faithful becomes.

Answer 3

YOU ASKED so I will HONESTY answer..Like it or not it's true

I was once the other woman..which I know is bad and yes I fell for him hard and he loved me.I know he loved me when he started taking me on business trips and business parties...I finally knew he really wanted me, when his wife found out about him buying me a house..

His wife and I both knew about eacother. We lived in the same city. He spent 5 days & nights with me. She(the wife) never asked for a divorce. He also never asked for a divorce, honestly that did not bother me because i didn't want him to divorce.I knew that if he divorced, he would want to marryme and honestly i would not want him for a husband. I knew that his wife was hurting but I could not leave him alone because i loved him..what i really loved was the S*ex, he was the best..To this day I have not found a MAN that pleases me in bed like he did....

I decided to leave him because his wife once came to my house and we had a WOMAN to WOMAN talk..She cried and I cried. I decided to leave her husband. I realized as she spoke to me that she loved him more than i ever could..Because she sopke to me with respected..I realized the hurt I was causing to the family. I felt so bad and dirty..SInce that day i have sworn to never date any taken no matter what..that was a wake up call..

Sometimes I miss him so much..He is still trying to get back with me..I promised his wife that i will never let him in my life again and I intend on keeping my promise...

It was part of my life..But I take it as a good lesson in my life..I look at things differently now....

I just want to be strong and not let him win me over.....I must say...When I miss him I cry a lot....

Answer 4

the othe woman...will always be JUST THAT..the "other women"...not important....usually Karma bites them in the behinds...
Keep an openmind with your husbands, being able to communicate and let you know if they find somebody attractive or what are their fantasies and you listening like one of the guys and keeping an open mind without being a jealous crazy person matters ALOT!, communicate your feelings, keep things spicey, sex,sex,sex....alone time, date nights, vacations are refreshing....spend time with other couples as opposed to you going out alone and your hubby going out alone...all the time..those things should be a once in a while thing. Give him his space but don't be too naive.

Answer 5

there are things that arrive that we try to fifth but we are so week we can`t do anythings. am falling in love to a married woman am still hesitate to step in her cause am divide into 2 .my education don`t allow me to do this , my heart want to go forward

Answer 6

You shouldn't be concerning yourself with other people's life or marriages....It's sad to say but, yes there are woman who are probably experiencing this exact thing in their homes right now....but, as long as you are not the "other" woman or allow yourself to be in that situation then thats all that should be your concern.....

Answer 7

Treat him well in and out of the bedroom.

Be quick with his coffee and paper in the morning and his cocktail when he arrives home.

Answer 8

If the wife would please their man in the bedroom, then he would have no need, want or energy to find or be with another woman.

Answer 9

Yeah there's nothing worse than a woman being with a man she knows is married!!!!! Except for the man that's with her!!!!

Answer 10

There is nothing worse than a tr@mp that hooks up with your man KNOWING he is with you....grrrr gets on my nerves