I had a Miscarriage!!!?

Question

I was 7 weeks pregnant and im sure that i had a miscarriage, i have been to the hospital a few times and the doctors confirmed it for me. I had really heavy bleeding, clotting, and the worst pains of my life. Anyways im not sure how i am suppose to feel.. I actually feel lost.... I know there are women out there who have gone through what i am going through, and i was just wondering if someone could give me some advice... How long does the pain last? How long do you bleed for? How long did u wait till u had sex again? Just the basis questions like that? Any advice would be really helpfull to me right now.. Thanks...

Answer 1

I just wanted to say I am sorry. I have nothing to offer you wont hear else where. Take care of your self friend.

Answer 2

Hey- first of all sorry for your loss. I miscarried my first child at 8 weeks. It's been two years and emotionally you do get better. Everybody's different of course, but I no longer feel sadness when I think of if-just a mild curiousity at times when I wondered what he/she would be like and they age they would be now. I do have a 10 month old now tho so I'm sure that's made it a little easier. My pain only lasted a few days and it seemed I bled for a week and a half. I had sex again as soon as the bleeding and pain were gone-but used protection for 2 months as that's what the doctor suggested. Best of luck to you! God bless.

Answer 3

My condolences for your loss. It is very sad that a little life was lost, and I'm sorry to hear of it.
The physical pain willl last for a couple weeks, getting much less in a few days. The bleeding will stop in about four and may spot for another couple weeks. You can have sex again in a month if everything is clear, but it's not a good idea to get pregnant again (no matter how much you want to) because the body was shocked and the next pregnancy will be hard. (No one told me that and I got preggers four months later and hemorrhaged until I was put on bed rest. I had a baby boy.) If you can stand it, wait a year to try again.
There are support groups out there-- I believe under the name of Lost Angels--so do a search and contact them. It's good to have lots of support as this time.
Hope I helped a little.

Answer 4

When I was 18, I miscarried at around 8 weeks. It was terrible and I was a mess. The physical recovery is basically the same as if you carried full-term. Usually around 6 weeks full recovery. Very important not to use tampons or have sex until a follow up to make sure you are safe from infection.

You will feel lost for a while but eventually you will come to realize that everything happens for a reason, even bad stuff. In my case, I am divorced from my ex-husband who was the father. I was due in February 1993. Well if I hadn't lost that baby when I did, I may not have my existing 13 year old daughter and life might have been way different. She was conceived around when the one I lost was due so things happen mysteriously.

A site you can use, that my sister-in-law uses since she lost her baby, which she miscarried but was too far along to just let go on its own so she had to have it delivered, is http://www.dailystrength.org .

Good luck and please talk to someone if you need to let it out. It helps to talk to people. I'll be thinking of you.

Answer 5

I am sorry for your lost. You with feel that sense of lost. It will pass with time. I actually just went through the same thing about 6 months ago. The physical pain will probably only last no more than two weeks, any more go back to your doctor. You can have sex as soon as you want. Just remember they do not recommend that you get pregnant again for about six months. Just remember that things happen for a reason in life and sometimes they suck. Once again i am sorry for you loss, and Good luck in the future.

Answer 6

Well, Im very sorry!!
When I was 17 I miscarried!
I was about 5 months along when I all of a sudden started {bleeding} badly, The cramps were so bad I fell to the floor. It was horrible!!! Im telling you If you miscarried YOU KNOW IT!!!
The pain goes away about a week or so, but emotionally it wont!
It will subside a little after a few days, so you can deal with it.

Answer 7

In Oct of last year, I miscarried at 14 weeks. Losing your child is one of the most painful things any mother has to go threw, and for that my heart goes out to you. Everyone deals with the loss of their child in their own way, in whatever way helps them cope with the fact that they loss a part of themselves. It took me 6 months to not cry whenever I saw a newborn child or when I heard the "Buckaroo" song on the radio (its a country music song). The pain never goes away, but you have to look at it in a way that... everything happens for a reason, and the pain will subside eventually. As for your other questions...my doctor told me that you usually bleed for around 3 weeks, I personally bled for 13 days. My doctor also told me that most doctors will tell you to wait until after you have your first period (usually 6-8 weeks) before you should try to get pregnant again, BUT he said thats mostly because they want to make sure you are emotionally over your loss and to also help determine the due date better. You can start having sex again after you stop bleeding... or so I was told. I hope I have helped. Keep your head up, your heart open... and if you need a good shoulder to cry on, you can talk to me. Best of luck!

Answer 8

Hey there, sweety. I'm sorry to hear about your loss. It is completely normal to feel lost, and it is okay for you to feel however you may.

To answer some of your questions.. Every miscarriage, just like every woman is different. For me, I was in pain for about 3 days. I bled for 2 days. I didn't have sex for 4 days [but I didn't have a D&C, when if you do, you should consult your doctor when you should have sex again. However, if you have a natural miscarriage -allow the miscarriage to carry out on it's own, it should be okay to have sex again as soon as you are comfortable doing so].

I'm not really sure what information to give you. A miscarriage is a big loss when confronted. Keep your spirits up as much as possible, but don't lie to yourself. It's okay to be sad, don't bottle your feelings up. If you believe in God/gods, or if you are spiritual in any way, I'd advise looking to your beliefs, and finding a way to release your confusion and pain in a positive way.

I believe God may not always give us what we want, but He ALWAYS gives us what we need. Even if we don't understand it right away... Embrace the good things in your life, and try to remember there is a reason to smile in each passing moment.

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Answer 9

I was in the same situation. I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks, just a short time ago. I actually knew i was pregnant and went in for a vaginal ultrasound when I had some light bleeding. I heard te heartbeat stop. I was devistated, lost, confused, angry....I wanted to cry and be relieved all at the same times.

It's not anybody's place to tell you how you should feel. I know how hard it is. Hopefully you have someone to talk to. I know talking with my partner helped me significantly, but ultimately no matter how much you try and explain it, they might not be able to understand how you are feeling.

The physical pain should go away in a day or so, and the emotional pain could take a while. I bled for maybe 3.5-4 days. I waited about a week before i had sex again. I'm actually now pregnant again, and terrified that I will lose this baby too. All we can do is hope and pray for guidance. If you'd like to talk, feel free to e-mail me at [e-mail]

J

Answer 10

I just wanted to say sorry for your loss. From working at a daycare I have learned from many parents that miscarriages are very common. I still hurts a lot, but it is comforting to know that you did nothing wrong. It just wasn't your time to have that baby.

Answer 11

my pains didnt last that long, a day or so. (i was 6 weeks) I only bled for a little longer than my normal period and I waited 6 weeks before having sex, also dont use tampons either, pads only