my girlfriend is pregent ,1month ,and we do not want it ,what do we do?

Answer 1

First of all, it's a baby not an "it". I know the easiest way out of this situation is to have an abortion. This is such a hot topic. I think you know that, that's why you are searching for someone to tell you it's OK to take this action. Politically and socially this is an OK option, but think about it long and hard before you do this.

Let's turn the tables around. Let's say it was your mother one month pregnant with you. Does she let you live? Or, does she choose to terminate (kill) you to spare the embarrassment of everybody knowing.

We become better people by learning from our mistakes. I ask you to consider going through with the pregnancy, give this child a chance at life. Find a loving couple who cannot have children of their own and give them the gift of a LIFE.

Answer 2

She can have an abortion as long as its within the first or second(might be just first) trimester or if she does not want to do that, as it is very hard emotionally for many women, she can also carry to full term and then have the baby adopted.

Before you choose adoption let me tell you what it is like is some places. If the baby is adopted the first time around that's great, except for the problem which arises if your girlfriend wants to see her child again some years down the road. It could screw with the kids head a bit.

What happens sometimes is the people who adopt the baby didn't know what they were getting into, or just don't want to deal with the work a baby makes, etc. What they do in some cases is sign the baby over to a foster home where it can be readopted. The problem is most of these foster homes are not the nicest places to be, and thats an understatement. What happens to some kids is they end up going back and forth between homes and foster centers and it really messes with their heads. They don't think anyone loves them or cares for them.

Judge for yourself what you should do. If you do plan to adopt, only sign any papers if you are 100% sure that none of the above could happen to that baby. The ideal parents should be low stress among other things because stress is what sets off that chain of events in the first place.

Answer 3

I living being is not an IT. You should have said "we do not want the BABY." I strongly advise getting an abortion this late into the pregnancy. However, she will not be at risk until about the 12th week of pregnancy. With your negative attitude it would probably be a bad idea to keep the baby.
With as late as the pregnancy is, try to find another way. Besides, a life should not go to waste because you couldn't keep your damn pants on. I suggest putting the BABY (not "IT") up for adoption. Hopefully the baby will wind up in a home that is more caring and responsible than yours.
As for what you should do? Don't panic about your mistake. Be there for your girlfriend. Hold her and tell her you love her, ask her what she wants to do, bring her chicken soup for the morning sickness, etc...you should not be here asking random people about such a huge situation. You should be asking your parents, a doctor, or your girlfriend. There are even tons of online websites with information on them. Get off your butt and find info the honest way.

Answer 4

If you did not want a baby, you should not have had sex protected or unprotected full stop, I am not some crazy religious freak I am someone who has a brain and realises that if I dont want a baby I will do everything in my power to make sure it does not happen, if you have to have sex at your age (you must a teenager if you are asking such questions) you should

Use a condom (you and her) Using it properly)
Girlfriend should be on the pill (taking it properly too)

Not one or the other, both of these should be practiced, if you cant be responsile for your actions then you should just not have sex until you are ready to take precautions or deal with the consquences

Answer 5

Morally , I recommend talking to child services about having the baby adopted. Abortion is still an option at this stage, but are the two of you prepared to live with that kind of decision for the rest of your lives. Remember someday you may have other children , when you look at them you may wonder what might of become of this child had you not murdered it. I'm sure your girlfriend going through the whole pregnancy is inconvenient , but you both knew the potential consequences for having sex, even protected sex is not fool proof. So live with the consequences , have the child , and let some childless couple who desperately desires one have their dream come true. And if down the road you ever wonder about the child and what it could have been , you will have the option at least to try and find out.

Answer 6

Firstly are you sure she doesn't want it? She may just be saying it because she thinks she will lose you! Secondly you should have thought of that before you had unprotected sex! Abortion is a terrible ordeal for the woman and the baby, as the baby has a heartbeat at just 6 weeks! If you go for adoption, you have plenty of time to decide if it is the right decision for you.

Answer 7

New to yahoo answers, not sure where you are. In the UK, the first point of call is either your gp or contacting BPAS direct. You can get details @ www.bpas.org. Generally your doctor would be able to give you the advice you need. This is not a decision you can take lightly, the options of an unwanted pregnancy are either putting the child up for adoption or abortion am afraid. I hope things work out for you both..

Answer 8

Don't do an abortion.
You'll be killing the baby.
Seriously.
The baby is already growing inside of her. It EXISTS.
If you have an abortion, you are taking someone's life, and it's your child's.
If you don't want it, at least let her give birth to it then put it up for a couple who can't get pregnant and wants to adopt.
That way at least you are not killing.
Next time, use a condom.

Answer 9

DO NOT GET AN ABORTION!!!!!!!!!!!!! you are killing an innocent human being who has the chance to grow up and live a wonderful and blessed life. There are millions of people who arent able to have children; put him/her up 4 adoption. A baby is a blessing but if u can't afford him/her than the best thing to do is give him/her to someone who can give him/her unconditional love.

Answer 10

Consider adoption. There are many people who would love a child that are unable to produce one on their own. With adoption, medical bills will be paid and you may receive some sort of compensation for it. Good luck whatever you decide.