2007-06-29 02:25:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Bagodonuts, youre not a Jungian I presume?
2007-06-29 03:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, certain interview techniques such as behavioral, say that a persons past actions indicate how they will act in the future. While this may be true for some people, it is not true for everyone. So the technique is really flawed. Taking this further, while it may be true for some people's past to dicate their present actions, it is not true for all people. The first thing to decide is what from your past is something that can help you, and what needs to be disgarded. Things that can help you are a strong desire to succeed, or the ability to recognize when you might be getting "pulled back" Things that can't help are "I can't" attitutes or poor self talk. Also, stop talking or bringing up all you did wrong in new situtations or when meeting new people. The people you meet today are meeting you today, don't remind them about the past if it is not even relevant anymore. Got it? Good!
2007-07-06 19:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by John 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By acknowledging that you have a "shadow", and stop trying to suppress it. The more you view your dark side as abnormal, the more you'll feel you have to act on it. We all have a shadow side. If you're aware of it for what it is, you're better able to resist its pull. Your goal is not to rid yourself of it -- your goal is to understand it, and work with it in a positive direction.
Additionally, our failures and mistakes dictate our present actions only insofar as all of our past behavior patterns, good and bad, tend to be repeated until we gain insight into them and change the harmful ones. You've started gaining insight into negative behavior patterns. Now, the next step is recognizing that you can change them, if you work at it.
2007-07-06 16:26:18 · answer #3 · answered by Ali Cat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First things first--the qualifier: I am being sincere below--every word.
Call me artless. It will not be true.
I think it is okay to speak, and even think, poetically, symbolically. However, the "hubris of the knowing" can cause, well...unnecessary questioning, at the least.
Consistent and continued acknowledgment of the "poetic" and "symbolic" nature of our communication with ourselves and with one another cannot go away.
But the way we speak to one another right now, in this, "modern era of modern knowledge and modern communication," is with a very specific and identifiable certainty. See how I just now thought I knew "SO MUCH" about what I wanted to say that I did not state it as a matter of possibility? I instead readily stated it as a matter of fact...
Humor me...
Try to think of yourself living in the future. Say, two hundred years from now. IF...IF we make it there (whole other story!), you and everyone you know will likely look back on the writings of nearly ALL of the people's of "this" time frame as being impossibly arrogant.
If anything comes as standard equipment with education, it is doubt. We can only hope they are smarter in the future--if they are they will be less certain, also.
We will not look so intelligent, I think, I doubt, maybe, possibly, could happen, you never know, many paths could unfold...
Sorry...
Back to you.
Not "ALL" of your actions are dictated by your past failures and mistakes.
You have no shadow pulling you back.
You,.......are okay, I think, I hope, maybe, possibly, could happen, you never know, many paths could unfold...
2007-07-04 22:08:55 · answer #4 · answered by muke 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to reinvent yourself.
The easiest way to do it is to move away but this ca be percieved as running away from your problems.
The main concern is that the epople you have or are haning round with will always percieve you as who they think you are.
So if you were 16 and 17 and a dirt hoe then in your 20's the same guys will think you still a dirty hoe. Now they can only do this if you allow them too.
So either move and reinvent or stay and reinvent but maybe you need to cut your losses with the people that can';t see the changes and make some new friends.
2007-07-06 21:06:36 · answer #5 · answered by timajin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is one the most childish excuses out there today and yet people keep living according to illusion. No past can dictate present according to rational thought unless a person allows it. When we were children we could honestly say we were still learning the basics - not so for adults who nobody can prove wasn't offered up those basics to begin with.
2007-06-29 09:51:53 · answer #6 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I recommend going to see a psychological counselor. They helped me get over a lot of past memories & fears which I felt were holding me back. If you can't do that, maybe talking to friends will help. It's important to let go of the past and live in the present.
2007-06-29 09:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by Mel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to end the shadows from pulling you back, it is a endless battle. You pray and fight with demons everyday, the older I get the demons show their faces less and less. So I give you this, fight the good fight and win.
2007-07-06 21:17:08 · answer #8 · answered by Coop 366 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just stop focusing on the mistake it self focus on what you learned from it if you didn't learn anything then make that mistake again untill you do!!!
failing is a part of everyday life!! to success you must overcome and learn from that!
it's not easy so don't let anyone tell you it is!
you will have to WORK HARD to overcome it!
coping.org
great site to help you cope!
2007-06-29 10:17:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Letting go of the past and realizing it can only haunt us if we let it is the key to over coming it. We must live in the now because we cannot change what was.
2007-07-06 22:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋