He seems to believe that everyone has the same sexual appetite as he does. I have had 3 kids and I have gotten older so my appetite has dwindled very low. He does not understand. How can I make him understand this?
2007-06-29 02:11:06 · 23 answers · asked by kwith4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
How do you know it is a sex addiction - maybe he just has a really high sex drive. be glad that he wants you that much girl. Maybe you should work on increasing your sex drive. being older has nothing to do with your sex drive girl, I am 30 and mine has not diminished. I still want sex everyday, so does my bf, so it works for us. unfortunately, sex is very important to alot of people and is a make or break relationship issue. just because you do not have the same sexual appetite does not mean he has a problem, only that maybe if you can't increase yours - you guys are not that compatible - especially if you think he is addicted to it just because he wants it more than you do.
2007-06-29 02:16:18 · answer #1 · answered by brandi 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I to was dependent on my ex. I had 2 children and no job. He was cheating all the time and I was afraid I would catch something from him and maybe even die. I know its hard to take the first step but once you do your whole life will change for the better. My family use to tell me that he was wonderful, that he put a roof over my head and food on the table. And that he really loved me. But they didn't have to live with him or his cheating . But I got to a point where I didn't care what anyone thought, not even family. They meant well but I needed to get out of the marriage with or without their support. I worked 2 jobs, took care of the children , the house , and all the bills. But I was never happier in my whole life. Even the children were doing better. It is best to go to your mom or dad . Someone you can trust that will be supportive of your decision without condemning you. Tell them what is going on, the decision you have made , and if they can help you to heal from it and give you support until you can go on your own. You may hear some I told you so's or advice on how to stay but if you are strong and explain to them that you just can't live like that anymore and really don't want a husband that does those things they will understand and be there for you. I met a great guy and I am remarried. He is wonderful. You will to. You deserve so much better. What he is doing is a form of cheating and I think you know that. If it hasn't gone any further it will. Unless he is willing to get professional help you don't have much of a choice but to end it. I wish you the best. The first step is the hardest but you will be so glad you took it.
2016-05-18 21:37:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can be hard talking too your partner about sexual problems if there is already tension in the air. you should tell your partner how you feel in a relaxed environment and explain you dont always want to have sex (easier said than done i know)and listen to their views too . usually couples can come too arrangements of certain days or set days over a certain period of time. if you can reduce the pressure that your partner is putting on you to have sex, you may find that your sexual appetite will increase as you start too enjoy again. with three kids you should try too get some time alone together
2007-06-29 02:25:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is he cheating on you? Addicted to porn? Or does he just always want sex with YOU and you are tired?
Get him to help with the three kids more. Get him cleaning and so on. If he just works at a job, then expects you to do all the kid stuff, of course he's ready for physical stuff. He's not drowning in chidish stuff all day.
Also, if he is cheating on you or doing other behavior that makes you wonder about his fidelity? Trust every woman that ever felt that way. It only gets worse after marriage. Then he realizes he has promised to never date, never have another first kiss, never have sex with a new person. That kind of thinking before a marriage? Eeek.
2007-06-29 02:20:23 · answer #4 · answered by WriterMom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will never understand women. A woman that does not want sex. There millions of women who write in to TV theropists and they want to know how they can get more sex. Maybe the three kids are getting involved, some way??? To curb his appetite ::: you start initiate the sex. The idea that he is in control makes him the aggressor--big turn on. You being the aggressor should shut him down to the tollerable rate you want. .
2007-06-29 02:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by Gerald 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him to do all the chores you normally do - look after the kids etc for one week while you do what he nornally does. you should find that you will be a lot more relaxed and not have 101 things running thro your mind. ask him after the week what it feels like to be in your shoes- maybe he will then understand why yourappetite has dwindled .
at the end of the day womens sex drive does lessen as we get older but mens doesnt
2007-06-29 02:19:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Listen guys have this en-grained in their DNA to spread their seed (it's a scientific fact) so we seriously can't help it. But where the problem arises is when you ladies "have babies" or "get older" or whatever excuses females give you just stop putting out or just give it up every once in a while. This is what ultimately leads to your man finding sex elsewhere and your relationship or marriage being ruined. So if you intend to marry this guy you are going to have to satisfy that sex drive no matter how intense it may seem or expect to get cheated on eventually.
2007-06-29 02:36:56 · answer #7 · answered by psyflops_gazelle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if your desire is very low maybe you have the problem and need to see a doctor. 2-3 times a week is normal if he wants it 7 days a week unless hes a teenager then he may have an issue also.
2007-06-29 02:15:52 · answer #8 · answered by gregory_usa83 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
really? well maybe after having kids But I find the older I get the more I want...
I'm sure having kids has really diminished your urges but you need to keep things spicey.
I mean tell him how you feel...tell him to compromise but honestly you have to make an effort to please him a bit. Set aside time after the kids are in bed and maybe have a glass of wine or something to loosen up and get you relaxed and in the mood..my mother always said..if you don't give him some...somebody else will.
2007-06-29 02:16:00 · answer #9 · answered by ~ ♥ ~ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No He's A Guy. He'll Never Get It. But There's Nothing Wrong With Bein A Sexaholic.
2007-06-29 02:14:06 · answer #10 · answered by ∞Mz.Crazi∞ 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋