I know it is bad... but?

Question

why do I sometimes feel that people sould listen only to me and do what I want them to do and satisfy me when I need it.
When they don't I get jealous and frustrated.
I am not selfish but don't understand this. I only have this feeling sometimes.

Answer 1

because as a child you were never heard and this feeling of importance has hurt you deeply and keeps popping up when you need to be appreciated

Answer 2

From the standpoint of a parent and in relationship to sons and daughters the parent will always be able to offer up older and wiser unless the parent is clearly a child-adult or have sons and daughters that remain child-adults who live rebellious lifestyles. Then no - they would not respect or allow one thing said to them ...they might even behave paranoid given the anti-family movement. Past that wisdom can only be shared without expectation and some don't like wisdom that is a fact. Have you ever heard people say "you can't do anything but pray - you have no rights" - the wise know part of that statement is false and not productive ...along with being extremely controlling not to mention is the preaching of laziness and people worship.

Point: Knowledge, wisdom, and experience can't be controlled by others, guilted, or stolen and is shared when socializing whether some like it or not - some can't handle that even when they ask questions. Even the older and wiser ask questions because we never stop learning until the day we die ; )

Answer 3

Well, it depends to consider your selfishness or not.

If people are ignoring you, then you do have a right to be frustrated, because everyone should have a chance to explain their ideas and thoughts on something. But right now, it really does seem like you're being self-centered, because no one's listening to you and you have the constant need to the center of attention.

Now, wanting to be the center of attention can be good sometimes because your ideas can be very cooperative and help. But if you're consistently desiring for the ears of others and wanting them to listen to you and you only, then yep, you have a big ego. Since you mention about having this feeling sometimes, I wouldn't say that it's a huge problem, but just be patient with people.

Answer 4

Well, to have the guts and the insight to know you have this problem means that you probably aren't a selfish spoiled brat. To want answers is a good thing, and I am proud of you for asking for help!
These are feelings that you need to be able to talk to someone who isn't judgmental to help you get the answer. The only thing I can come up with is a talk therapy.
Some things that have happened to us that we don't remember can do this to us, we just have to figure out what it was, and then we can deal with it.
You are not alone. peace.

Answer 5

I think you deserve to have people listen to you and give you what you want when you need it. We all deserve this from the people who love us. I love giving my friends, family members, neighbors, colleagues what they want just cuz they want it, just cuz it makes them happy or satisfied. Why wouldn't we want to give those we love and like what they want? It's ridiculous and cruel to deliberately try to frustrate people. Their smiles and the twinkle in their eyes are worth the small cost to me. Of course, I don't mean put a wipe-your-feet-here mat on my face. I'm speaking of giving people what they want from a position of knowing that you have the power to please someone, a wonderful position to be in.

I have found that the more I make sure others get what they want when they want it, more people look out for me the same way, not that that's why I do it. Some people then want to get in a competition to see who can give me more of what I want before I can give it to them. This kind of competition is joyous and fun, sometimes delightfully silly, brings people closer together, makes us glad we know each other.

Answer 6

lol...I love reading the answers of others...haha...anyway, I think it's likely because you have the whole "red personality" thing going on. Yeah I know, blah blah blah....this tends to classifly you as a "control freak"/....I HATED it when people called me that, however, after analyzing myself HONESTLY, I realized that THEY were right! Does this make you bad? Of course not. You just have to LEARN to listen and allow others to teach, lead, talk, suggest.
It's ok, just don't be a jerk about it!

Answer 7

you are discribing control, at times you want control of a person/situation and when you don't get what you want you feel jealous/frustrated.

dont beat yourself up over this, its a natural feeling, but maybe understanding that your wants and needs may be different from others may help, we all have choices to make in situations and at times they might not always suit you

Answer 8

Google narcissistic personality disorder, and see if you some more of the symptoms of that, I think there are about 9 traits. The ones you mentioned are part of the disorder.

Answer 9

you want to be the center of your universe and can't handle anyone threatening that. You don't want to meet your own needs so you demand that others do it for you. Try spending 30 days not dominating conversations and meeting the needs of others and see if that helps.

Answer 10

No offense Sea shell, but you are selfish, or at least self-centered. The world is bigger than you. I am not at all saying you are a horrible person, but think about what I wrote, it will make sense.

Answer 11

You are not alone in feeling like this .
Most people in their teens and early 20's feel exactly the same, it's that they don't talk about it.