My husband came home the other day saying he does not want to be married anymore, ( I had no idea anything was wrong) we are trying to work on things and I realize I was not "honoring" him the way the Bible says and I'm trying to change. But he still says he does not feel love for me anymore, I'm praying like crazy the love will return(we both are) but does anyone have any tips or advice. He wants me sexually but he just does not have "Love" in his heart for me anymore. Any help is appreciated.
2007-06-29 01:56:49 · 15 answers · asked by p_a_m_i_e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The fact that you are both working toward fixing your marriage is a huge hurdle in itself!!
So long as you are both working toward improving and saving your marriage any number of miracles is possible.
If you are both involved in a church then perhaps there is someone there that you can seek guidance and help.
marriagemax.com is a great site and worth the time to check it out.
2007-06-29 02:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-23 04:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear this. If you are trying to have a marriage in Christ, and he has a problem with how you 'honor' him, that's one thing, but if he wants to leave the marriage because of it, then that itself isn't honoring YOU. He should know that leaving is really only acceptable if there is adultery. Other than that he should pray and seek guidance from the Lord.
Demons must have tainted his heart or mind. Obviously you both need to participate in things. You can't do it all. How do you feel about getting counseling? That might be worth a try.
I will say prayers for you......I hope things work out, but remember sweety....Jesus is King of all kings. He is ultimately the one you answer to if your husband goes astray.
2007-06-29 02:27:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your Husband first, why doesn't he Love you anymore?
You have to make him state the facts.
If He do state his reasons, ask him, what wrong have I've done against You? If there is, ask for repentance.
I think the most important thing for you to ask is, Have you ever prayed to God about this problem?
Also, Did both of You seeked God first before you get Married? (This is important for couples who are in a relationship and do decide to get married.)
Marriage counselling is good for both of you. However, to find the solution, You have to see the problem.
The Key Here is to communicate both with each other and finding ways to solve this crisis.
Divorce is not the right answer. It's both of you, Husband and Wife, regardless of any situation, sticking out the struggles life throws at You.
God Bless and I'll pray that You and Your Husband will Love each other again...
2007-06-29 02:21:54 · answer #4 · answered by Edwardo L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then my dear it's time for you to accept that it is over. Of course he wants you sexually he is a man, but if he is honest enough to tell you that he doesn't love you anymore than it's time for you to let him go. We're not in the 1920's anymore for you to be "honoring " him like the Bible say. Even if you work at it, you can't make someone love you. There is other men out there and just because you are married to this one doesn't mean he was the right one.
So please don't take on yourself to change, because the way I see it it's him who doesn't love you not the other way around.
Good luck
2007-06-29 02:07:45 · answer #5 · answered by johanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend some Christian books, hope they help.
One is Love is tough by Dr James Dobson. Anoter Christian book helped me a lot is " Divorce is not the Solution" this one I had it in Spanish, but probaly there is an English version, sorry i dont have author on hand.
Any book by Dr Dobson related to marriage will help. You can also visit Focus on the Family, his website for more books, articles and other to help you strenghten you marriage. We had a horrible crisis in 2002 and i can tell you that only God and somethe of those book helped me through it to a successful rebirth of our marriage.
Gob bless both of you so you have a fast recovery. remeber the devil never sleeps and if we are not close to God, he will get into our homes so easily.
best of lucks.
Among you duties as a wife , sex is one of them, and according to a Christian discussion radio program, we must not try to control our husbnads with it,if we give them the love fiorst, things will come much easier. I know sometimes is hard, but try you best.
2007-06-29 02:17:17 · answer #6 · answered by gracegptx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like you to have done a lot of changes in the last year or so. the hardiest thing is keeping up with changes in a marriage. For years we been told never to change just to keep your mate happy. will after you been married you to are now one and change happen on a weekly bases. If one does not change at the same time as the other thinks can happen the can stress your marriage and if not in check your relationship will end. Look in to what he is doing and find what you need to meet to keep up with your hubby for me my wife did not like the way i always told her to clean house so i made the change and started cleaning house. to the way i like it . and my wife love that i have done this and i was able to save my married from anything bad happening to it.. its all about the change and it happen a lot give it a try and your will see that your relationship will get back on track. good Luck..
2007-06-29 02:13:13 · answer #7 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OO I just bought this great book called The Five Love Languages.. It basically explains how there are 5 different love languages. If you do not know the "language" or the way ur partner likes to be loved, there is cross communication. It's written by a Christian marriage councilor - Gary Chapman. Please pick it up.
2007-06-29 02:02:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know what horoning means, TO LAVISH PRAISE UPON. TIP, ANYTIME YOU WANT TO CHANGE ANYTHING, DO THE OPPOSITE. TELL HIM WHAT YOU APPRECIATE ABOUT HIM, TELL HIM WHAT YOU ADORE IN HIM, TELL HIM WHAT YOU THINK THAT IS WONDERFUL ABOUT HIM, TELL HIM HOW BLESSED YOUR LIFE IS BECAUSE YOU ARE WITH HIM. DO NOT USE THIS AS A BLAME GAME AGAINST YOURSELF OR YOUR HUSBAND, JUST ACT AND SPEAK THE OPPOSITE, YOU WILL GET OPPOSITE RESULTS. MOST HUMANS DON'T UNDERSTAND THAT YOU GET BACK WHAT YOU PUT OUT. IF YOU WANT LOVE YOU HAVE TO BE LOVING, IF YOU WANT RESPECT, YOU HAVE TO ACT RESPECTABLE. YOU HAVE THE ABILITY TO CHANGE THIS SITUATION AROUND, JUST THINK HOW YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE TREATED AND TREAT HIM THE SAME WAY. THE ONLY POINT TO THIS IS FOR YOU TO FEEL GOOD, AND WHEN THAT HAPPENS, IT DOEN'T MATTER IF YOU ARE MARRIED OR NOT. MAKE THAT YOU GOAL, TO FEEL GOOD, BY THINKING THOUGHTS THAT FEEL GOOD WHEN YOU THINK THEM. MAKE A LIST OF THE GOOD THINGS YOU KNOW ABOUT YOUR HUSBAND, AND MAKE A LIST OF THE GOOD THINGS YOU KNOW ABOUT YOURSELF. SINCE YOU MENTION THE BIBLE, WRITE THANK YOU GOD AFTER EACH GOOD THING YOU WROTE ABOUT HIM AND YOURSELF. BE GOOD TO YOURSELF. I WISH YOU MUCH JOY, MAY YOU BE HAPPY AND WELL.
2007-06-29 05:47:03 · answer #9 · answered by bonnie f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't a book perse' that you can buy to save your marriage. Did you ask him why he isn't in love with you anylonger? I would start there and if he isn't in love with you then why would you want to stay married? Loving him like the bible says isn't the answer. Communication and honesty, is the answer, addressing the reason why is where you need to start.
2007-06-29 02:06:58 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋