should i be a stripper?

Question

i am single mom with very little money, i work two jobs now but i cannot make enough money to save for my own place and car. I am considering dancing because i heard their is money in it , i just need some real advice no jokes, because i really need the money. I have a audition tomorrow and i am just need some advice

Answer 1

I am a mom of 3; rec'ved no child support from my ex. I was a dancer, then ppl kept tellin' me I should be a stripper.
Which I eventually did, its NOT for every1. Like any other job its got its pros & cons. You can make real good money, but, NOT everyday. I could be here for hours giving u all kinds of details. Lemme just give a few as a starting point...k?
You deal w/ drunks---the customers & co-workers.
Most females are there to support their kids.
I've always said in each and every bar u could Easily find...
(among the women) a mom supporting her kids,a college student, a drunk, a drug addict, an alcoholic, a prostitute, loose women, (1 that doesn't charge;in the Bible, they are the same), a shark (i.e. a female who is all about the $), the usual soap box drama that goes on @ work, favoritism,some places the girls work together to help each other make $--Some Don't.
If u r determened to do this....then Get Noticed!!
You r there to make $$ for the bar. Period.
If they don't notice you, u won't make $$.
Your $$ is secondary.
You 'pay' to work @ the bar, its called 'tip out'--
it's up to the bar who gets what & how much;
its "a minuimum" ---like min., 20.00 to the house,
min., 10 to the D.J., if theres 1 barkeep 10 min., if there's 2 or more it could be 15 and higher...usually, its the Mgr./ house, D.J., bartenders,bouncers, housemother and/or a hair/make-up woman, {that's if they have these 2; housemother not optional, hair/make-up only if u use her services }, outside security guy (some places this 1 is optional).
And I said just a few....
You Gotta Have Game!!!
Some girls will tell u to lie (2 the customers) they did me...
I didn't lie, didn't have to,I was bi, I did have a b/f... usually 2.
You can't go out w/ the customers-
U GET FIRED! prostitution.
You can't give out your phone # or n/e other way to contact you outside the club.
U GET FIRED! prostitution.

edit: what 'Freedom' wrote. I agree, completely.
I have seen that also, mom & dghtr., working @ the same bar.
Old women, working there. Use as a stepping stone;
If You r going to do this. And get out! Don't get caught up in the partying.

Answer 2

If you can set boundries and think of it only as a job, there really isn't any problem doing it. Are you going to be proud of yourself, or are you going to beat yourself up about what you do? The worst thing you can do is start to do this and feel bad about yourself. It will reflect to your children. The boundries you should set should be along the lines of, to work and back, no socialization with the patrons after hours, etc. No "sidework" having sex of any type for money. And be careful of stalkers. Some of the regulars who visit strip clubs can become a little obsessed - be careful. It is good money if you do your job well, but the lifestyle can sneak up on you. Stay away from the drugs, partying, etc., and remember that this is a job and a support system for your children to be raised with a home, a car, food, etc. If you can be proud of how you are raising your child or children, and you are giving them a heathly happy environment, and you are not degrading yourself, then go for it!

Answer 3

Your getting yourself into a hard life, I know.....don't believe what others tell you not all strippers are drug addicts and prostitutes. If you decide to go ahead with this just remember this advice from someone whose been there. SAVE.....easy come, easy go. You need to watch your money and SAVE as much as you can. If you are lucky you may retire. I have seen smart girls retire with paid for homes and cars. DON'T party..ever. Go home to your child. It's is easy to fall into this lifestyle. Don't start. This is not a life, this is not forever. This is stepping stone to help you move forward with your life..school, paid for house etc....If you don't begin to prepare for quitting your first day you may well end up a 50 year old stripper whose daughter works with her....Seen that too. How much will you put back a week.....50% is easy. I made an easy 2,000 a week and never saved a dime....I wasted over 200,000 dollors on cars, vacation and fun when I was there and today I am 30 and sick to my stomach to think of what I wasted. Be smart...

Answer 4

It's very hard to do, I was in the same situation and did it.

You get a lot of guys asking for sex and can sometimes be quite violent when you object. I was never offered drugs or anything in that kind of lifestyle, most of the girls were going to uni.

You have to be really emotionally strong to endure it for a long period of time, I only did it for 3 months and I began to feel worthless and deppressed, mostly because of the guys.

You need supportive people around you to talk to and just be there for the bad times.

there is a lot of money in it so weigh up the pro's and cons and see if you want to do it.

I stopped when 1 guy was very violent and I thought that I would rather be a bit poor than have my baby having no mum. I know situations around the world are different too...

Answer 5

To be honest with you Darling, my sincere answer is YES. Stripper does not really mean that you have to engage in "other" activities. If you need the money and that is the only way for you to make money, go ahead, and be a Stripper. Beats being a prostitute which I hope this is not where you are headed into.

Answer 6

This query is idiotic and is senseless. A road appears like a stripper title and for anything dumb *** purpose you consider strippers are living there? Who the hell cares and what is it to you? Even if strippers are living close you or their possess mother and father why does it even subject? I do not realize what this query is for or whyou you care. How dull.

Answer 7

I used to date a stripper and I guess if you are really gonna do it make sure you know what your getting yourself into. I mean what are the owners of the club like. What kind of people go to the club. what kind of policies do they have to protect you. I mean its a tough gig thats for sure. But if you feel safe working at the club then do it. But just remember your looks won't last forever...so what do you do after? And you do realize that you don't get healthcare benefits either? So when you 35 and out of work, what do you do next?

Answer 8

It's hard not to get caught up with the lifestyle. Traditionally Strippers have been into drugs, easy sex(for money), abusive relationships etc etc. I wish you luck.

Answer 9

no you should not be a stripper. along with everything in life think of the future and long term affects on you and your child. work hard, pray and focus. Know that God never give you anything you cannot handle.

Answer 10

no, i know you are going through hard times, but that is not the answer. strippers tend to get hurt like getting raped, kidnaped, and killed. you said you are a mother. how would your child react to this? do you want your child to have the worry that their mother might get hurt being a stripper? i don't think it would be a good influence on your child... please don't become a stripper, i'm sure you could find another job.