having dreams that im sleeping with my father?

Question

i know it is gross..my father and i have a normal relationship and i love him normally...but sometimes i dream that he is going to have intercourse with me...and last night was the worst..because im still a virgin and i dreamt that we had sex and he took my virginity..the worst part is that i liked the sex..the dream was so detailed and i enjoyed it but then when i realised that im not a virgin any more and that my father took it i was so depressed and i hit the wall of reality...so what does that say aboyt my psychology??by the way i have a boy friend and we are deeply in love and we fool around a little bit...but it is a long distance relation ship so he is not around currently

to "tony t" i know im still a virgin...i meant that i was depressed in the dream when i realised im not a virgin any more...but when i woke up i was just plain relieved that it was just a dream

to "creepy people" yes i think my dad is good looking but ofcourse im not attracted to him he is my father...and what's with my mind trying to tell me something!! is it trying to tell me that i shuld sleep with my father>>haha u r weird

Answer 1

Dreams of having sexual intercourse with one's parent (usually a boy having sex with his mother or a girl having sex with her father) are common and unless acted upon in one's conscious or "waken" state do not represent a problem.
As your body physically matures, both outwardly (i.e., in appearance) and internally (i.e., hormones, etc.) it is preparing itself for "reporduction". That is one of the main purposes of life (it keep the species going).
In your subconscious, you are beinging to express your physical readiness to procreate. You also chose a symbol for your partner that is very common, i.e., your father, who is probably someone who has been good to you, helped you to grow up by protecting you, providing for you and nuturing your physical and psychological development. He is also probably someone whom you trust and feel comfortable with. All of these traits may well describe what you might be looking for in a life partner and so, in your dream state, you used your father's image as a symbol for the partner you are seeking.
By the fact that you enjoyed your sexual experience in the dream, you may be expressing a very healthy out look towards sex, i.e., that sex is a "good" thing, is hopefully physically and emptionally satisfying and will take place with a partner with whom you will be comfortable, and with whom you will have a lifetime relationship with.
The aspect of the depression of loosing one's virginity may simply be the angst of realizing the changes that occur when one grows up. Think of this as the movememts associated with going from being a "little girl" into becoming a young adult. Most person, to a greater or lesser degree, would love to be able to hold on and retain their childhood, which is often a very happy and carefree time when one is provided for , protected, loved, etc., without many of the worries and responsibilities associated with being a self sustaining adult.
What does all of this say about your "psychological state"? It says that you are probably a healthy, normal young lady who is growing up and preparing for adulthood, adult relationships and a normal life.
As a an afterwards, if you keep "fooling around" with your boyfriend, the sexual experience may soon become a reality. Long distance relationships are very difficult and often present a host of problems. Good luck, think before you act and don't worry.
Don't run off for "years of therapy", most of which is not worth while and can and often is of more harm than good. Western psychology is set up to "vicitmize", i.e., poor you, you are a vicitim, it is somebody elses fault. The reality is, we make our choices, whether consciously or unconsciously and we necessarily must live with the consequences of our actions, thoughts, the feeling we create, the desires we bury ourselves in, etc. If you do seek some form of counseling, I would recommend Eastern or Buddhist psychological counseling as it seems so much healthier than its Western counter part. (From a purley personal veiwpoint, Freud was a ninny!)

Answer 2

I too dream of dead person, but in my case, none had ever don't that to me, but being 15, and soon to be of legal age, 18, (you don't have long to go), soon you may be able to leave get a good career in some armed forces get yourself a good solid education that way too,and be positive, **start all over. Although, there may be persons even in that scene, it could be different, if you realize you must count the fact that you learned a lot form the negative people and try to put it together in the future endeavors of making a more positive/table future career, and possibly a much better life; as now,or by then you yourself will be calling the shots.

Answer 3

First of all, do not blame yourself for your dreams: For daughters the father is the most important figure of their lives, almost all the young girls are in love with their fathers and that is very natural.
I think your problem is about your virginity - you believe it is time to lose it but your instincts tell you that your current boyfriend is not the right one. So the sub - conscious part of your brain quickly turns to the man you've always ''loved''....
Go see a professional if you feel you need to. But I think your dreams will pass away when you find the right guy to do it!

Answer 4

This is really not a sexual dream,The issue of your virginity weighs heavily on your mind and your father is only representative of the man you dream of losing your virginity to,the fact that you have been fooling around a little bit also raises your anxiety. Do not worry all is well.It will interest you to know that most people get involved with people who share certain characteristics with their parents.
Angel B don't push it

Answer 5

It was just a dream, one that probably reflects your normal curiosity about sex. Your father was probably representative of the male qualities you admire, and will likely someday look for in a life-partner.

Do not feel guilty for the contents of a dream, since you can't direct or control your dreams.

You are still a virgin because "dream sex" does not count. If it did, many boys would have lost their virginity by age 12 or 13.

Answer 6

Completely normal. I'm guessing you're around 14/15. Your body is responding to the hormones that drive you to desire sex. This manifests itself in dreams' role of wish fulfilment. It doesn't mean you want sex with your father, only that your body is ready for sex and that your father presently represents an "ideal" kind of male. These hormones are probably stoked up by your experimentation with your boyfriend.

If you are not mentally ready for sex yet then don't have sex. You will want to have sex with someone you love and respect and want to give pleasure to. You'll soon forget your father's role in these dreams then.

Answer 7

It means you have suppressed some thoughts in your childhood. Normally around 3 and 7 years kids fall in love with their parents of opposite sex. If anybody around you made you embraced or you thought it could be a sin or something really bad, you started to suppress your natural kid feelings and thoughts into sub-conscious. As you did not spend them they are probably still in there and you spend them in your adult dreams. In time they might all be spent by dreams. Otherwise if you go to a good psychiatrist, in few sessions they can be brought into surface and you can gain your confidence and all bad feelings may go away.

Answer 8

In the words of Sigmund Freud, "Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar". There's probably no hidden meaning at all. Sure, there's something to dream interpretation, especially patterns. If you haven't had any sexual partners yet, and probably haven't had too many close personal relationships with men, I'd say that your mind just conjured up the image of the man you're most familiar with and paired it with sexual feelings that you can't express in your waking life that had to come out somehow, so they came out in your sleep. Uncomfortable, sure. But not abnormal.

Answer 9

Your brain and heart are in a confused state. You love your dad of course, but there is another guy who is taking his place in your heart sort of. He is slowly moving to first place in your heart. Maybe there is a part of U that fears that your love for you father will not be the same. That U maybe leaving him,after he spend years raising you.All daddy's little girls have to leave the safety and sanctuary of daddy's home. There is always a special place in daddy's girls heart for daddy. If you think there is a problem, talk to a council. They understand.
I hope I got myself across to you.

Answer 10

I had a dream similar... before... I think it has to do with the fact that your father is the first man you love when you're growing up.... and in your subconscious mind as you are entering the world of sexuality (with the boyfriend) you are trying to imagine what it would be like (the sex)........ you know your dad loves you..... so somewhere the lines are getting crossed in the dream world........... thus the dream

just my opinion....