my fiance wants us to live with is parents after marriage and no is not an option. theyre loud, crass and quarrelsome. im not accustomed to that but he says illget there in time. his mom embarrases me in front ppl and then cries if he mentions it to her.He ends up feeling bad and telling me i need to understand and i should love them no matter what. I cant love pplwho insult and shout and demean and who continue to convince him that marrying me is a bad idea ( only cos my personality is dfferent from theirs). Ive tried telling him but hes caught between pleasing his parents and having a love marriage. I willbe working but living on our own can never happen according to him. Imall for taking care of ones parents, but i cant live 24/7 with that tension and humiliation, nor do i want to be 'accostumed'to that in time.
2007-06-28 20:14:15 · 5 answers · asked by tari 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
thanks a heap to the supportive answers i got. it feels great to know imnot crazy for wanting to live on my own with my own husb. im going to try again and poitn this out to him, and if it doesnt work, wish me luck in getting a NORMAL, loving, respectful guy :)
2007-06-28 20:40:21 · update #1
No one should have to live with people who treat them like that and of all people, your future husband should not want you to have to deal with that either.
2007-06-28 20:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run, run, run like a tornado!! This is a mama's boy, and his controlling mother. You will never be first in his life. He will always be put in the middle between you and the parents. Guess what--If you are living in their home, they will always win!!! You will never grow accustomed to that. Get out before you end up with kids, and have to leave him!! The mother will probably try to keep your kids, if you try to leave!! It can get a lot worse, if you don't get out now.
YOU HAVE BE WARNED!!! BEWARE!!! Find youself a guy that will put you and your feelings first, and get the home for you that you deserve.
2007-06-29 03:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not ever become accustomed to that kind of craziness. And the fact that your fiance suggests that you do is a big red flag. Dump him. FAST! His family obviously doesnt respect each other, and he doesnt respect you. You sound smart, dont listen to him. I will say it again, dump him, move on and have a happy life, there are lots of good guys out there, dont settle on this chaos. :)
2007-06-29 03:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by undone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi you should not have to live anywhere that makes you feel so much tension and discomfort its not good for your heath or your state of mind or the begining of a new marriage and if you and your man really want your own place then it will happen,make it happen,you can do it TOGETHER. good luck
2007-06-29 03:27:42 · answer #4 · answered by judith m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
married people living with parents is bad news under any circumstances. he needs to understand this, or your marriage will not work.
2007-06-29 03:16:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋