How about if your married? It's not cheating if you remain unemotional. You know what they say, if your spouse doens't take care of their homework someone else will.
2007-06-28 19:35:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, "nice guy" (!!), it is certainly possible, far be it from me to tell you that this won't work in that sense. It is not LIKELY, however! Sex is by its nature something that emotions are heavily involved in. The main thing is that it is not ethical. Of course it's cheating, idiot!! If your wife would think of it as cheating then it's cheating. Go ahead, ask her!
If she doesn't think it's cheating then hell, yeah, why not go for it - sounds like you deserve each other as a couple.
2007-06-28 19:38:16 · answer #1 · answered by piano_kath 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was with you up until the married bit.
It is possible to have a friend with benefits if both parties agree to the terms, if that includes not getting emotional; then so be it.
However, I define cheating as a breach in the implicit contract between people in a relationship. Generally this contract includes monogamy in a marriage. If, when the relationship started, it was agreed upon that either party may fool around with a third party so long as they stayed unemotional; then it's not cheating.
However, if that was not stated in the beginning of the relationship, then I think it's safe to say that any fooling around outside of a typical marriage, is considered cheating. No matter how unemotional you feel about it.
2007-06-29 02:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by Kaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are trying to make up excuses for your cheating.....honey, No matter how you look at it, if you are sleeping with another woman or man, you ARE cheating. No matter what stupid thing you heard said. And as for your first question I believe it is near impossible for an two people or three whatever, to have sex and NOT become somehow socially, emotionally, and mentally connected, if you have figured out a way to do this either you are are some kind of Sexual God/Goddess (which I highly doubt) or you're really really pathetic in the sack (this is my guess, could also be why "the spouse don't take care of the homework" ....it sucks)
Sorry but it just doesn't work that way in the "real grownup world"---sorry for busting your bubble!
2007-06-29 02:45:25 · answer #3 · answered by Maggie B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're an idiot.
Of course it's cheating if you stay unemotional. It's not how you treat the other person that makes it cheating, it's how you treat your spouse. And yes, I've heard that saying, but that's just a sad statement of fact. It doesn't make it right.
2007-06-29 02:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not your husband cares is not an excuse for cheating. You took vows, that indicate that you would be unto him/her only. Emotionally, or unemotionally unfaithful, you would be cheating. Being able or unable to do that is part of the make- up of your moral character.
I was married to a man that developed a problem, and could not have sex for a long time. I stood painfully faithful for almost 3 years, until he was better. Then he refused to get therapy to help him stop feeling afraid to resume the sexual part of the marriage. I never cheated, I told him that I loved him, but since he refused to get help, I had to leave him. I told him that I could not bring myself to disrespect him by cheating on him. My moral character would not allow me to do that, so I felt compelled to leave the marriage.
The question is -- How strong is your moral character? How seriously did you take your vows?
2007-06-29 02:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah thats not gonna happen someones gonna get attached and its most likly gonna be the gurl and yha it is cheat no matter how u look at it
2007-06-29 02:38:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1- one of you will have to get emotional eventually
2- it IS considered cheating..there are 2 kinds of cheating..physical affairs..and emotional affairs..if your husband slept with a hooker..is that not considered cheating??!
talk to your husband and see why he isn't 'doing it'...if you feel the need to cheat on him..then just get a divorce
2007-06-29 02:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by BAH BAH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah, I'm married and have like 4 friends with benefits, they all have 401k, Retirement plan, Medical insurance, and bonuses
2007-06-29 02:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by flacodf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think it is possible to have a homie lova friend, but, if you are married, it doesnt matter if you catch feelings or not, adultery IS adultery. No matter how you try to sugar coat it.
2007-06-29 02:39:39 · answer #9 · answered by Skyy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, no no. ur spouse is supposed to be the only one u love . friends with benefits is cheating!!! cheating!!!
2007-06-29 02:50:20 · answer #10 · answered by fantastilistic_grrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋