I am 15yrs old and have known for about a year that I am a lesbian. my parents and friends are pretty much homophobic, and if not then they find it funny. I am comfortable with the person I am and have no problem with being a lesbian but I am afraid of what others (my friends and family) will think and say if I come out, I don't want them to view me in the wrong light. What should I do???
2007-06-28 18:10:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Keep that secret till you are financially stable( meaning if you're doing good they'll accept it but if you're not they'll think that you're demented, and you'll then after probably feel suicidally with all the criticism. Your mental state will be ruined then your life will follow.
2007-06-28 19:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you really want to come out go ahead and let them guess.
Don't date men or boys or have any male friends your parents know about. If you have a girlfriend hang out together, tell your parents you and your friend are going shopping or to the movies or whatever until they are used to seeing you together. Over time they will start to wonder.
My dad thought my nephew was gay because he and his best buddy were friends for years then roommate. He was wrong they just were best friends, now the boys are 37 and still friends but my nephew has been married for 10 years. If he had been gay it would have been an easy way to let people know then when he came out nobody would be shocked.
Or you could just say you are lesbian and see what happens. They might be a lot less shocked than you think or you might find you were right.
2007-06-29 01:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by shipwreck 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hi! I am answering your question from the parents perspective, o.k..........I am a mother of 3 (4 y/o son and 12 & 14 y/o daughters) I am just sitting here thinking of what to say and wondering if my daughters felt the same way you did how would I feel? How would I react? You know there is such a stigma attached to just about everything in the world (not only being gay) and thats so sad...............it makes people afraid to tell and share with their loved ones their true self. I know for me, and I would hope for your parents that they would be as accepting of you having a girlfriend as your having a boyfriend. I have made my daughters feel very comfortable about every conversation we have had, including sex. I don't try and embarass them, I give them facts. I would hope to God that if they did feel the way you do that they would be comfortable discussing this with me. I am not saying for a second that it wouldn't be a shock, would I disown them.......not in a million years. Sit down and talk to your mom, just because they've laughed about or discussed being homosexual that doesn't mean she would react the same way with you........you are her daughter. Thats different.......
We give birth to our children and hope for health, happiness and respect. Life isn't perfect, but please sit and talk to her, I think her reaction will surprise you, not disappoint you. You are a healthy teenager............respect your mother enough to respect you enough to let you decide what brings you happiness, you........nobody else but you............
I truly do wish you nothing but the very best!
2007-06-29 01:35:14 · answer #3 · answered by steracrudy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh I'm a 15 year old lesbian 2! :) if you wanna talk about some of your problem with me IM me at...... twinkey15 ....... Maybe I can help you, but my parents and friends already know and accept me though :)
2007-06-29 01:14:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to deal with everyone right now, make new gay-friendly friends and distance yourself from your parents. When you're out on your own and don't have to deal with those people unless you choose to then go right ahead and out yourself. If you are ready for the backlash though, then go ahead and tell people that you're close to that you're gay. good luck whatever you decide.
2007-06-29 22:43:52 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who's your best friend? tell them 1st. they should accept you.sometimes people take bisexuality better when you're coming out.thats what i did.i just told my friend that i was bi because i knew they would take it easier.sometimes family does too,they think "well at least we have some hope" and then you can wait until you're out of the house to say "im actually gay." saying 'im bi" is more like a baby step. you dont have to come out until you're ready.
2007-06-29 02:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by RainbowParrotFish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG I AM THE EXACT SAME AS U AND TWINKEY15! :) IM ME AT mickeymz93 and we can maybe chat 3way! :) well I had the same issue as u! but well I'm bi and so my mom's like I dont care... as long as u marry a guy lol! so anyways I was scared my friends wouldn't like me anymore but it turns out my bff was bi too! so if they're such great friends then they shouldn't care and if they seem to well then they're not good enough! Thats wat I said when I told them so yeah! :)
Hope I Helped
2007-06-29 02:03:20 · answer #7 · answered by mickeymz93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just read about it , learn about it. think about the famous women you think are cute , and when youre 17 , start exploring the big city . while you wait someone in your orbit may signal you that they are like you. try talking to them .
2007-06-29 21:47:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, honesty is the best way. They may not agree, but you know what you want.
2007-06-29 01:23:27 · answer #9 · answered by Nekisha r 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
tell someone you really trust. someone that you know wont judge you... but i dont know what else to say, that is a tough situation.
2007-06-29 01:14:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋