my husband isnt into me anymore?

Question

ok i will tell you all the truth and the whole truth because i need some good advice here: my husband doesent want sex anymore we do it once a month now, he tells me to leave him alone alot, he says i talk to much and is tired of me acussing him of cheating! ok so i quit my job again in the five years me and him have been married the longest job i had was 3 months i hate to work! we have 3 kids! yes i accuss him of cheating everyday! i go threw his phone and pockets! i never clean the house! rather find out what he is up to then my kids! I HAVE GAINED 40 pounds!..ect ect is it me you think he says it is?

Answer 1

You're full of baloney I think. Just having fun sitting at home making up bullsh*t questions?

Answer 2

Darling you have made it through 6 years together, just hold tight for a bit. You have just had a child and it is natural for a man to go through this kind of character transition. He may be feeling like he is not number 1 in your life anymore since your child came along - this is a very common scenario and i suggest you seek professional help from a counsellor, please don't throw all you have away without fighting for it - you have been together for more years than most marriages, this is just a phase of your life together that you need to get through - and you will, with patience and understanding - and if that means a little help from a counsellor then sobeit, you can do it - this is life, its not easy and relationships are hard, but I think you have done so well so far - don#t give up just yet.

Answer 3

Sorry but you do have to try. If you try then maybe your husband won't be the way he is. After you change for a couple of months and your husband is still acting this way then maybe it is time to see a marriage counselor. Do somethng nice for your husband. Don't let him do everything or he wll get very tired of you, and you don't want that . Surpise him by sending the kids to their friends maybe for a sleep over. Clean the whole house top to bottom. Make a romantic dinner for you two. Slip into something sexy and seduce him. Or try to recreate the moment you knew you were in love. You would be very surprised at the reaction on his face. It is ok not to work but you got to keep up your end of the house work so that your husband doesn't feel alone in your relationship.If you really love your husband than you should show him by being there for him. Ask him how is day was. Is it really that much to ask. I have actually been through what you are going through, and my husband loved it when I recreated our first date. Put yourself in his shoes. I am not saying he is in the right, but just try. I hope this helps.

Answer 4

Oh Sweetie, You sound so sad. Start with the easy stuff. Clean up the house--do all the laundry, wash the floors and bathrooms, dust and vacuum. Make the kitchen spotless.

Start eating good whole foods, instead of fast food crap. Loose all the chips and ice cream. (This is good for the kids too!)

You need to loose the weight. Not for him but for yourself.

But what you really need, (both of you) is some good heavy, orgasmic sex.

Get dressed up in your sexiest, but nice dress. Wear high heels, and maybe a bra, but leave the panties home. Now meet him somewhere, like a local hip bar. Let him find you there. flirting with the other guys.

When he shows up, come on to him big time. Give him a peek or two under your dress. He'll treat you like it was the first date. Have a wonderful orgasm!

Answer 5

ok wow so i found my twin accept i get more lovin then once a month. my hubby actually told me i was "not the type he is naturally attracted to" tell me how u would have taken that? i feel he is soo used to me that he is tired of my look. guys always get tempted to have new things. maybe that is what he is feeling(temptation) all i could say is to pray for him & your home to keep the ememy from tearing you two apart more. then ask your husband to submitt him self just like a wife does for her man. and at a minimume that can help your security go up in the fact that he does like you and in return you can try to watch your tounge a little. if u feel something write it to him instead of telling him to his face. but ask him to read it so you can still feel like he listened and that will give him a chance to respond back without an arguement. i know i said alot hope i can help.

Answer 6

well he obviously luvs you to have to put up with being accused everyday and your snooping through his belongings,maybe you should try cleaning the house and stop with the accusations thats a start.no man likes to be falsley accussed and in a relationship if there is no trust then whats the point?if this man hasnt cheated yet then i am sure you will drive him to it accuseing him all the time.

Answer 7

You can't expect to get what you want when you aren't giving 100% of yourself to this relationship and your family. Some men get tired of hearing that you think they are cheating, and end up cheating since they are getting accused of it anyways, if you don't make a serious change for the better, you may end up alone.

Answer 8

well i think that you need to look at what you are giving him. as you put it you dont really give him anything. you want to tell the truth well so will i and its not to hurt you but i hope this can help. you need to look at your house and do something to help out around there. do somthing with your kids, it can help with the weight!! let them know that your there and you care. they need you!!!!! then with your husband, trust me once you stop acussing him he will want to be around the house more.

well i hope this helps!!!

Answer 9

regardless of what he is doing..your doing enough for both of you to consider this relationship dysfunctional....gaining 40 lbs...would be the least of your worries, the trust issue big one...can't hold a job...another big one..him not wanting sex...is understandable...and it has very little to do with your appearance, its your character/personality, it rubs him wrong and he wants no part of it...and your snooping to see if he has been cheating...you know he might just cheat because he already has been punished for not doing so...please change your jealous ways...be more understanding...treat him the way you want to be treated and enjoy life together.

Answer 10

you have a serious problem there isn't any guy that would want you consider yourself lucky to have sex once a month and from a guy opinion i don't think he is cheating because its obvious he does not want to have sex with you but after a month without he is desperate so he fu*k you because he has no choice so i would say no he is not cheating.