He can go play poker anytime, go look at cars but he can not spend time with us. Can anyone help???????????????
2007-06-28 17:36:55 · 10 answers · asked by rosepedal_25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like he a selfish B*****d
2007-06-28 17:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's a good father, good husband I would think he would try and include you and the kids in his interests and be gracious enough to sacrifice some of his "me time" to do things you and the kids enjoy. Maybe go to car shows together as a family, some of those can be cool for the whole family. Perhaps set aside "family time" where the entire family sits down and decides on where to go, what to do. Good luck
2007-06-29 00:43:23 · answer #2 · answered by hibicent 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you happy in other aspects of your marriage?
It sounds like he wasn't ready for the married life with kids. You should ask him to make some choices and let you know what his priorites are. If you don't like his answers, then it's YOUR turn to make some choices and figure out your priorities.
Maybe you could use marriage counseling, or maybe he doesn't like the activities your doing with the kids. Maybe you should encourage him to take the kids on his own. Maybe he could take them to a baseball game or something.
Good luck....
2007-06-29 02:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by Alicia F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try doing family activities he enjoys like fishing, camping, go to a sports game etc.
Insist that he is at these activities, don't just spring it on him, plan the activity in advance and give him plenty of warning, warn him about the repercussion of him not attending.
Make sure you are still giving him some time to do just guy stuff.
Stick to your guns on this one kids need a participating father.
2007-06-29 00:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you can really get some insensitive answers here huh? Have you made is crystal silly obvious that you feel he isnt spending enough time with you and your family? Guys can be a little dense sometimes unless you spell it out for them. Well, not just guys! :) Try making it non confrontational. Instead of saying, you dont spend enough time with us maybe try, I would really like to spend more time with you? Good luck.
2007-06-29 00:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say to him, if you didnt what to have this kine of a marrige with a wife and kids we should have not been married at all, so If you dont what to be part of this family we have together, I guess, I,ll move on and fine the man that would love to have the family you, have so let me know so I can have a life, with happines too!
2007-06-29 00:44:32 · answer #6 · answered by Winkey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go and do them without him. And get thee to counselling, woman! Sounds like he wants to live a seperate social life and you need to have professional help sorting out your decisions and feelings about staying married to someone that is not "family oriented".
2007-06-29 00:44:52 · answer #7 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Actually, no. We can't help. This is the precedent you've established for the relationship - good luck pulling the rug out from underneath him.
2007-06-29 00:43:45 · answer #8 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yuck. who needs him.
2007-07-03 00:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by Robin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's when you start bitching. and when you do start, do it loudly and often. it usually doesn't take very long.
2007-06-29 00:46:18 · answer #10 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋