why are women today so insensitive?

Question

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what i'd like to know is, why do women see a guy as an enemy for being attracted to them?

women flirt with guys too, and i know that if most of these women were got the same reaction they said they'd give they'd cry all night(and i've never deard of a guy who would not appreciate that kind of attention from a woman). what ever happened to the golden rule?

and also remember that this question was only for mature women who should know better. i can't imagine how it would be if they were teenage girls.

ummmm, a woman can be perfectly straight forward with a man about being attracted to him and he won't be bothered. i don't see why women should. it's a compliment.

and the golden rule is simple: treat people the way you want to be treated. and i know these women would never like for a guy they're attracted to to just blow them off(and they never have to deal with it either).

is the term 'sweetie' really that offensive? it's a friendly term and women say it all the time.

Answer 1

If u really read all the answers u would see that not all women are insensitive, I think mostly a lot of girls are materialistic, or too young and think that looks is really the most important quality in a man, honestly I think they're still immature. some girls just like to play hard to get, while others just think they're too good. Now, there are women like me who do like and accept nice comments from a guy, I've spoken to like old, old men in the bus, why not? they always have something interesting to say or teach us. I can speak to a thug and have a conversation with them, I can speak to 13, 14, 15 year olds and have them say "Hey ur cool" Why? U just have to put yourself thinking like their age. "Sweetie," come on that word is not offensive, I think it's funny I would feel like my grandpa calling me sweetie cause' only he does that. Man some people are so closed minded now a days, right away they get butt hurt and that's even funnier. Have a sense of humor !!!

Answer 2

I'm 27. I read your previous question, but not the answers.

Honestly, I would not pay attention if the person was younger than 20 years old. Especially if the guy looks less than 18 - for it's illegal.

I am engaged, so I wouldn't be too apt to respond to any of them, but the one thing that would truly bother me, is the "sweetie". No offense, but that's a familiar term, it's not something to be used for a total stranger. It's be cool if the person saying it were a very good friend, but it would scare me if someone I did not know said it to me. First thing that I'd think of, especially if it were a 30 plus male, is stalker. I would be scared, and would likely not acknowledge it.

There are plenty of other ways to show that you're attracted to someone. "Hi, how are you? Shopping for the fourth as well? I just wanted to say that your outfit is a pretty color, you really look great."

There's simply not a whole lot you can say in the supermarket while shopping. You really got to get to know the girl before you call her any pet names. In this day and age, where women are kidnapped every day, that seems strange.

I'll add on, yes, sweetie to a stranger is unnerving. I've never heard a stranger call someone that. Everyone that I've heard use the term are all on a familiar basis with each other. It's really gotta be someone you know, or an old aquaintance. Sweetie is a term of endearment between familiar people, it does not show that you find the person attractive. Smiling, engaging in a simple conversation will show that. I would seriously be unsettled if someone used that term with me, lucky for me, my fiance would likely be with me, and I know he wouldn't tolerate it.

Answer 3

Dude, you need to understand something.

They don't see you as an enemy for being attracted to them. They see you as an enemy for using a term of endearment without even knowing them.

If a woman on the street were to come up to me and say "how's it goin' hot stuff?"... do you know what I would assume? I'd assume the woman was either a hooker, or desperate, or drunk, or some combination thereof. For a guy to go up to a girl and call her sweetie, she is forced to assume that the guy is a player, a creep, or surely at least an immature, desperate kid (regardless of your actual age or her actual age) with no social skills whatsoever.

If this question relates to you, trust this: you need to change your approach. To say "how's it goin' sweetie" absolutely SCREAMS "I have no social skills and I just want to get laid."

Don't victimize yourself or demonize women because you got rejected. Take the rejection as evidence that your approach is ineffective and you need some help learning how to respect and engage women in a compelling way rather than go fishing for them in (what surely appears to be) a cheap, sleazy way.

EDIT: "Sweetie," when used toward a stranger, is not NECESSARILY offensive, but most women would consider it degrading, and like I said, it's at least creepy and indicates that you have no social skills.

Remember, I don't mean offense, but I'm telling you that your approach is pitiful. I've never been turned away from girls based on an initial interaction like that, so I think I know what I'm talking about. It's nothing against you... it's just something you've been unable to pick up on so far.

Answer 4

I'm 22 and I wouldn't want a stranger calling me sweetie. If it was someone I knew who is older than me I get that sometimes. And because I look younger than my age, the guy could almost be mistaken for a pedophile coz I look about 16.

As for the golden rule, picture your self in this scenario but opposite sex. Your sitting at the train station and some guy comes up to you and starts touching your leg. Do you take it as a cue or do you tell them to go away/ you walk away? Think about it. I've been there and I didn't pick cue.

Answer 5

i don't think the issue is that women are insensitive, i think it is that you are too sensitive. Please instead of getting defensive, take a second and consider that my assessment could be right.
It's the word 'sweetie' delivered to someone you don't know that would make people freak out. If any guy walked up to me and started a conversation, i will talk to them, physical features will not make a difference, even if they called me sweetie but i admit i will be more cautious and more likely to want to end the conversation because of that. There is something creepy about words of endearment from complete strangers who are hitting on you.
Instead of concerntrating all your energy on defending yourself, why don't you just take the good from the answers and learn from your experience so that it doesn't happen again. Arguing about it wouldn't change the fact that sweetie to a stranger is creepy. Just take it and go

Answer 6

Hello.
Women dont see men as an enemy. But we would rather them show interest in a different way. Being too forward would make us think they just want somthin. That makes us feel upset which in turns rejects you.
Women act differently then men sometimes. We are more emotional (in my opinion) more then men 2. But we would also probably not walk up to a man and call him "sweety " without knowing him first. (In some cases)
(Im too young to know the golden rule. Sorry)

Answer 7

I do treat people the way I'd like them to treat me - distantly.

I don't see them as an enemy - I'm not perched atop my roof with a shot-gun, waiting for a man to walk by - but I'd rather they not call me an overly-familiar name when first meeting me. I'd rather they just talk normally.

Here's how much I hate any name apart from my own - people that I've known for 10+ years and are very close to me can't call me nicknames.

Answer 8

Ok, some women may see men as the enemy, but can you honestly say that all women are like that? Oh, and if they're married or something like that, than yeah, I can see why they are treating you like the enemy.

Answer 9

Whatever doesn't kill u only makes u stronger - Conan X-)