Your first child?

Question

When you want to have your first child do you usually have the urge to have a newborn baby or want a child?
I know it sounds stupid because you will have a newborn then a child
BUT.....I am starting to think about having my first child, but I dont think that I am 100% ready yet because the thought of having a 4 year old scares me!
I had to babysit for one a few months ago and she drove me nuts, but no other kid has ever annoyed me like that before!
AH!
Sorry....im all over the place!

Answer 1

THe thing is you may be ready to have a newborn now and not a 4 year old. But you are not giving birth to a 4 year old!!! In 4 years when you have watched your baby grow and develop you will not even relise it your baby will jus be 4. You will be 4 years older when you have a 4 year old. Is this making sense? I hope so its all very confusing.....

Just like how i have a 5 year old. I was 21 when i had him and hated the thought of having a 2 year old. But when my child was 2 with 2 years of expereince and watching my baby grow i didnt even relise that my baby was 2 except i didnt have a baby anymore. I now have a 10 month old and it scares me to think that she will be 2 in a years time. It wlso scares me now of my boy being 10. But i guess when he is 10 i wont even notice except that i am getting older and am old enough to hae a 10 year old child!!!!

Answer 2

I babysat 3 girls who were 8, 10, and 12 once and they drove me absolutely nuts! When I got home after that weekend (I had to babysit the whole weekend), my mom asked me how it went and I just said "Lets just say I've decided to NEVER have kids!" 2 years later I was pregnant! It really is different when its your child. First of all, theres a connection between the two of you. Second of all, you raise the child so you know what to expect. When I babysat those 3 girls, they would scream at the top of their lungs at times and I didnt like that at all. But their mom was ok with it so thats why they did it I guess. I dont let my child do that. If she starts screaming for no reason, she goes in time out. Babysitting is different. You're hesitant to punish the child because they're not yours. But punishment is a must if you're a parent. No punishment could mean bratty kids later on and you'll have to live with them.

Answer 3

I think that when its your own child, you dont really think about it that way. I know that my first child was a surprise and although I was young (21) and had never held a child before her and I always thought children were rather annoying ( so I was scared too) but once I saw her in an ultrasound it all changed. I changed. She is now seven years old and has taught me so much and I have loved watching her grow and it makes me feel so good to know that I was a part of something so special, creating such a great kid.After having her I wanted to be the best parent I could be so I went back to school and took a lot of early ed courses and eventually became a preschool teacher, I love my job and other peoples children to because I can relate them, whereas before I had my own child I couldnt.

Answer 4

when u have our child it is not the same as babysitting someone else kid. it is different for everyone. I wanted to my first baby and some people told me is was going to be great and fun and other told me it was hard and not fun but the only thing that i can say is look in our heart and be who u are and make the best of it when u do have our own and love it with all our heart

Answer 5

It's important to wait until your older and have had time to find yourself. I know it sounds funny, but your so much more prepared to have kids when your older. My cousin had 3 before she was 20 and then 1 when she was 36. She is a much better parent now then she was the first time around.

I have 3 toddlers and the idea of having a teenager scares the living p@ss out of me.

Answer 6

I know what you mean. Thats why i wish, when they have child parenting classes in highschool, they would have the kids take home a mechanical toddler instead of a baby. Their classes only make teen girls want a baby. Babys are beautiful and happy, toddlers get in the mean phase, and drive you crazy with it.

Answer 7

Thats why they are babies first. They are so sweet and cute you fall completely head over heels in love with them. Then when they are 4 and might be driving other people nuts you will think they are completely adorable.

Answer 8

No you are okay. I used to work in childcare and the older chn would drive me nuts but as soon as you have your own everything is different you will love your baby no matter what age. Good Luck.

Answer 9

I thought of having a baby, child, then young adult someday. Don't worry - other people's kids drive me nuts too. But you feel differently about your own....a child you love and adore. What you feel is normal....

Answer 10

u have 2 get use to the crying !maybe your nerves are bad ! some people have 2 get ready 4 wat is coming i babysit some times and
if the baby is 3through5 let he or she cry it want be spoiled
opinion
babysit
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put it on yo chest and rock
put in the stomach and pat the back