Is it hereditary , bad parenting or what?
2007-06-28 15:47:00 · 9 answers · asked by PAUL A 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hate is not aquired it is taught! It can come from the home environment, immediate social surrounding, etc. If you ever watch some of the programs on Discovery, History, etc., children in and of themselves do not act negatively to people of color or social background. They simply see them as "other kids to play with". It is the adults in our society, (not always parents) that TEACH kids to hate. It is SOOOO sad to see small children mimiking adult hatred. I have 10 grandchildren and I thank God every day that He has blessed my family with the missing ingrediant of hatred. Although we sometimes struggle with intolerance in some cases LOL.
There is a poem called WHAT CHILDREN LEARN: I have added it below:
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
2007-06-28 16:01:25 · answer #1 · answered by Faye Prudence 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Every child learns to hate, it's unavoidable.
However, since it's usually learned by surroundings it's not hereditary. And because it is usually learned by surroundings it gives key to what the cause of the knowledge is. If the child has been barely exposed to the wide world and hasn't yet attended formal school (not pre-school) then it's most likely learned in the home, a sign of "bad" parenting. If it's learned at school then it's really just their friends or a teacher they disliked.
I'd say I learned it about grade 1, so I was 5/6. There was a girl who always excluded me and continued to exclude me until I switched schools for various reasons in grade 7. I hated her as soon as I got to know her. Although I can't remember if at the time I called it hate, the vocabulary of a six year old is, after all, limited, I know the emotion I felt was hate. My sister is in grade two, she's seven and she knows what it is and has for a while, her grade one teacher was a wretched person.
So I suppose my answer is, it's learned from about 5-7 and it is learned, not hereditary.
2007-06-28 16:00:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's for sure bad parenting. It shows how powerful parents and society can be. Some aspects of violent or other behaviors are inate and inheirited but these are mostly controllable and are generally completely overwhelmed by other factors.
Most children "learn" to hate by virtue of their parents, and more specifically watching how their parents interact with other peoples and races.
It is through that perspective and then the comfort of those nurturing experiences which cause racism. No matter that the nurturing experiences may be profoundly hateful or racist.
2007-06-28 16:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by Mark T 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
A child's first learning experiences- come at the hands of their Parents. And since kids percieve that they are loved more when they act like them, then they naturally pick up the NEGATIVE aspects of their parents behavior. ...As a result- the old saying; "The fruit doesn't fall far from the tree..." is only TOO true, all too often.
2007-06-28 15:59:18 · answer #4 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well some people are just natrual born haters, like Tupac and Fiftty. but you can become a hater by pimping some ugly *** hoes and slapping them down foo ight. i learned how to hate at 12 and from then on they call me tyron "the hater". Fo sho
2007-06-28 16:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by lol pirate 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hi, i believe when they are exposed to it they may be influenced by it. Kids are so open and vulnerable that its important they are surrounded with love. They may become influenced by others at school...its an open ended answer, I hope it helps.
2007-06-28 15:57:27 · answer #6 · answered by ~butterfly~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel it is parenting skills...WHATEVER THE PARENTS say, remember the kids are smarter than we give them credit for....if they hear HATE...they will spread hate...it is very sad though..if they preach hate...what will their kids preach...hate....UNLESS they break the cycle...such as in school...THE TEACHER MAY RECOGNIZE it and send them to a counselor...who will tell them it is not appropriate...but it is still UP TO THE PARENTS TO STOP IT!!!..but they don't...
2007-06-28 16:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by sweet 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There's a wonderful song about this in "South Pacific"......Find the disc and all will be revealed... Rodgers and Hammerstein knew a thing or three ! !
2007-06-28 15:57:15 · answer #8 · answered by Ted 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
they learn from the environment that they are surrounded by
they learn by the experiences that they go through
they learn by living life.
2007-06-28 15:53:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋