Why is it that the final decision as to whether to have an abortion lies wholly on the woman? The guy will be just as responsible for the child if she decides to have the child and perhaps disappointed if she aborts. Why does the woman have the final say when it took 2 people to conceive that baby.
I'm looking for something other than "it's her body, she does what she wants."
If I'm wrong in my presumptions, let me know.
2007-06-28 15:07:01 · 12 answers · asked by Jared 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this actually is a hard question for me and always has been...being a woman...and a mother...i know how hard it is to go through a pregnancy...i almost died 3 times while pregnant with my son and the doctors wanted to abort him each time...questions of abortion surrounded my pregnancy from the first moment i found out i was pregnant, due to health issues...and my husband thought it better that i aborted...i still do feel it is the woman's choice due to the things her body goes through during a pregnancy and if that sounds selfish...it is not meant to...while i understand that the man may want the child...it is not his body that is being so adversely affected...and there are several complications that happen during a pregnancy...as with anything...if you are sure enough about a person to have sex with them i think these things should be able to be discussed openly and honestly...if they are not...i am not sure the relationship is real...or established and therefore i don't believe the decision which will effect both Pepe the rest of their lives should be made by both...if however this is an established relationship...and the parents to be have a commitment to each other i think it holds a different stance...i wish people could come to some consensus over this prior to becoming pregnant to eliminate this discussion altogether...
2007-06-28 23:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by Daisy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the classic case of when women wanted to be all liberated, and start making decisions that the men can longer have.
I completely agree with you that it should be an equal decision. If not abortion, there is always adoption, (which is far better from the termination of a pregnancy).
But your presumptions are right. It is all about what the woman wants to do and has nothing to do with what the man wants.
The liberated woman--I am woman here me roar bull..sh..it is so overrated. If this is the case, then they need to shut up about child support. They need to shut up about being in an abusive relationship to long, when they knew that is was bad from the get go. Why do these women still cry and moan over everything, then get a man to do it for the liberated woman??
There is nothing you can do about this, unless you try to petition the courts to stop the abortion. But that could be costly, but still a good fight that would set a precedent.
2007-06-28 15:58:45 · answer #2 · answered by jesterthemutt2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry if you are in this position - I've actually thought of the father on many occasions where I've seen a posting from a woman debating on an abortion... how difficult it is for the father.... yet, like the others, the mother has to carry the child, and as those of us who have been pregnant know - pregnancy is a life changing experience, especially during the pregnancy - it takes over your life for 9 months (which is trying even when you want the pregnancy...) and then there is the actual delivery - the pain and the risk of death to the mother... and then, there's still more - I still have let's say issues with my episiotomy...
It's more than her body - carrying a child is a sharing of self and soul...
Again, I personally do not believe in abortion and have thought of the father's feelings when a woman does this - I agree with you, it is difficult ...
ADD: Perhaps one day science will come up with a way for the father to carry and birth the child...
2007-06-28 15:17:17 · answer #3 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wont find anything more because that is the reasoning. You cant force someone to do something with their body they don't want to do. And lets be real. If an abortion is an option in the relationship the father usually doesn't have as much responsibility for the child...just a piece of a paycheck.
2007-06-28 15:10:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good point. while i do agree totally with the womans right to choose, i also understand where a man might be coming from.many times, the father isn't responsible or has walked away from the situation leaving the woman to make a difficult choice but, in cases where an unmarried couple are having a difference of opinion or if they are married, it obviously gets more complicated. i've heard of cases where the father of the unborn has taken the mother to court to stop an abortion but i don't know of the outcome. it always comes down to "it's her body". sorry.
2007-06-28 15:20:44 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man im really sorry...i do understand the situation ur in tho..unfortunatly there is nothing u can do..and there are no legal rights..doesnt sound fair i know..bc if she wanted to have the baby and you didnt ...guess who would be paying child support for the next 18 years..?
it really does come down to..its HER body..and she has ALL the say of what goes into and out of it..
keep trying to talk to her...maybe ask her to watch the video called 'silent scream' u can find it on youtube... its a harsh reality from the view of an ultra sound of what an abortion looks like while happening.. warning..its chilling ...and SAD..
but works..i know this..my friend was determained to have an abortion..i asked her to just watch this video for me...and she did...now shes got the sweetest 4 year old u ever seen...
dude..i hope it works out for you..
this isnt something you see often...the man stepping up..
HATS of to u.
2007-06-28 15:15:34 · answer #6 · answered by lisa baby... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your plight. It seems to be a totally unfair situation to you. Maybe you should talk to her. Tell her if she haves the baby you will be totally responsible for it. Are you prepared to raise a child on your own if she reconsiders this decision? Then if you are, I am praying for you. So, please talk it over and see what she saids. Tell her this is a life, apart of you, and you want to take care of this life.
2007-06-28 15:19:20 · answer #7 · answered by stepintostep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not fair and your right! a woman can get pg and then have an abortion with out a mans consent. but if a woman tricks a man into getting her pg and he doesnt want it he cant force her to have one. instead he is stuck with HER choice.
2007-06-28 15:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by princessfionafantasy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man does have a legal say. But he has to take it to the courts.And most men will not do this.
2007-07-02 08:41:51 · answer #9 · answered by LDJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all...she is the one who has to carry the child and give birth to the child...it is hard for some women to deal with that fact...its easy for the guy all he got to do is be there for her..no pains no morning sickness no weight gain...so of course the women has the last say
2007-06-28 15:11:49 · answer #10 · answered by kauaichic420 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋