how do i convince my husband to want another baby?

Question

i have always wanted a big family, and me and my husband are fixing to have our first baby and he is now saying that he only wants one kid, and i at least want one more... will he eventually get over that or do i have to convince him? and if i do how do i how?

Answer 1

Mine didnt start out wanting a large family and now he loves it.

All you have to do to get them to have the next one is have sex with them. And that isn't hard at all. ;)

Answer 2

Anyone who says it's evil and selfish to try to convince your spouse to accept another child is really blowing this out of proportion. Geez!

Having children is a natural part of marriage. It brings spouses closer together and helps them to become more unselfish and full of love. How can that be a bad thing to want?

I agree that you might wait until you have the baby to see how your husband feels. Let him adjust to being a father. Let him get to know the baby and enjoy that exciting first year of life.

And then when you start wanting to hold a tiny baby again, approach him once more. Explain how life with a baby has brought challenges, but also blessings. Tell him how having a baby has made you love him more and so one more (or two more) could only be a wonderful thing for your marriage. Tell him how much your child will miss out on by being an only sibling. No lifetime playmates or soulmates. No one to go to school with. Or keep you company at night. Tell your husband that it's actually easier to raise multiple children compared to one child (it's true!).

All the best to you and baby! I will say a prayer for your husband.

Answer 3

When I found out I was pregnant, my husband (who was my boyfriend at the time) had told me from day one of our relationship that he never wanted kids at all. Our son was not planned, and throughout the pregnancy, my husband was nasty. After he was born, however, my hubby realized that all of his worrying had been for naught, and he jumped in with both feet. He insisted, however, that he did not want any other kids.

I always knew that I wanted at least one more child, but I never said anything until after our son turned two, when the desire became too great to ignore. I had tried to quell the feelings for a long time, but one day, I screwed up my courage and told him what I wanted. I am now almost three months pregnant with our second child, who was planned and tried for for eight months. This is how I did it:

I made sure that I had practiced what I wanted to say over and over again until it was perfected, and I could have repeated it in my sleep. Before I talked to him, I told him that I had something important to talk to him about, but that I was very nervous and would prefer that he not interrupt me until I was finished.

I didn't get emotional, and I did not try to coerce him in any way. All I did was point out how great being a parent was and what an awesome dad he was, and I said that I would like to do it again. I made sure he knew that I wanted this, not because of my biological clock, but because I loved him and our family and wanted to add to our happiness. I also told him, however, that if he did not want this, I would not press the issue. Then, I asked that, rather than answer me right then, he just think about it a little, and that we would talk about it at a later date.

I did not mention it again that day. A couple of days later, I brought it up as casually as I could and asked if he had had a chance to think about it. I reminded him that I would go with whatever he wanted. With almost no hesitation, he agreed that he wanted to have another child as well. Eleven months later, and here we are.

Now, I am not saying to do it the exact way that I did. What I am saying, however, is to settle into parenthood before trying to talk to him about a second one (it can be a huge culture shock for the first year or two). Men seem to move more slowly on things like this than do women, possibly because they feel more of the financial responsibility rather than the emotional side of things (although this is not always the case). When and if you do decide that the time is right, approach him calmly and tell him how you feel as simply and straightforward-ly as you can. You may be surprised by his reaction!

Answer 4

Well wait and have this one and wait a some time and yes I think he will get over it. You have to think this is a big change for them and they are excited to get it over with, not deal with it right away.


My husband & I always said we wanted a big family as well now he is the same way and hes like lets wait four years or so, which after being pregnant I am fine with. I know he does not mean it. He just misses his wife away from being big, hormones, sick. all that you know. Just wait do not rush things if you have yet to have this one and your thinking of more.

Answer 5

Your husband could have had that reaction by way of incontrovertible fact which you laid each thing out for him, inclusive of your time table, without attention if he even needed yet another baby at this factor. To throw that right into a communication is somewhat surprising and he could have felt that it replaced into some thing you had desperate on your own, as a result the snotty attitude. observe of your husbands thoughts, on the grounds that his 'attitude' in direction of the belief could desire to coach you he isn't all that throughout the time of choose for going via the toddler point returned. He could sense that he has only gotten his spouse back after 5 + years and is not finding forward to loosing you for yet another 5 + years. with your concentration on your baby and on college he won't sense as in the adventure that your courting is comparable to it replaced into earlier having a baby. He could sense that having yet another toddler will only further positioned a wedge on your courting.

Answer 6

I didn't read other peoples answers, but I'm sure that many smart people have already said - you can't convince your husband of anything. You can talk about it together, but you need to compromise.. if you get pregnant on purpose or try to force him to have another baby he will only end up resenting you for it.

Make sure you do what's best for you both.

Answer 7

i feel your husband is careful in handling this issue-wait for some more time-you have not mentioned the age and sex of the first child-if it is a male-tell him if you have two kids then there will be mutual understanding between them -so that your role is limited as far as the kids are concerned -then you can take care of your husband--when both of you grow older.

Answer 8

I like what the other girl said. But I would wait like three years becasue he porbably wont want to deal with another crying baby for a long time after.

Answer 9

dont get ahead of yourself - you havent even had your first kid...

experts reccomend waiting until your first kid is 2 yrs old before even CONSIDERING having another - you have no idea how demanding (emotionally, physically, and financially) kids are... I am personally tired of people complaining about how tired (or broke) they are becuase they have 2 or 3 kids.. did it not occur to them after the first one that more would be worse???

with 6 BILLION PLUS people on the planet and the United Nations warning us to control population growth (they said 5 Billion was sustainable, anything more is too much and is in fact the #1 threat of continued existance) we hardly need more people

dont even try to convince him of anything now - its WAY too soon... and dont trick him either or he will resent you and the kids.

Answer 10

put some langera on when he ready 4 bed