help me guide my life!?

Question

well im 15 ,never had agirlfriend hardly any friends till now ive been playing guitar for years and im self taught i practice from 7-14 hours a day almost every single day so i have no social life i also skate and im really good but i stopped skating a while ago cause it was getting in the way with my band i have a 90 percentile avg at school and i want to try to study music production and now i dont know what to do cause all of a sudden im popular wit h the girls and all but i gotta keep focused and i dont know what to do now !i feel confused?im also trying to succed in life cause you can pretty much say my family is a wreck and a buch of people who never did anything

ive always been used to not having friends and it kind of helped me cause it gave me more time to think music and lyrics and ive been in bands since i was about 11 but ever since i moved from LA to NY i havent been in any bands or had any friends so i played guitar (electric)

Answer 1

You have already taken the first step number one son, ditching skating for progressing in a band is a good choice, at 15 girls should be your NO1 aim, next associating with good mates, you seem to be going swimmingly anymore advice needed give uncle HAL a buzz.

Answer 2

As uncle HAL has so rightly pointed out friends are not priority number 1, chicks are (don't let ANYONE tell you differently son). The band is a top idea, and your right to ditch the skateboard (although I never ever skated as a teenager, but then again I started my philandering a bit younger than you). Family is another bunch that will drag you down, you have to think of yourself if you are to get on in life. I'll tell you what I tell my lad (who has his eye on captaining England when he's older, good lad my boy). Becoming a rock God, like a footballer is any guys dream but It's not an easy path, otherwise we'd all do it wouldn't we.

Your absolute essential priority is a good education and exam results, hopefully Uni. I know it sounds crap at 15, but it is a must. Continue with the band and hopefully you will never need to fall back on your degree.

Answer 3

Now then sunshine?

Sound like Eric Clapton all over again, long periods of practice, isolation, family issues. Never did him any harm unless you count the heroin addiction and alcoholism ,both of which he will freely admit he was lucky to survive and found degrading, so there is no rock star glamour to be had there.

First: i know it doesnt feel that way but 15 is no age at all, yoiu have time to pick up a girl, pick up a guitar, pick up a book and put them all down again 10 times.

Second: keep your grades up, you can be the best axe man in the world and not be in the right place at the right time and end up like Otto driving the school bus, have a fall back ambition.

3rd; explot your junior rock star status to the maximum, invite girls to hear you play, tell them straight but in a nice way that you are willing to fool around but you dont want a relationship (they on the other hand will want nothing else so be sure you spell it out). Put a bag on it if you strike lucky!!!

4th. Get a good book on adolescent psychology and family issues and read up. You sound bright, you should manage it, dont expect any results from it, just expect to find out that some of the issues surrounding have happened because of a chain of events and reactions , there is an explanation and you are not the cause of the problems. Get to know yourself and your mind, in this way you will know what will make you happy, longer term.

5th; when you are ready, focus on going places where there are lots of young people just hanging out, no guitar, just interaction, you need to learn the chords of relationships as much as music, if not ????

Well you will get the blues my man, even Eric only just survives the blues.

PS people like "the man with no name" who advise you to just drop family as an inconvenience do not serve your interests. Yes , by all means look at the situation, if they are not acting in your interests know the reasons why, but just walking away and submerging the issue is not mentally healthy, it will bite you sooner or later. You will end up advising kids they "dont need anybody" on Yahoo Answers 2027

Answer 4

All rock stars have groupies that follow them around. Learn to live with that that they are into your music, maybe your looks, maybe into the band itself....it's part of the music culture for this to happen and you need to keep things in perspective. Yes, the move changed you but you need to know in your own mind just how much of a change you can make and still be yourelf. Music is an outward expression and if you let it take over your entire life you'll get into alcohol and drugs and that will ruin your life and maybe your career and your future as well. There's always the chance that you might be as popular some day as a hollywood star, but you need to know where to draw the line so that you have a home life and a private life. Find a friend, a relative, who can pull you back into line, who you can talk to frequently, who will keep you in line, who will help you stay in your quiet home life so that you can continue to succeed since that quiet home life appears to be where your base or baseline is. A person can't compose music when there's a lot of chaos in their life, and I know you realize that already.

Answer 5

Having a goal is quite commendable. However, you should not be practicing 7-14 if your career goal is music production and not performance.

If you truly wish to succeed in the music production business it is probably a good idea to develop good people skills and to interact with other young people so you can understand them and what they are going through.

A girlfriend is not that critical at 15 but you certainly will be involved in a few years. When the time comes, it would make sense to find a girl that is also highly into music. Even if she is into a totally different style of music, there are still plenty of things in common with musicians.

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Answer 6

You're 15 and your very focused, thats a good thing. But, EVERYONE needs a social life. Just because your going out dosen't mean you can't play the guitar or be in a band. You have to learn to balance your life. People who don't learn social skills and who stay to themselves become hermits. They work, eat, sleep and go to funtions they are, bascially, forced to go to. Your young, enjoy while your working. In the music business networking is essential and you can only network if you have the social skills to do so.

Answer 7

You sound a very interesting person.
It's hard to stay totally focused on your dream of being a professional performer but if that is what you want, then you have to.
You do need a social life as well and it's about striking a balance.
The urge to be successful is obviously great in you, but we all need friends.
I used to be a principal of a school and if you had come to me with your concerns my advice would be what I have just written.
So do enjoy your music but don't forget to make friends and laugh with life.
Laughter makes the world turn round.
Best of luck.

Answer 8

You sound like a very bright person. I am sorry that you haven't had the best time in the past but I think you know that that is what makes you you! It is cool that you play the guitar, I know how tough it is so you should be proud of yourself. Keep on dreaming and stay focused you can make a difference!

Answer 9

Carry on with practice, investigate going to the London College of Music, find out entry requirements. No reason why you cannot give time to a girlfriend two to 3 times a week.

Its a question of giving the time to the music, to school work and study and the girlfriend if you wish.

Answer 10

You have to decide what it is you really want. At one scale it's great you are trying to make something of yourself and are focused but have you ever heard that expression 'all work and no play makes jack a dull boy'. What I'm trying to say is you also need a social life too, you have to try and split your time in an equal balance that will suit you.