I am a mohter of 2 and pregnant again.Im always tired and hungry.?

Question

I dont know what to do when im tired because my 3 year old daughter dont take naps and my 2 year old son has developmental delays and NO one is trying to figure out why or whats wrong with him.I am also depressed. I have mixed feelings about my whole life and my husbend of 4 years is great but not makin enough money to pay bills and get food and the state wont help us at all.I dont know what to do anymore?!

Answer 1

Well, take a deeeeep breath.
i've been in a similar position. my oldest daughter has autism and i have 2 more kids. for a long time, my husband didn't make enough for our family either and it was a struggle every month.
I had to deal with my daughter's autism and basically two babies!

What help for me was my church. They would raise money to help pay bills every month.
look for a child find in your area. they can evaluate your son and find a program to help him with his delays. It free! they can also help you to help him at home. You might want to consider a child pycological exam through child find-just to see if autism is consideration for your son.

trust me, you will get through it.
my husband got promoted a few times and know we are more financial secure. my daughter is in a great program and she is gaining more and more communication which lessen the frustrations and fits!
if you want to talk further, you can email me. just check out my profile.

I hope i helped!

Answer 2

Tired and hiungry are pretty common - especially with the other two to run around after.

Eat when you can - try that six small meals a day thing, it really seems to help.

See if you can find another mother - or several - with whom you trade off watching the kids with. That way you could set it up so you could have a daily nap, or several hours a few times a week to be by yourself.

Set bedtimes for the kids, and insist they stick to them - and then take yourself to bed soon after!

Spouse may work all day, but maybe get him to take them for a walk after work so you can relax for a half hour (maybe even doze off) and then fix supper with you when they all come back.

If the depression gets worse, mention it to your doctor.

Also call social services - tell them your situation. I bet you do qualify for certain programs like utility assistance. You definitely sound like you qualify for a food bank.

Also consider Section 8 housing - it's a lower income housing that can be very nice (your own place may qualify, actually, so you don't have to move). basically, you're charged a rental rate based on your pay and the state makes all the rest.

Don't worry about this being welfare - this is, indeed, part of why taxes come out of your spouse's paycheck.

Answer 3

Don't lose hope! Things could be a lot worse! Maybe someone can babysit and look after your children for a morning or an afternoon every now and again which would allow you to get some of that important rest. We could all use a break and some down time!! Keep perservering with your 2 year old and find them answers. Don't give up - nothings stronger than a mothers love. Google for help groups in your city and call them...there should be a good handful of help groups there to lend assistance. Don't forget to try charities, as they can do lots to help you as well. Google them as well and find out what is in your area. Be strong, as problems have a way of resolving themselves out - whats a problem today we laugh at tomorrow! Chin up, and i'm hoping the best for you!

Answer 4

You need to have a net work of friends and family to help you out. If you dont have blood relations, consider joining a church or other social group.

Its hard momma, but you're be alright. Just press through this part of your life. Once the kids are through their toddler years things will ease up.

Stick to strict schedules, it will make your life and the kids lives more stress free. Dont be afraid to ask friends or family to take the kids for a couple hours so you can rest. Being pregnant is hard.

If you feel that you're a danger to yourself or the children, call a neighbor to come over and go clear your head. If you're super concerned, call 911, or seek professional help.

There are programs run by each state to help with women in your situation, you can call your local offices to see what they are. :)

You will be okay, you just need to decide that you will be.

Answer 5

Sounds like you have a lot on your plate. I assume you're a stay at home mom. Are you positive you shouldn't consider giving this 3rd child up for adoption? It doesn't sound like you can handle more children right now. Your son sounds like he's going to need special attention, and if he does have developmental problems, that takes money. I don't mean to sound mean, but were you doing anything to prevent becoming pregnant again knowing you can't afford what you've got? I realize it's too late now, but again, it's not too late to consider adoption.

Good luck to you.

Answer 6

I would say contact your local Salvation Army . Or your local Catholic Church. They both have been know for helping families out when they need it . You also might qualify for W.I.C. The Catholic Church near where I live gives out food once a month ,every month.

Don't listen to some of these people kid are god's gift to us.Every body has hard times once and a while

http://www.salvationarmyusa.org/usn/www_usn.nsf

http://www.fns.usda.gov/wic/howtoapply/default.htm

Answer 7

well why are u continuing to have children when you can't afford them. that just puts you and them in a mess. and then you want to get someone like me to help you take care of them by taking money out of my pay check. the state shouldn't help you. you should start taking birthcontrol. oh and get a job!! and ur son has developmental delays, well you need to get off your lazy butt and find him help. if one person can't help you you need to find someone else that can. search the internet and do your homework. stop looking for a hand out. that is your childs life your playing with.

Answer 8

Sounds like you need to call your doctor to give you Zoloft, which is an anti depressent that does not hurt the baby.

our hormones are out of wack and you are going to get depressed this is part of being pregnant, which you know.

Have you thought about getting a job yourself to bring in some money? And this might sound awful but maybe think about giving the baby up for adoption, I have a 8 and a 5 year old and I know how expensive it is. 1 more makes it harder. Good luck to you and please talk to your husband about how you feel.

Answer 9

As for your son who is DD. You have to be his advocate. Call your doctors office and get a phone number to call for resources.
Or call your OB/ GYN, and tell her you are having a tough time. Tell her/ him, you need help. They often have resource numbers.
You have to keep pushing and pushing, no one will do it for you.

Contact a local church, a large one. They often have food banks and clothes banks. They will help. Just ask.

Answer 10

Just hang in there. It's tough being a mom.