there is the love...yet he cannot rush to a divorce (and you understand that).
1. suffer it, give him hell, and maintain that relationship? how long would you give him?
2. stay away from him, and suffer....really really suffer.
3. move to another place, another planet would be preferable.
2007-06-28 12:26:05 · 25 answers · asked by thuy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You will suffer in the long run if you stay with this married man. He is married and you are the "other" woman - you cannot trust him - you cannot know or ever know if he is lying to you or his wife or both. If you wait for him and he actually does divorce her (it will usually be because she will no longer put up with him cheating) then give it time and he will cheat on you. It does not change. I know from direct personal experience. Yes, heartache - Yes, pain - but end it - move on and don't look back. Real love is out there for you - dont be afraid to find it. Don't be afraid to be alone - you deserve the best and being the "other" woman is not the best.
2007-07-04 15:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by geminijeanna 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why SUFFER?
Why can you not just move on and find another man. One that is NOT taken at the time? I believe in love like the next person but what type of person would allow them self to go through ANGUISH just because the man of the MOMENT is taken?
YOUR best bet is to MOVE ON and find someone else. YOU are allowing yourself to suffer by SETTLING in a situation you know is not good for you. Because you are allowing yourself to be treated as such, until you realized that you can do better and are worth better you will be STUCK and miserable!
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2007-07-06 03:00:19 · answer #2 · answered by Nice&Neat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a situation without a good end. No matter what you should not have gotten involved with a married man. Even if he does leave his wife for you could you ever truly trust him to be faithful to you after he cheated on the woman he vowed to love forever? Pick 2, it may hurt but it will be better in the long run.
2007-07-03 04:11:11 · answer #3 · answered by Jason J 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay away, suffer and get over him. Why do you want to be a willing participant in hurting another human being....his wife. Does it excite you that you are hurting someone else, or do you just enjoy being a plaything since he wont leave her and ..goes home to her everynight to wisper I love you in her ear.
Why torture yourself for someone who may never leave his wife. Not to mention that if he does leave her, you end up being wife number two and then BAM....you are ex wife number two.
There is NOTHING romantic about being with a CHEATER! Thats what he is and what do you think that makes you......
I wish you luck in becoming the kind of woman that doesnt need a married man.
PS...I dont mean to be harsh, but you kinda need a wake up call.
2007-06-28 12:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by Breava 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Stay away from him and not suffer....... You are already suffering now.....
Think about it logically (not emotionally) Why would you want a man who you know has cheated in prior relationships? That only means there is a strong possibility he will cheat on you.........that is, if he ever left his wife for you?
2007-07-03 09:04:04 · answer #5 · answered by warriorandangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I don't doubt the love on either side but married and cheating means that he lies. Liars are called liars because they're not known for being open and honest which is the only way for a relationship to survive.
2007-06-28 12:40:48 · answer #6 · answered by Lori A 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
all depends on you.
1. You will ALWAYS be 2nd fiddle.
2. If you think he will really leave her for you...you are delusional
3. If you choose to stay and give him hell about staying with his wife, you are just chasing away what you consider a good thing
4. The best advise is to just leave him alone, you are cheating yourself when you hook up with a cheater....unless of course that is all you want.
2007-06-28 13:06:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he is married, get out of the relationship you deserve better than that. If he does this type of cheating on his wife now, what do you think he would do if you were his wife? Go on get out, sure it will hurt, but you will find love. No matter what he tells you, he is using you. Try to see the other side of the nickel....
2007-06-28 12:36:59 · answer #8 · answered by catira1953 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not over till it's over. You can't justify having a relationship with a married man by saying he will get a divorce. You can't know that for sure. It's never OK to enter into a relationship with married man.
2007-07-02 21:49:50 · answer #9 · answered by atomzer0 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would opt for choice 2 or 3 if he is not yet legally separated from his wife. You do not need to get in the middle of his marriage or divorce. If he is serious about leaving his relationship, that is a decision that he has to make on his own. If he wants to be with you, he will do what he needs to do to get to that point.
2007-06-28 12:33:35 · answer #10 · answered by Just Me 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋