what should i do??

Question

my bf broke up wit me last monday ,we had so much plans toghter ,we were gonna get married and everything ,we've been fighting alot due to the breakup, i called him like 4 days after but he told me he didnt want anything to do with me anymore and he changed his cell # so i couldnt get in contact with him...anyways the next day i found out im pregnant ,i called his job to tell him but he doesnt want anything to do with me...should i keep the baby knowing he probally wont be there in the future or just have an abortion?? im only 25 and im tired of the rollercoster ride i had with him....

Answer 1

if u r preg u have to let him know,if he still reject u well
get rid of the baby (even if it doesn't has a sence of humanity),coz u won't have a big chance to have another guy
they won't want u with a baby,u know stupid guys wanna have fun,they think only about their pleasure

Answer 2

Eeeeech! You are in a VERY sticky situation. I'm going to be honest with you okay. You can't get online and ask people if you should get an abortion! When one decided to have an abortion, it is a decision that THAT person has to make. By asking people on the internet you are setting yourself up for failure because you are going to get answers from BOTH pro-choice and pro-life and you will only be left confused.
In my opinion, you need to take a while to think of ALL options, not just abortions. Also, use this as an experience. Always use protection even if you are 'in love' until a wedding band is on your finger. This will avoid all of this from happening again! I do, however, wish you all of the luck possible hun. I really do.

Answer 3

I feel your pain and understand the hard-aches and set-backs. When you've done all that you know to do, keep your head up, you'll smile again. Trouble is everywhere and all people have hang-ups and bad breaks. Don't let this lower your self esteem and back you in a corner where you don't feel complete without him. Be strong, only the strong survive. If you have the stamina, have that baby and use the law. They will be on your side.
I had ten children by a dead beat husband/dad. He abandoned us.Do you believe somebody else came along and wanted me and my kids? He is a real man and I didn't go looking for him. Yes, we have disagreements but they are not fatal. He is my soul mate. He love these kids and me as though they came from him. I believe if this young man don't love you, you will get your soul mate. (smile)

Answer 4

please don't have an abortion, it's not the kids' fault. If for some reason you are not capable of raising the kid, there are plenty of less fortunate couples that want a child but CAN'T have one. If you're a believer, pray to God over your situatuion and have other members of the church pray for you and your baby, I know for a fact God will provide a beautiful, fulfilling future for both you, your baby and your future husband. As for the bf, when you get the chance, let him know about your situation. If he's half the man he NEEDS to be he will rise to the occasion, otherwise maybe God has someone better in mind for the childs father. Most importantly, take care of yourself and your gift from God.

Answer 5

Ask yourself: Why would you want a boyfriend who wants nothing to do with you? Because he was the one to break up first? Do you really want to bring up a baby without a father or a name due to no fault of the baby's? What are the reasons for wanting to be tied down with this child? You are young and have a wonderful life ahead of you. Think of all the good men who would not give you a roller coaster rides and NOT break up after talking future talks.

Answer 6

If you commit to having the baby, be aware your former bf won't be around to help. It will be an entire change of lifestyle for you for the next 18 years. Even if you go through the whole paternity/child support route, all he has to do is move and disappear and you will not even have financial support from him.

Think about your options (including adoption) and get on some birth control, girl!!

Answer 7

Un-Friggin believable the immaturity in society today.
You are 25 yrs old and acting 16. I know everyone has their view points on abortions and mine - since you asked - is using abortion as a form of birth control is heinous - despicable. Though everyone will debate on the fact of it being murder I believe it is just that. If you couldn't be mature enough to have a safe sexual relationship to begin with then lie in the bed that you made. Which leads to my next suspicion. If you had all these grand plans then why would he "out of the blue" "all of a sudden" split. You did something - and I wouldn't be a bit surprise if you have conjured up this pregnancy story - whether you are aware of it or not. (One of those compulsive liars that doesn't know they lie). Straighten your immature self up and seek professional help.

Answer 8

Tell him about the baby and tell him that your keeping the baby and hes paying childsoprt and stay away and worrie about the baby not him.

Any one that thinks its rite to have an abortion after laying with someone no matter how much you like that other person afterwords inless it was rape or insast is wrong and if they have tooken that action they should be put away for murder or exicuted its wrong and hope you go to hell

Answer 9

you have to let him know first before you decide anything.

if, even after he knows the truth, he still wants never to talk to you again, think about your options.

having an abortion is not just a little operation. i don't know your ethic/religious opinion, but u must know that u will carry this burden all your life, and you will know that it was your choice. You can always give a child to a foster place, but an abortion is final and forever. People will judge you whatever you do.

Do what you know to be the right thing.

Answer 10

Speaking as a women that would love to be a mom, let this baby go if you aren't ready for the commitment. Let the man go either way, whether you keep the baby or not. He clearly doesn't want anything to do with you and you don't need him!!

Answer 11

If you want to contact him and he IS the Father of your child, go to his work and confront him QUIETLY. If he still does not want to talk to you, contact his boss and let him know all you want from your bf is a paternity test and then you will leave him alone, if it is not his.
The good news, if it IS his, his boss will ask him to step up and act like a man.
My girlfriend made it known, in a personals add, in her local news paper, that this man made her pregnant and does not want to accept the responsibility and printed his name, so others would know he does not practice safe sex.
From me, a lawyer, this would be slander, except when we went to court, my friend produced her paternity test, that proved he WAS the father and not slander. The judge asked the young man, "So what's the problem young man?".