I have been married to my husband for 5 years, in the begining we were inseprateable, but we both ended up getting strung out on drugs and going to jail. While I was in jail, I had alot of time to think, and I was not happy with myself for the things that I had done, well when I got out, I started living with my husbands sister and brother, and I was depressed...and before I knew it I was using meth with his brother and ended up sleeping with his brother. Well me and my husband broke up and I went to rehab and got clean and started to move on with my life when my husband wrote me from prison, said he had forgiven me and wanted to work our marriage out....welll we did get back together, and for the last five years it hasnt been the same between us...and I do take the blame for most of it...but I thought when you forgave someone, you put it behind you and pushed on...wellleverytime we fight he brings it up, we dont make love but like once every two months and there is zero affection be
2007-06-28 12:04:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
between us...am I wrong for wanting to give up on this marriage. I know that I have caused the problems in this marriage, and I have taken responsibility for it, but how long does one have to suffer for the wrongs that they have done? I dont think I can live the rest of my life like this....does anyone have any insite they can give me? any suggestion? I need help please!!!!!!
2007-06-28 12:06:02 · update #1
For the ones of you who wanted to answer with such poor answers, I guess you didnt read my first question right, that of course is one of the problems in my marriage is the relationship between my husband and my daughter, and I have never siad that I didnt love my husband, I said I thought that my marriage was over because of some of the things that has happened in the past and what's going on with my daughter now. Im sorry you guys didnt understand that.
2007-06-29 06:20:29 · update #2
To start with your not just to blame, the both of you make a foolish mistake. But it was you who made the choice to change you life around. From the sound of you question you husband is using the misplace guilt you feel against you. Also it sounds as though he has not made the commitment to a clean life you have. You sound like you have you head on straight. Hard to say as well as read but cut you losses with him and move on and who knows it might just be what he needs to get it together. If not then in time you'll find your going to be happier with out him and the pain that he's causing and you'll be able to enjoy the new life that your making for yourself. It'll be hard but things worth having are but you know that, you became clean and that was NOT an easy road to go down. Good Job.
2007-06-28 12:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by Navy POP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience I know that once infidelity has occurred it is extremely difficult to rebuild trust. Your only hope is most likely professional counseling. There is certainly now guaranteed method. Just a lot of hard work. Even then it may not end the way you want. I was married to my first wife for 25 years. I made a mistake, I admitted it, we worked on it for 5 years but it was always a wedge. I wish you the best.
2007-06-28 19:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by brotherlove@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a posting 4 minutes before this one about your huband and daughter saying that you love them and don't want to lose either one now you're talking about how crappy your marriage is and how you don't care? You're a pretty good story writer and must be someone very very bored.
2007-06-28 19:40:18 · answer #3 · answered by Diggity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices #1 Be miserable and unhappy and stay in the rut your in*.. or #2 the opposite of #1*...
2007-06-28 21:41:54 · answer #4 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like soo much went on here. Its up to you if you want to keep trying to make it work but it sounds like you'll keep trying all your life if you stay with him. I think you need a new beginning...... start fresh! Let the past make you stronger but i truly do think you need to start over.
2007-06-28 19:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you just ask a question about your daughter now you throw this out, good lord, get a LIFE!!!
2007-06-28 19:08:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear. You need psychological counseling. Seriously. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-06-28 19:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is common. Contratulations! You are now a free person. Enjoy!
2007-06-28 19:07:24 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have truely been trying and you still don't see a future. Leave!
2007-06-28 19:17:24 · answer #9 · answered by ♪♫♪justpassingby♪♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are the one who needs help
2007-06-28 19:14:48 · answer #10 · answered by lueluham 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋