Is there an insecurity you struggle with?

Question

What is the root of it?

Answer 1

always...
i never seem to be enough to all the people i love & claim love me.
all my life i end up second best or at the very last..
it all started when my parents wanted to leave me for a Catholic orphanage when i was still a toddler.
due to poverty & my dad's contagious disease, both my parents wanted my security.
in the process, i lost it.... i became insecure since then.

i never knew it, only when my mom confessed everything when i graduated high school. ive been wondering why do i seem to be so unsure of myself, of my worth, of my capabilities. it was answered that very day.....
slowly through that knowledge im learning to find myself... my true self... the one who's happy for simply being me.
& hopefully someday, securely keep it within me.
:-)

Answer 2

I try not to struggle at all. There's either a useful answer to everything, or there isn't; and one can either implement it or not. I learned from my grandparents' and parents' struggles a sense of self-worth independent of others' judgement, and that while we can live, think, act, without fear of mistakes (which are inevitable), that's the only security that matters. We can undercut ourselves with whatever we fear to lose - including life, which we'll eventually lose anyway. So fear for others' wellbeing is the greatest insecurity with which I struggle - but I know it is theirs to have the joy of fighting for. But I suppose I sometimes have some sense of insecurity wondering whether I might be unfortunate enough to outlive my money, or weak enough to be tempted to make it last longer by not buying presents - what a horrible thought! There lies defeat! I suppose the root of this is my sense of astonishment that from poor beginnings I made enough money to retire at 49, fulfilling a life-long ambition without really trying although I worked hard at many things (mostly out of curiosity). I still cannot believe the opulence in which we of the "West" live, the opportunities we disregard, the implications we ignore - the luckiest, and most foolish, humans, ever. There lies the insecurity of us all.

Answer 3

I always worked hard and the last 2 years I had to stay home with my family. The big boy is going to school and the little one just came in this world (he is 1 year old). So they needed me. The time to go back to work comes fast. I had some good and some bad experiences with jobs. I really want to work to help my family.

My problem is WHERE should I go? To a job well paid but away from my kids all day long? Too a job payed less but near the house and OK for my family to visit me at any time they need me?

My husband says he and the kids need me. He shows me every day career women who forget to live.

So my biggest insecurity is: career or family?
Do not tell me you can have both because i have been there.

Answer 4

My insecurity stems from a ungrounded child hood, my parents drank, fought, and seem to push me and my younger sister aside. To lack the example of a good, balanced, healthy marital relationship has resulted in power struggles, control issues and poor self worth. Feeling not good enough for this wonderful and beautiful woman was one of the worst things I have ever done to someone. These sorts of insecurities are very damaging, understanding were these insecurities have stemmed from are the only reason why I am now able to love my wife with not just all my heart, but all my soul. She deserves to be treated as a individual and be recognized that she has chosen to love me for who I am. The least I can do is know who I am.

Answer 5

I have insecurities, but I don't struggle with them(at least
not consciously). The insecurity can be well-placed as
an alert to awareness of potential conflict. To doubt
is to be cautious, and particular scenarios warrant
caution. Therefore, the root is consideration for appropriate
response.

Answer 6

The root of my insecurity is some weird circumstance which has led to my passing through life with Asberger's and attention deficit, complicated by post traumatic stress syndrome, and leading all the way back to child abuse (me the child).


Still, I love life and choose to try not to complain. Don't cry for me, Argentina, nor any of you others. I'll make my success, somehow, G-d willing.

Answer 7

I am a petite person and I have always wanted to be bigger. I didn't realize how tiny I was until I became pregnant. Every part of my body grew an even though I put on @70#, I never felt sexier in my life. I am back to my previous size now, and I feel so small in comparison.
Everyone in America is on a diet to lose weight and I am trying to gain-could this be what a minority feels like in our society?

Answer 8

Of course! My age and condition include physical weakness. I don't receive medical assurance that my twice hit left hand can heal. I have rare illnesses, not all doctors, graduates of medical colleges have been taught about, so this info. slips through the crack, making doctors unable to help me. My hands don't work very well and I drop things. I have no reason to think tomorrow will be better for me. Ihave Celiac Disese, Scleroderma, migraines, near deafness, and spend most of my time alone.

Answer 9

Not being able to provide myself with a good future when I'm old. I don't plan on getting married (having parents who divorced twice does that to you) and no kids (I grew up without a good mother so I don't think I'll be a good mother and I don't want to put my children through torture like I had to go through) but who will look after me when I'm old and ill?

You may think its weird I worry about this. But having experienced this personally, I know how important it is to have something with you in the future. My grandma died old, but if she did not have the support of her son (my dad) and her grandchildren (my brother and I) she would have died probably 10 years ago because she just wouldn't have been able to look after herself - she had heart disease, arthritis, bound feet which make it impossible to walk (thank you, Chinese tradition) etc etc. It was the small things that we did for her which she couldn't do which made her life more easier.

I don't want to live unhappily, but I don't want to die unhappily either.

Answer 10

I don't want to say they're insecurites...more like the truth of things..just put in a negative way. Maybe I'm pessimistic and can always see the bad side of me, but I find it a good way, so I can improve myself, but bad in a way, because where I live, the kids my age would snipe you out if you can't handle yourself...they'll sniff you out from the confident, and make sure that you're staying down on the floor.

Answer 11

That my job skills will be obsolete tomorrow, the same day I get fired for posting on Yahoo answers. Keeping up with things in my industry is a full time job it its own right, the kid getting out of school has a much better chance of getting hired.