should i hate her?

Question

i met this girl in one of my classes in college and i did so many good things to her i helped her out with a presention in which i did all the work and she did nothing except present it i talked to her a lot and we became good friends and then i told her that i like her more than a friend but the problem is she had a bf and then she told me we shouldn't be friends anymore cuz her bf dosnt approve of this so i left her alone a little while then texted her if we can just talk i sent her like 5-6 messages then she said leave me alone plus went and compliant about me saying that i was harassing her i mean i did so many good things to her in the end she just threw it all away i feel so used should i hate her please no rude comments

i wasnt stalkin her i just asked her if we can talk

people i did leave her alone after she told me to thats why iam so mad that she told on me and

Answer 1

HATE HER!
you sound like a really sweet guy who would do anything for her & she wont talk to you anymore?
forget about her, get a girl u deserve, & when she realizes how wrong she was; dont take her bak as a friend.
kcuf her! [her the first word backwards]

Answer 2

Hate is ugly and will only eat you up from the inside. Don't hate her, learn from this and move on. She used you and has no qualms with doing so. You are much better without her anyway, even as just a friend.
Watch how far you go too. She has already asked you to back off and leave her alone. Doing so would be advised as you could be arrested for stalking or something if you continue contacting her, etc.
As I said, let it go, learn your lesson and move on. I am sure there is someone out there who can and will appreciate you for who and what you are and won't take advantage of you.

Answer 3

You helped her out in her time of need out of the goodness in your heart. She was appreciative of this I assume. However just because you helped her out does not make it an automatic that she wants to have a romantic relationship with you. She should not feel obligated and you should not expect her to. You told her that you liked her more than a friend and she does not feel the same way. That should be good enough for you to take the hint and move on. Obviously her boyfriend is jealous of the time you two spent together and has put a halt to the friendship and she has obliged to his request. Let her go and move on. No you should not hate her.

Answer 4

Wow! I don't think you could say you were ever really friends. You knew what you wanted from the begining. You never wanted to be just "friends". No, you shouldn't hate her. You brought it on yourself. And you were being deceitful. You worked your way in and became her "friend" and then all of a sudden you went to Creep mode. Bad mistake. And next time make sure there's no BF.... and back off the text messages unless you wanna *** kicking... what would you do if a guy kept texting your girlfriend?

Answer 5

No you shouldn't hate her, but you know this. Hate does nothing to the person that it is intended for. Think about the fact that she lost a good friend and you lost a friend that does not appreciate you. That is not a bad thing, as you go through friendships and "relationships" you must learn to filter out the bad from the good. In the end you won out.

Answer 6

She didn't use you, you shouldn't hate her, because first off you never made ANY of your actions clear to begin with so how do you think she feels? Think about it some girl comes up to you helps you out you get along and shes helps you pass a class NOT because you asked for it but she did it. However your dating the love of your life, then one day she goes umm so I totally want you. You go omg wtf were just friends well now that its out there you can't take it back just like imaginary girl wouldn't be able to but is is respectful of her to still want to continue a relationship? Just as it really isn't fair to her think about how awkward that has to be for her knowing that you like her? You helped her yes but you had a hidden agenda and never brought it up to her and now your regretting the consequences of your actions. She has every right to not want to talk to you no matter what you did for her in class this is her relationship she is messing with now thats more serious than school or grades, and in fairness if shes asking you to not speak to her you need to respect that because not matter what your not going to be friends its impossible if someone has feelings for the other.

Answer 7

Don't hate her ignore her like she does and pretend nothing happen, she probably just used you to get by in the class and once she succeeded in getting what she wanted she started being rude with u cause' u were no longer needed to her. Ignoring her is the best thing u could do because it will show that u never cared and that it didn't bother u how she treated you.

Answer 8

You definitely got used, but you did it willingly. The next time you are thinking about going out of your way for a girl, ask yourself if you'd do the same thing for one of your male buddies. If not, your motives aren't good. The fact that you had done so much for her did not obligate her to maintain a relationship with you. But it did make you feel entitled - and that's where your mistake was.

Answer 9

It was nice to help her out with school but it is obvious that she is not romantically interested in you. You do kinda sound scary and obsessive or possessive. You need to get a grip ,accept the rejection and move on. If you keep approaching her when she says"no" you really are asking for trouble-either from her,her boyfriend or the law.

Answer 10

Don't listen to tough guy. You are not ugly. He's just an asshole. I think that what she did to you was very rude, but you can't really do anything about it if she has a boyfriend. And you need to respect her decision for not wanting to talk to you. Just let her go. Just next time be more careful when being SO nice to ppl. Good Luck =)

Answer 11

I don't think that you should hate her. Just remember this and keep it as a learing experience. The next time around you will know how this situation felt and won't be so quick. If she used you to help her then she will try again. Don't do anyone elses work for them, allow them to do it themselves. Forget about her. There is someone that will appreciate you. God Bless