1 year less sex?

Question

Dating guy for a year sex dying down dramaticly?
Ive been dating this boy for a year and the sex has died down dramactily he use to want it all the time and now never starts it i always have to ask. we still have it but now its way shorter then it used to be way less and i always have to start it. and i know hes a very sexual person were going to move in together and im almost positive hes not cheating but when i ask i never get a straight answer

Answer 1

Not sure what to tell you unless he's just bored I would assume he's cheating or stressed out or has a medical condition. After I eliminate those as possibilities it wouldn't matter to me if I was really interested in having an active sex life--we'd just have to split up.

Answer 2

Dont move in together.
He is either cheating or he has a low sex drive. He wouldn't want to give you a straight answer either way. If he is cheating he is no good for you and if occasional sex is no good to you you would be better off with someone with a libido to match your own.Otherwise your in for many years of frustration.
You say he was active to start with to impress you no doubt, but a normal bloke should be able to maintain that for a lot longer than a few months.

Answer 3

I have gone through the same thing, just recently moved out last Thursday. I too know he wasn't cheating, but it does make you feel insecure. I would never get a straight answer, other then I pick and argue with him all the time. As, I sit here with a lump in my throat I would love to tell you that I have the answer but I don't. I would tell him that you love him and you feel that he should be able to tell you anything without you passing judgement. I wish you nothing but the best of luck and I deeply feel for you!

Answer 4

Yes, because sex was a goal for him. Now he's had it a hundred times, it definitely is no longer a goal. The two of you need to agree on goals, and that doesn't seem to be happening. It's all down here from here, unless you fix it.

Answer 5

Sounds like my relationship, at least you haven't married him yet. Believe it or not, some guys are not very sexual...It's not going to change either...Sex is very important in a marriage... It gives you a sense of fulfillment and happiness... and it makes your relatoinship stronger....After a lot of years of living an almost sexless life...You will be misrable.......

Answer 6

The new wore off.
I am not trying to be mean or nasty, but that is what my husband told me once when i asked. along with you wore it out and a few other things that i wont repeat!!
Dont worry, it dies down then comes back with great strength again

Answer 7

he's cheating or is tired of the same sex, try to spice it up a little. play games, use toys, sexy clothes. if that don't work, then cut him loose. you don't want to be stuck in a sexless relationship and living with it.

Answer 8

It sound like you need to get this issue addressed prior to moving in with him. You need to confront him with your needs and desires. If he is unable to open up with you about what is going on with him, it might not be a good idea to move in with him.

Answer 9

You are playing with fire when you engage in a pre marital sexual relationship & you WILL be burned. Of course he is cheating on you.Thi s is your Wake up call.

Answer 10

step back do not move in together. you both need to talk and make sure you both are on the same page and does he want out... put your cards on the table....If he does not want you move on and make yourself #1....