2007-06-28 09:17:02 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Stop allowing people to pick on you and feel unloved. Stop trying to "reach out" to anyone or any group of people that you think will accept you.
People aren't born gay
2007-06-28 10:21:26 · answer #1 · answered by RitzFitz29 5 · 0⤊ 7⤋
There are various programs available to help a person out from a gay life-style if that is what they want to do. It is often referred to as Reparative Therapy and can be either secular or faith-based in design. There are many theories and beliefs about what "makes" a person gay. No study has been able to show without doubt why some people are gay and some are not. Some people "come out" into the gay community and are very happy. Others are not happy in this way of life and wish to come out it. Each person is an individual and can make choices and change if they want to. I am the mother of a son who is gay. I love him and respect the challenges he faces as a homosexual. Both his dad and I support him in his quest to become who he wants to be. Here are a couple websites which may be helpful. http://www.leaderu.com/orgs/narth/reparativetherapy-ch01.html
http://www.lovewonout.com/
2007-06-28 09:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A person is born with a sexual preference. Some people's preferences are stronger than others. Other people's aren't as strong and can be shaped more so by their environment and life experiences.
EDIT: So if you're "hovering" in between liking men and women with no STRONG preference, you can sway one way more than the other by immersing yourself in that type of environment and thought process.
If you are a late teen or an adult, its highly unlikely that you can change gay to straight. A gay person can always have a sexual encounter with the opposite sex, but its not just the act of sex that makes you gay or straight ... its what you naturally prefer and are attracted to.
2007-06-28 09:28:15 · answer #3 · answered by splurge_munki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey dude, I don't think u are gonna get a real answer to this. And I'm thinkin it's cuz nobody really knows for sure.
I got 2 gay friends. Now one of em says he thinks he was born gay. Now the other one says he was straight before and turned gay later on. Both of em are dead sure they are right.
So go figure. And I see u get some comments here like its part of your DNA. And then some that think different.
I don't even think scientists know for sure. And then maybe both cases are true where there are some people born gay and some born straight that turn gay, and then maybe some born gay who turn straight....who knows.
So...u still ain't got a answer to either of your questions. Sorry about that but I'm thinkin its better to say "I dont know" than to spout some stuff that may or may not be true.
2007-06-28 09:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
There are claims that a gay person can be changed into a straight person. But that is highly controversial. I believe it is something you are born with and that you can not change. If it was a choice, there is a possiblity that it could be change. But if you chose to be gay, then so what. I don't think we should try to make gay people turn straight. I think that's wrong.
2007-06-28 09:41:05 · answer #5 · answered by thathockeychick23 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard question—gay and straight can mean lots of things.
Some people think of these things as identities. Someone can think of himself as gay, call himself gay, and otherwise identify himself as gay. People can choose not to make that their identity.
Some people think of gay as actions. A person who is romantic with others of the same sex would be gay. Someone can have sex with woman and not men, and would be straight and not gay in a sense.
Some people think of gay as attractions. That you cannot control. Deep down, someone knows what thoughts and attributes appeal to them. For some people, a same-sex relationship would just never appeal or feel right; for others an opposite-sex relationship wouldn't.
When it comes down to it, you can control what you do but not what you think and feel. I don't see any reason why someone should try to change something like this about himself. Many people never find love—why would someone pass up opportunities for it?
2007-06-28 19:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people who are gay are born that way- it's clearly NOT a choice. I have friends who are gay, and they DID NOT choose to be that way. There are supposedly some "programs" that try to, as they put it, "reprogram" gay people- but no one has ever been able to prove that they really work, and many if not most of them are run by religious zealots. There are gay people out there whom I have met who will sometimes make a conscious choice to "go straight"- but that is something that they decide to do on their own, not because someone is forcing them into it. It's really up to you. Just my thoughts.
2007-06-28 10:25:41 · answer #7 · answered by Starlight 1 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Definitely not. Being gay is not a decision (although some religious populations believe it is) and they are starting to find scientific evidence to support the fact that you are born gay.
2007-06-28 09:25:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
No. You can condition yourself not to respond to your attraction for other people, but the orientation is still there. Reports of people successfully undergoing "conversion therapy" are rare and the results are somewhat dubious. Better to accept who and what you are. Check out the GLBT section here, under "Society and Culture -- Culture and Groups".
2007-06-28 09:36:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A person is born gay or straight and no, you cannot change that.
2007-06-28 09:35:53 · answer #10 · answered by puma 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you can not just become straight you are either gay or straight you can lie to yourself and everyone else and hide it but you will be unhappy
2007-06-28 09:21:17 · answer #11 · answered by DIXIEMS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋