To all that see abortion as a bad thing?

Question

I have a question for all of you that think abortion is wrong. If you were raped by a gentleman on a dark alley, or a few men for that matter; would abortion be a bad thing then? Is abortion right in some cases... and for the the chick that goes by "preggers" not only were you rude but you are selfish yourself... there is no need to talk to someone the way you did on that other question. You can't judge some one until you walk in their shoes. Just because you feel a certian way does not mean that others feel the same. Have some compassion, you do not know her circumstances.

Answer 1

It sounds like you have some anger issues that do not need to be put her on YA, this is not a place to vent and your post can be deleted.
Obviously you are in need of attention or you would not have posted this

Answer 2

I am fully against abortion...for myself. I have had friends that have had abortions for what they thought were good reasons, and I have had friends that have had abortions because they didn't feel like taking birth control. Either way, it was their choice. Do I understand the psyche of someone who is contemplating or who has already had an abortion? No. But I will still be there for them. I know of someone who claims they were raped, and she's now swaying towards keeping the baby that was conceived out of it. I find that very noble, but terrifying at the same time. What she's feeling now could change DRASTICALLY down the road, and she could end up despising the child because it will be a reminder what happened.

I don't feel others have an extreme right to judge women for having an abortion, because I feel when it comes down to it, the woman will be the one who will have to face her feelings and fears. What could be an easy procedure could come back to haunt her the rest of her life. I've seen it happen. But, I also feel if you ask these types of questions on these boards, you need to be prepared for EVERY answer that comes your way. It's a very controversial topic, and we are all entitled to our opinion even if its not what you are expecting to hear.

Just be nice people :)

Answer 3

It's not if it's done in the early weeks of pregnancy and it's not used as a method of birth control. This whole it's murder this is way over used, it's murder when it's a late term pregnancy or partial birth abortion UNLESS IT'S MEDICALLY OR LIFE THREATENING NECESSARY. You will get mixed arguments on this and I wrote a freaking book on this last night about an abortion question... but I am not re writing it. It's a personal choice, extreme pro-lifers think life starts at conception, which I don't. at conception it's a bunch of cells with the ability to become a baby, but it is no way a baby, it has no gender, cells haven't divided, chromosomes haven't paired.... it's just cells with potential if they make it. i'm not going any further..... or i will write all night it's a completely personal issue.... you are free to feel how ever you want.

Answer 4

I am pro-choice, and yes I do think the circumstances matter when determining if its right. I stay pro-choice for the woman that didn't have a choice and was forced to have sex with a man because she didn't want to die, or because her father raped her and told her not to tell or he would kill her. I see those circumstances as where the woman/girl didn't actively participate in the creation of a life - but was forced to and taken hostage in a way. For the person who is just not being careful enough, or having sex with someone who isn't father or husband material and just has an accident - then yes I see that as an entirely different situation, because she chose to put herself at risk for being pregnant, and like it or not is at least 50% responsible.

In the day and age of the morning after pill, abortions should not be necessary after that 48 hour window that they can easily get the morning after pill. It just seems cruel and like birth control if people abuse abortions.

Answer 5

I am 100% against abortions, but I would have to say if I was raped in a dark alley by several men, I would probably opt for an abortion...of course a very early term abortion...like the morning after pill. That should be the only circumstance for the "morning after" pill obviously. I asked my husband who is also against abortions what he would do If I was raped and impregnated, and he agreed with the morning after pill.

Answer 6

First of all, this is a VERY touchy subject and can be a little scary! I believe it is the woman's decision all on her own. You will come across these people who are against it, but the bottom line is, it is YOUR life and YOU have to decide. You can't always live by what other people say, or believe. Is the pro-lifer going to help you support the child you decide to keep? See, I'm not pro life or pro choice. It is the decision of the individual who is in the situation as far as I'm concerned. As for rape, it is a very serious question the victim will need to ask herself. Can she live with having the abortion? Will her conscience drive her crazy for the rest of her life? Or by having the child, will that child suffer because of the grudge the mother might hold against him/her. Its natural. I would seek some time out with a therapist or someone who KNOWS that woman well enough to give her sound advice.
I dont know..just my opinion.

Answer 7

You are aware that less than 1% of abortions in America are because of rape and incest? In almost all polls, abortion for rape and incest is supported, as is abortion for the mother's life. What people are starting to turn against is the wanton slaughter of babies for the sake of convenience. There are 3000 to 4000 abortions a day in America, roughly one and a half million every year. Do you think this is a GOOD thing?

Answer 8

I understand what u mean, there is this girl that was rape by thief and she got pregnant and she wanted to abort the baby but her parents were against it ,so she kept the pregnancy, she had a beautiful baby boy, but she develop hatred toward the child thinking that the boy will grow up to be like the thieves that rape, she suffered the boy,but the boy always plead for her to show him a bit of love that he wont grow up to be a thief but with the scar in her always remind her, she leads the boy to his death which she regret after all.

Any way my point is that follow your heart, at this point you are at a stage that only God can touch ur heart to keep the baby ..Good luck and think hard before u take any decision.

Answer 9

1. Right to choose - May a mother choose to kill her child if she
so wants? No, a mother has no rights to choose abortion.

2. Economic and social well-being - May a mother kill her child
for economic reasons? No, a mother has no right to abort her
baby on the bases of economic and social well-being.

3. Mental health of mother - Is the potential of psychological
damage to be compared with the certain loss of life and the
possible agony of a violent, painful, and protracted dying?

4. Life of the mother - Protestants historically justify abortion
when a continued pregnancy would put the life of the mother in
jeopardy on the basis of self-defense and on the basis of
choosing the lesser of two evils - the loss of a wife, and,
possibly, mother, being a greater loss to the family and
society. Here, the intention is to save the mother, and is
not to kill the baby. It is analogous to that a doctor may
not cut up your leg if he chooses to, but he may amputate your
leg in order to save your life.

5. Unwanted children - Why not rather face the consequences of
one's past choices and make sure that the child is wanted,
either by the natural parents or by others who stand in line
waiting the opportunity to adopt?

6. Rape, incest, and the handicapped - The mother's lack of
responsibility for the conception does not remove the child's
inalienable right to life. The unborn child is not the
attacker but is, in fact, a second victim who should not
receive capital punishment for his father's crime. A second
act of violence cannot correct the first. Also, If the
handicapped fetus is human, like the handicapped child or
adult, has the right to life.

Answer 10

It's cool. I expected a lot of those answers mixed in between the responses I was really looking for. I'm just confused how some of them are "sorta" prochoice. Apparently if you are a devastated, poor, single woman having an abortion is ok, but us happily married people who hate kids have to be stuck with them just because we are married and can pay our bills? I see no logic there.

And, if they must know the circumstances, it's true that I just don't want children. I got pregnant by accident, knew there was no way I was going to have a baby (and by the way everyone, not wanting children also involves the not HAVING the baby part for all your "adoption" people), and made my appointment to get it done that same day. Never looked back. People can think I'm terrible if they want, I can't change their feelings. But, it's not going to make me regret my decision. My husband and I are still very happy. But like I said, "the grape vine" is going to get a piece of my mind when I get a hold of her.

Answer 11

Abortion is a women's choice. God gave us the power to choose- to have sex or not, to use protection or not, and if we get pregnant, to use abortion or not. I personally think it is a women's responsibility to use abortion not as birth control or any such means but as an end-of-the-road option: if they are pregnant due to rape, incest, if they are too young, not healthy enough, or not able to bring the child into a world where it will be able to continue on to a happy/healthy/trauma free life. I think this boils down to so many less cases than there are actual abortions. While I do not believe we should try to intrude on this right- I do wish there was a higher level of responsibility among women.

For example- I am sixteen and a half. When I was sixteen, I got pregnant. I would not have had the father to support me- I would not have had my family to support me- but I was healthy enough, it was not out of rape, and I'd researched enough to know that it WAS possible, it wasn't End-of-the-Road status, it wasn't on the level of abortion. I choose to keep my baby. Unfortunatley, I suffered a miscarriage, but the fact remains that it was my irresponsibility that created that baby- I choose to stuck by it. I don't know whether I would have chosen adoption, or kept it myself, but either way, I would have given it the chance at life.

However- I have also been the victim of rape. I took the responsibility to get the morning-after pill, and luckily, saved myself the further trauma of a pregnancy. Would I have had an abortion there? Maybe. Probably not. But I can definitley see other's plight and situations- Abortion is an unfortunate, immensely sad, but sometimes (SOMETIMES) neccesary thing.

And to those who can't accept that, I think it's sad that you lack so much compassion, and also the ability to open your mind to other's struggles.