I'm 24 and have a 4yr old boy that i have been raising on my own until about a year ago when i met this awesome man. i'm so sick of living paycheck to paycheck and just got laid off and i'm paying sooo much in rent. i know the Air Force doen't let single moms in there so i asked my boyfriend aboutit and he said that he would marry me if thats what i really want to do,and says he already want to marry me anyway. can anyone tell em more about have a family in the Ari Force and is it a good idea.
2007-06-28 09:08:57 · 6 answers · asked by JULIUS born @ 29 weeks, on 9-30 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO, NO WE HAVE TALKED ABOUT MARRAGE BEFORE ALL THIS CAME ABOUT IT JUST WASN'T GONNA HAPPEN THIS SOON. AND I KNOW THE AIF FORCE WILL LET MOMS WITH KIDS IN BUT I HEARD NOT SINGLE MOMS. MY SON'T FATHER IS NOT IN THE PICTURE AT ALL NO CHILD SUPPORT OR ANYTHING.
2007-06-28 09:23:57 · update #1
Scary thought leaving your child with a man you have only known for about a year. Really think this through.
2007-06-28 09:14:18 · answer #1 · answered by ofsoundmind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually the Air Force is great for a person with a family. Once married you'll either be allowed to live in base housing if available and you want to. Or your husband will receive BAH (basic allowance for housing).
Your groceries are cheap, as you can shop in the commissary (which will save you money, no matter who you are or what type of foods you buy) and if the base your fiance is stationed at has a large BX (Basic Exchange) the prices are compareable to Target- so not great, but everything is tax free which certainly helps.
Go to www.military.com, it has a wealth of information on almost anything your're wanting to know.
Basically, as far as the Air Fore and Family go- this is the service for your fiance to be in! VERY family oriented
Also, there are usually spouse clubs, on base jobs, family support center, and day care among other benefits of an Air Force Base.
2007-07-01 18:35:21 · answer #2 · answered by LovesToCook 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the military does allow you to have children, whoever told you that is lying. i am previous Navy, my sister is in the Air Force now and she's pregnant. you can have children before during or after the military, it all depends on how long are you willing to go through boot camp and your schools away from the little man. the navy was the best thing that ever happened in my life. 90% of my friends in the Navy had children before they joined. so thats crap. You get great benefits and college. instead of getting married for convience look into talking to an actual recruiter for more info. go to www.military.com and click on contact a recruiter. i wish you all the luck and trust me its sooooo worth it to go in the military. the only part that stinks is leaving the kids for cruises with a husband and or family members but trust me you'll be alot better off. since you do have a dependent you can live in housing. you wont have to pay for water, electricity or anything. they dock your pay for what you would pay out in town, but you wont have to worry about that. so you can use the rest of your check for day care/savings/investments/day to day life. but dont be surprised, when you first join the military you wont make a hole lot of mula, it comes with making rank over the years.
2007-06-28 16:15:32 · answer #3 · answered by You asked 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry someone just for financial security. If you are considering marrying your boyfriend just to have lowered rent, that's not fair to you or him.
As far as the AF, my father was an officer growing up. It's a difficult life, lots of moving, lots of stress. It's hard on relationships. I suggest you don't get all your info from the recruiters; they will say whatever it takes to get you to sign up. AS a side note, they will ship single moms off to Iraq or wherever else. My wife's good friend is a marine with a 3-year-old, and she and her husband were both deployed at the same time. Their son lived with grandparents for a whole year.
Good luck to you, whatever you decide.
2007-06-28 16:14:46 · answer #4 · answered by Yogi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but it sounds like you are getting married out of need and desperation and not out of love or the joy of a relationship. This not a good idea at all.
Find yourself, find someone you LOVE, and make sure you allow a man to know that he is being married because of love, not just because the woman needs another paycheck. This basically is prostitution.
2007-06-28 16:18:07 · answer #5 · answered by John B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i really admire you and your ambitions. i think as long as your son and your boyfriend have a good relationship with one another and it is something you really want to do, then you should do it. one of the hardest parts would be that you wouldnt see your son as much.
2007-06-28 16:16:14 · answer #6 · answered by bubblesandtea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋