hubby and i just got back from vacation and i found in his msn log?

Question

his friend asking if he took any pic of titys ??? and he specified not your wifes he wanted to see chicitas what ever that is.. i guess this is what my hubby does when were on vacation im pissed to say the least or am i over reacting... not to mention hubby was in my msn and found nothing in that nature. so how would you as the wife react knowing his co workers are talking about young woman or wanting your hubby to check out young ones on vacation with you . wow im pissed

Answer 1

Wow, how disrespectful! I would never tolerate his friends asking making comments like that when they know he is married! Of course I would ask him about it!

Answer 2

Just be glad him and his friends aren't checking out young men... The way i would react is when your out with hubby and friends and you see a fine looking young stud i would make a big fuss over how sexy he was and maybe a comment like "too bad I'm married or his sweet azz would be toast" you know say this to the wife of the couple your out with in front of the hubby...

Answer 3

Where are you at when your husband is on vacation? Or does he vacation without you sometimes? Most likely it is nothing, but where there is fire there is smoke. Some of the girls might be doing more than just showing him there boobs, or perhaps he is just taking pics of girls in bikinis too. Have you looked on your/his computer for any such pictures? You need to have a talk to him about this. How did you just find his log? What made you suspicious? And if you have his email password, correspond to his coworker and act as your husband and do some fishing. I'm guessing you have nothing to worry about.

Answer 4

I feel if he had pics then yes be mad, but his friend is probably a single jerk who wants to see some boobs of some out of town girls and just asked your husband to take some pics. It's up to your husband to feed into the immature act. Just talk it over, don't ruin the fun you had by someones elses stupid request,you know how insane guys can be.

Answer 5

Sorry to say but that is what guys do. We think about sex all the time and if you aren't willfully the focus, we can find other things to look at.

Try to look at it this way. You can't, by force of will, stop your menstruation, and we can't make our labido drop just by 'trying really hard'. If you aren't keeping our sexual fires quenched, then guys find other things to focus on. It's usually other women.

Your husbands infraction is very innocent in regard to cheating. He probably has no intention of cheating but is tired of you being a sexual prude. We like sex dirty, messy, wild, kinky and often. Get used to it. The more Mrs. Proper you are the less likely he is to focus his sexual attention on you and he will have a high level of sexual desire no matter how irritated, moral, mad, convincing etc. you are. He'll just learn to hide it better.

Try keeping his sexaul attention on you by being sexually aggressive. Try new things. Be adventurous. Try sex outside under the stars or drag him out of the bar and do him in the car in the bar parking lot. Trust me, if you keep him happy he wont even know other women exist. On the other hand, if he isn't getting enough from you he will be hyper aware of other women.

Either stay single or run with it!

Answer 6

It's just guy bs. guys have this thing going about talking about women as a piece of meat, but hey, women do it too. Never said, yeah, johnny depp is hot? I mean, it's nothing, and I'm not the type to put up with much at all !

Answer 7

first-----what was his response? You can't get mad at him for something someone else said. Second-----he is a guy and he comes home to you every night and loves you, so why can't he at least just look? There is no harm in looking at the playing field, as long as he doesn't try to play the game. I am sure you have done your fair share of peeking at other guys on that same beach.

Answer 8

It's OK to be peeved, just not at your hubby. His idiot friend. Your hubby is the receiver of the message, not the author! There are so many jerks at work who think just like this moron that it isn't funny! Why would you classify your husband as one of them? That will just anger him!

Answer 9

hang ups hang ups hang ups, hes with you hes not going anywhere but no thats not good enough for you, you got to control every aspect "he better not even talk about taking pics of girls with his friend" god what a spoiled self righteous little girl, i'll tell you this much, if you love him you better grow up before he dumps you, cause two or three arguements like this and thats what id do,

Answer 10

It's harmelss guy talk. I wouldn't be offended. shoot I'd answer for him..and say -sorry fellas the only "chicita" worth checking out was me and you can't have a copy of those pics!!!....make a joke of it, letting them know you saw the message.

Answer 11

Step back and take a look at this from your husband's perspective (and that of his friend's as well): they are men, plain and simple and they are going to look at the breasts of other women. Why are you upset over this? Clearly your husband can't share this with you and this is why he did not tell you about this - because you blow things out of whack. Your husband is not having an affair on you; he is just taking photos of the chest area of other women. That's all it is, nothing else. Relax.