How can i get my 9 month old baby to sleep in her own bed?

Question

i understand co-sleeping isn't a good idea but whatever its the only way i get any sleep i can't handle hearing her cry i feel horrible.

Answer 1

I know that hearing you own child cry is one of the worst feelings in the world, but the only way you can get your baby to fl asleep in thier own bed is to just let tem cry it out, cause you gotta know that after a while your baby wil get used to it. My daughter slept with me for the first year and a half, and transitioning her was really hard, but now she sleeps in her own bed and she feels good to know that something is for her only. You can akways use the "your a big girl now" saying to help persuade. And word of advice, if you have a second one, dont let them sleep with you, i just had my second and he has always slept in his bassonett and had no problem with it because its all he knows. good luck

Answer 2

I think it is a true injustice to children to not teach them to sleep in their own bed and through the night. Put her down after a little cuddling and song and let her cry for 15 minutes. After 15 minutes go in the room and very quietly cover her and give her a blankie and say "night night" and leave the room again for 15 minutes. Continue doing this until she falls asleep without much commotion or interaction with her. This may take a week or two, but she will learn to fall asleep. You may find that her sleeping with you at night is too confusing for her. She will not understand why sometimes she sleeps with you and other times she does not. It would be better for you and her to stop the cosleeping altogether. Teaching her to learn to fall asleep in her own bed is not a horrible thing, even if it comes with a few tears. She will be fine and will be a better sleeper and you will be a much happier mom. Good luck.

Answer 3

My family is having the same problem with our 10 month old neice. When she was born we were like "Oh how cute, lets just let her sleep in our arms or in our bed." If I have any advice to new parents, it's to not let your baby sleep in your bed. I am about to have a boy in about 5 weeks and we are deffinately going to learn from that mistake. Plus, I think its quite dangerous to have your child sleep with you. She/he could fall off the bed if you got up for something( this has happend alot) and the chance of rolling over your baby increases, not to mention the risk of SIDS increases also. I wish I could be of more help on how to acutally do it! But I hope everything works out for you!!

Answer 4

Well its going to be tough the first few times but you just have to leave her there. Make sure the bars on her crib are high enough to where she cant get out, and put her in there. . turn off the light, shut the door, and let her cry herself to sleep. It took my daughter 3 nights of all out crying. Then by the 4th night she only cried for about 15 minutes after I laid her down. Now shes 2 1/2 and puts herself to bed. :) I know its tough to hear them cry all night!! but she will be fine. . .you have to stay firm!

Answer 5

I would lay them down in their own bed for naps. they didn't like it at first but they get used to it. I gave mine a five minute rule. I'd let them cry for 5 minutes, then go in and check on them to make sure nothing was really wrong and it helps them know that you're still there even though they're in their own beds. When you check on them don't take them out of their room. You can hold them for a minute and then put the baby back in bed. This way the baby knows that's where he/she is staying. You may feel bad because of the crying. Remember you are not being mean, you are saving yourself and the baby alot of future problems. It's good for a baby to cry sometimes and it's also good for them to sleep in their own bed. It's also good for you to have your bed to yourself. Good luck! P.S. I also started reading to them before leaving them alone. This helps them gain security and a night time routine.

Answer 6

she's at a very manipulative stage and also at a stage that separation anxiety can start.
my son is 9 months and this is what i've observed with him.

if i had this problem with him, then i would be inclined to put him to bed in his own crib. then, if he wakes up, i'd go and cuddle and calm him down and them put him back into his crib. if he started right back up, then i'd just sit there while he cried and talk to him or just sit there until he fell asleep. maybe pat his bottom or something.
then, each night, i'd move closer to the door.

it will be a process, but this needs to get nipped in the bud before she's 2 and still sleeping with you! (i have 2 neices that do this to their parents!!!)

anytime i put my son to sleep he gets a bottle and falls asleep (while i hold him), then it's easy to just put him down in his crib.
can you try this?

sometimes, if he's tired enough, i can put him in his crib with a few select toys and he will roll around and play and then conk out. (i like to do this on sunday mornings when i need a little more shut eye:)

anyway, i wish you the best of luck

Answer 7

Put her in her bed, close the door, and leave her alone. She'll eventually fall asleep. You can't feel bad every time she cries or you'll be stuck with her sleeping in the bed until she is 7.

Answer 8

Try doing it gradually. Start by putting her down in her crib for nap time at least once a day and work up from there. Let her spend some time in the crib when she is awake too so she can be comfortable there alone. Just remember, although our baby's crying kills us, it won't hurt them !!

Answer 9

I've hear this problem in all ages on many different parenting shows. She knows that when she cries you will react the way she wants you to. Although it breaks your heart to hear her cry you need to ler her get it out. Eventually she will stop and you will both sleep better. If you let this persist, she will never let you sleep at night.

Answer 10

You need to learn to handle hearing the crying. Period. That is the problem right there. You ignore that baby for a few nights, and it will learn to sleep on its own. You are doing the baby a favor! Be a good parent and tough it out.