My therapist seems to ask me many personal questions. Of course it is his job because he is helping me to sort out some things in my life. But questions about my sex life such as when was the last time I had sex and what my conversations are about when I talk to men. He wants to know too many specifics such as where I met the guy and what street I was on when I met him. My phone rings while I'm in a session with him and he wants to know if the caller is male or female. What type of craziness is that? Anyway am I just being paranoid? He claims its his job and he's concerned but I think he's too nosy. I mean it shouldn't matter who I talk to, what I talk about with them and my sex life either. As long as it's not hurting me mentally it should not be his concern. Is he nosy or just CRAZY?
2007-06-28 08:09:20 · 22 answers · asked by Heaven26 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Also I am not seeing him for any sex related issue. He is actually my psychiatrist/psychotherapist. I initially began seeing him for my depression.
2007-06-28 08:37:40 · update #1
You have a serious situation here! Let me get this straight you are seeing him for depression and he is asking you sexual questions! Something is not right here, unfortunately people in his position do step out of bounds sometimes and unfortunately for you this is one of those times! You have every right to feel uncomfortable with these kind of questions especially if none of them pertain to your situation. I am not even sure what good these questions would be if you had any sexual problems anyway! You must remember that there is a higher power above and beyond him called his BOSS, someone he MUST answer to! If you feel that something is not right then it probably isn't and you have every right to seek help! Go to those above him and explain what has been happening and that this is bothering you. They should help you and they should deal with him if he is doing wrong.
Theywill help you get another therapist if you would like one.
Let me tell you from experience that I have also spoke to a therapist because of depression and not once did he ever bring up anything about sex, my sex life, whom I chose for partners and where these encounters took place!
These types of details a irrelevant and unnecessary for him to know and they are extremely private! I can't say for certain that he has any ulterior motives but trust your instinct, women's intuition is never wrong! Protect yourself and get help!
2007-07-05 10:37:30 · answer #1 · answered by peaches&cream 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am actually a trained and educated Therapist. Its our job to give you the tools to help you navigate the issues on which you want to work.
With whom you associate day to day or minute by minute are specifically none of our concern unless there are issues of danger involved to you or others around you (and you sound quite stable). Your contacts are only generally important if your relationships are shaping your behavior in a direction that is not consistent with your treatment.
Always go with your gut instincts. You have the right to let him know how you're feeling or ask for a referral or stop going to him and get a referral from someone else. By all means stay on top of your depressive symptoms and don't get out of treatment.
2007-07-06 14:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are uncomfortable with your therapist, you should consider seeing someone else. Maybe try seeing a woman? I was a little surprised you leave your cell phone during a session... most people I would think turn their phone off since for 50 minutes you should be focused on working through issues and not chatting with someone...especially at $100 hr (the typical fee).
2007-07-06 00:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Betty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is a therapist job to ask questions, after all that is what they get paid for, but maybe if you feel he is being to noisy, try telling him you feel a little uncomfortable, detailing every sexual act, maybe the basics will be necessary, for example how soon do you have sex when you meet somebody or how often, etc. if he is asking you what positions and did you wear a cute little red thong, yeah then maybe hes a perv but other than that , just chill, ultimately, its your choice, if you don't feel comfortable, leave, I went through 2 therapist, before I found the perfect one for me. Good Luck!!!
2007-06-28 15:18:13 · answer #4 · answered by ana c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's crazy AND nosy. That is totally unprofessional. Maybe you should try a new therapist. He is getting too obsessed with you. A female therapist might be better. I find that females understand me a bit better.
If you think he's being very unprofessional, you should speak to his boss (if he has one).
Good luck.
2007-06-28 15:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by ♥H] ッ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not paranoid. Find a new therapist. You should be bringing up the subject and then he follows. If you feel uncomfortable with his questions then he is out of line.
2007-06-28 15:12:44 · answer #6 · answered by emtd65 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well depending on what you're seeing him for..but he seems to nosy if you ask me! He is supposed to know alot about you, but that is just crossing the line..in my case I think i would go to someone else and stop seeing him...he sounds a little freaky.lol
2007-06-28 15:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are uncomfortable with your therapist, select another. Perhaps a female therapist would make it easier for you to discuss your private life.
2007-07-04 12:30:25 · answer #8 · answered by oplsjames 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may assume the root of your issue is sexual. If it isn't, find another therapist. That's easier than getting one to change a snap diagnosis.
2007-06-28 15:13:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he doesnt ask u specific questions then he cant help u, when i was going to a therapist, i was asked a million questions as well. think about it, when someone asks you what you think, most of us want the details so we can help the person.
2007-06-28 15:13:09 · answer #10 · answered by oneandonlyness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋