Is it OK for teens to have sex, as long as they're protecting themselves?

Question

Some parents tell me that they let their teens have sex.

Answer 1

It really depends on what your morals are and how much of risk you want to take, you have to be able to accept any consequences that may arise, if you feel that it is ok to have sex before marriage then you may want to if not then dont but be aware that anytime you are involved sexually you are risking sexually transmitted diseases, emotional pain, and PREGNANCY even though you may be using protection you are always susceptable to getting pregnant, if you realize that and think you can support a child then maybe go for it if not then DO NOT have sex... always expect the worst in this situation, the reason marriage is a good idea before sex is it takes away the probability for emotion pain and allows you to be more ready for a child it also allows for a stronger and more special love and trust between the two

Answer 2

I disagree with anyone putting an arbitrary age on sex. Example: If someone says that you shouldn't have sex until you are 18 because teens aren't mature enough, lets pose this question: Say someone is 17 years and 364 days old, are they not mature enough, but as soon as they turn 18 are they bestowed with some kind of magical sense that makes sex okay? It's a very odd scenario but it illustrates the point perfectly.
As someone said before, the more you say no to teens, the more they want to rebel; I know, I'm a teen. I'm not saying that all teens should go out and have sex as soon as they finish reading this, I am saying that sex ed based on the concept of abstinence before marriage is flawed. Teens should be taught safer sex practices, not the religious ideals. Lets leave religion out of this discussion, it doesn't apply to teen sex and protection.

Answer 3

Yes and no. It depends on the people involved.

For one thing, "protection" is never guaranteed to be perfect, often resulting in pregnancy and STD's.

For another, sex is more than just physical. It has a powerful emotional element that can raise havoc when the relationship doesn't work out (and with teens, it seldom does).

And sex is such a powerful force itself, one that purposely clouds your judgment, that people often take chances that they would never get involved in if they weren't intensely sexually aroused at the time, things they often very much regret after the fact.

But it is a natural force and it's normal to want it very badly, especially in adolescence, when your hormones are in full swing. Sometimes giving in is either appropriate or just the lesser of possible "evils." And as far as parents are concerned, they really have no say in whether their kids have sex or not. All they can do is make it easier or harder for them.

Answer 4

Really,
I don't think many people that are having so called sexual relations should ever take their clothes off, at all, whats over, for any reason, at any given time. And this is protect the rest of us. Some of the people I'm thinking of are 35 years old going on 3.....

Sex is always related to the kind of relationship that people are in. If it is long term and they feel mature enough it is rather difficult to stop them. Adult and teenagers have different ideas about what "long term" is as well. 3 month is a long time. apparently. Some people actually regard a 5 minute encounter a relationship of some kind. Sex is an ongoing subject we talk about.

In principle I would disapprove, but also recognise that at 17 it perhaps doesn't matter much what I'm thinking and saying. I'll take it as it comes when that age arrive here in the house.
It is related to pregnancies as these thing regardless of how much contraception is involved accidents do happen. There is also a lot biased opinions about it. Something about sowing oats - being cheap - saving one self - it is a mine field and I would rather know when the time comes than not know.
My own teenage years were a nightmare for many reasons. Painfully shy and self concious. Not that I was mature to have sexual relation but my mum went to great length to with a lot of deceptive stuff about the only one, being cheap, bla bla, tried to marry me off to some guy I was in love with when I was 15. Going on and on about it. I knew there something very wrong in my mothers head. Later (I was 30) it was suddenly revealed that I was a result of a brief relationship, and my father wasn't my real father. what a deception, what a drama, but it did explain, why she was so fearful.
Possibly that is why I would prefer an open communication about it with my children and not have to much of an opinion about what other peoples children are doing.
all best

Answer 5

These parents aren't doing a very good job. Teens shouldn't be doing this. Even if they are protected there is a chance they might get pregnant. I doubt that a teenager has a salary high enough to take care of themselves let alone a child.

Answer 6

parents that are okay with their kids having sex.....
are irresponsible parents.
no teenager is ready for the consequences that are possible, no matter how many precautions the teen takes, like using condoms or birth control.
Plus, a teens life is complicated already, and sex would just add to the worries on a teens mind.
It adds a lot more stress to a teens life than what there should be.......
and your teen years are your last years to be a kid, so why ruin that by taking on a responsibility that grown-ups, should be married couples, have.

I think that sex ed programs and parents should encourage teens to wait to have sex until adulthood, because no teen is ready for sex, no matter how mature they are, or say they are.

Answer 7

no, it's not ok. Some parents aren't responsible parents and don't explain to their children why they should not do sex at an early age (disease, pregnancy too young and the problems involved with that, having to support their children when they themselves are children, how other people will treat them, welfare, living at home with parents and without a husband, etc.). It is a fact that parents can halt their children from having sex, when sex does happen, in most cases it's because the parents haven't been responsible.

Answer 8

No it is not o.k!! I don't know what parents you have been talking to but they are obviously not very good parents!! I would never tell my daughter that is a teenager that it was OK to have sex. I feel it is very irresponsible. Are these teens ready to be parents? If the answer is no then they are not ready to have sex!!

Answer 9

I think these days our society is completely oblivious to the fact that no matter what we say, teenagers are going to continue to have sex. I feel it is extremely important to realize this and address the problem differently, by informing teens of the risks of unprotected sex, of std's and pregnancy. Most people I know lost their virginity during their late teens. Most used protection. In my opinion, it's okay, AS LONG AS: you use protection, and correctly. Condoms need to be put on right and make sure there's no holes or damage before putting it on. You also need to be ready. Having sex is a major major deal. It should not be taken lightly. Once you lose your virginity you can't get it back, so it's extremely important you make sure you're ready.

Answer 10

No its not- Those parents are very irresponsible.

Having sex is an adult act with adult consequences. When teens (children) are given the ok- to have "protected sex" they will. If they can't find "protection" one day- they will have unprotected sex. Even if they use condemns during the act- they are probably having other forms of sex (oral sex) without protection. They could certainly get diseases with these acts. Not to mention that all forms of protection are NOT 100% guaranteed safe. This could lead to pregnancy and unwanted desires.

It's not ok for kids to drink- without getting pissed drunk.
It's not ok for kids to do drugs without - overdosing.
It's not ok for kids to have sex- with the promise of using protection.
It's not ok for kids to drive without a driver’s license.
It's not ok for kids to beat people up without killing them.
It's not ok for kids to rob people no matter how small the value is.

Parents are not supposed to be the child's best friend; they are supposing to guide and mold their children to be good and productive people.

Answer 11

No. All teens should wait until they are responsible enough to take a risk! The best way to be safe is NOT to have sex at all. They should wait until they find the right person and the right time! Hope I helped.