Is it really possible....?

Question

Do humans really forgive

for·give
–verb (used with object)
1. to grant pardon for or remission of (an offense, debt, etc.); absolve.
2. to give up all claim on account of; remit (a debt, obligation, etc.).
3. to grant pardon to (a person).
4. to cease to feel resentment against: to forgive one's enemies.
5. to cancel an indebtedness or liability of: to forgive the interest owed on a loan.
–verb (used without object)
6. to pardon an offense or an offender.

Can a human honestly and sincerely forgive another for something especially if it was premeditated?

Answer 1

Lynne,
you ask a really tough - though sincere question here. When posed in the form of a question in the manner you have used above I for one do not see how a person could "forgive" any person for a premeditated act. Is it possible? Sure. Is it likely? No. One of the most important things to consider is the possibility and burden of the affected person who could carry "hate" against the perpetrator. That element of "hate" may likely cause the affected person to live in excruciating anger, anguish, sorrow, and other emotions that affect their own health. So, the perpetrator causes twice the damage, the damage first inflicted upon the victim, the unintended damage of how the victims family and friends become victims post premeditated act.

If forgiveness (in my view) is not sincerely possible, then what is necessary is for the unintended (or intended) victim to relinquish the "hate" factor. With regard to my own situation, someone once did me very wrong, after several months of "mind park walking" I realized the best thing I could do was to not harbor hatred. To this day I do not believe I could honestly say I "forgave" what was done to me or by whom; however, I successfully managed to harbor no hatred against any person or group of people based on the act(s) done against me by same.

I hope this helps you for what ever the purposes are.

Best to you!

Answer 2

Forgiving an offense is done on a constant basis.

But you might be thinking of the nature of the offense, it something horrendous happens would a normal rational individual forgive?

A victim was wrongfully incarcerated in a Massachusetts prison for thirty years before being exonorated by DNA evidence and the newspapers said he forgave the judge who sentenced him. I find that hard to believe and would want to hear it from the man himself.

Answer 3

It depends on the offense. Personally, I do have a hard time forgiving. I say I forgive, but I never ever forget.

Answer 4

I believe we can. When going through my divorce, I didn't think I could ever forgive my ex for cheating on me and hurting me so badly. However, I have been able to forgive him. He wasn't capable of anything other behavior. It made sense to him at the time.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that if you accept that people are what they are, their behavior can be forgiven. Forgotten? Oh hell no!

Answer 5

Thank you for posting the definition, I wasn't quite sure what it meant. Of course you can forgive. I've done it.

i.e. I forgive you for assuming that I was stupid.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Sure, if that person can put aside their emotions and anger, and let it go. Jesus forgave, or Buddha.

Answer 8

yeah why not