im honestly tired of..?

Question

teen mom bashing.
yes they get pregnant at a young age but at least they are grown up enough to deal with it, and not get an abortion, at least they give the baby a chance at a life, when they could just get an abortion. i know a few teen moms who are doing the best they can.. and i am proud of them for actually sticking by their baby and trying to make a good life for their baby. i know its not easy, but at least they are trying.. they are doing the best they can.

does anyone else not hate teen moms and think they just make mistakes?
because a baby. is a miracle, and NEVER mistake

Answer 1

I don't hate teen moms. I think teens get blamed for a lot of the entire population's problems- why aren't the parents getting "blamed" if someone has to get blamed? And why aren't people "bashing" the ADULTS that "should know better" and are getting pregnant when they aren't exactly ready? Yep, I'm tired of the teen mom bashing, too~

Answer 2

First of all you forgot the third option of adoption. I happen to have been a teen mom. My first was born when I was 18 and my second when I was 19. Both of my children and the 2 others after are healthy and have had every opportunity as any other middle class child. A child born to a teen does not have a disadvantage in life when there is a support system or the parent makes the decision to find an adoptive family who can provide more than a single mom.

That said, I do however feel any one under 16 is too young for sex and needs to think about things besides 2 minutes of pleasure.

Answer 3

I agree. The way I put it to the other girl is that many teenage kids have sex. Some get pregnant, some dont. It is real easy for some people to come across all high and mighty when they werent the ones who got pregnant. However, I think a lot of teen pregnancy could be avoided by using more reliable forms of birth control. But, I had sex when I was a teenager and I used birth control (most of the time) not smart. It could have happened to me and I was not a horrible person or stupid or a whore. And yes, I am Very PRO LIFE!!! There is ALWAYS another way out of being a mommy. Adoption. Tons of great people go through so much to have a family. More teens should feel like you do. Best Wishes and God Bless :)

Answer 4

I'm 39 & I don't hate or verbally bash teen moms
It happens & it always has since the beginning of everyone's memories
I wish there were more resources & help & understanding so that so many young moms don't feel so bad & ashamed that they resort to abortion & worse
I don't exactly feel "sorry" for them. I do believe no one should have sex until they are mature enough to be physically & financially able & ready to be a parent but I also remember being a teen & how I felt so grown up & smart (little did I know!!!!!) so it's a catch 22....No one realizes as a teen just how tough it is to be responsible for another human being let alone an innocent & helpless baby. Most teens don't even know how hard it is to just be completely responsible for themselves financially & metally & pysically let alone do any I've ever known of take responsibilty for there actions,
am I right? If something goes wrong it's always somebody else's fault, but this is normal immaturity & lots of people never grow out of this narsasistic behavior

Answer 5

THANK YOU. I know a few people who are doing very well and it was just a simple mistake. Everybody acts like it's the end of the world but for some people it is a good impact on thier live because they aren't going out partying anymore or drinking a lot. It could help some people and abortions are bad, if you can't handle a baby put it up for adoption there are many loving families that want children but can not have thier own and the chile will get a chance at life.

Answer 6

I completely agree i hate when ppl run there mouths just bec someone is a teen mom. PPl make mistakes Deal with it like you said at least they took the responsibility to take care of the baby instead of get an abortion. I actually know some teen moms that are more responsible than other moms. I am a teen mom so i completely agree ppl need to stop being so rude and judgmental and grow up!

Answer 7

I agree with you for the most part. What I dont agree on are the teens that push the baby onto other people because they dont want to deal with the baby (like they want to go out all the time so they leave the baby with a parent) or 12/13 year olds getting pregnant, because they are way to young to even have sex. I know two girls who had a child at 16 and they both grad highschool with honors and went onto college. Sometimes things happen. But if they can take care of the baby then good for them.

Answer 8

To the guy that said they should keep there legs close....that is ignorant. It take both the girl and the guy.

For all you teen mom's out there, its not the end of the world. Your life will work out and every child happens for a reason. Let people stare at you but you made the right choice. And you are right "at least they are trying" My sister had a baby 2 weeks after high school. And its been 10 years, our life wouldn't be the same without him. She went to college, is a teacher and recently married. She does talk to teen about how hard it is and also educate them that if it does happen to them their life is not over.

Answer 9

Ofcourse I don't hate teen moms BUT it does annoy me and disappoint me when a teen has a pregnancy scare, thinks they are pregnant, later finds out they are not but then continues to have sex! I don't hate anyone or anything. But I'm not justifying their sexual activity. I'm for abstanence. You can be 13 and not be prepared for a baby or be 30 and not be prepared. I think teens need to stop having sex. I really don't care if its fun, exciting or pleases your boyfriend or friends. Just don't have sex and you wont have to have a baby on your hip. They wouldn't of had teh baby if they wouldn't of had sex. So I'm not going to play the sympathy card -ahh poor girl, shes pregnant. Now if they were raped, forced or truely didn't know the consequences of sex then I feel sorry for them. But if they do and keep having sex I do not feel sorry for them but I certainly do not hate them! It is sad that girls get into that position and they have every right to be frightened, they are a child with responsibilities of an adult. Adoption, IMO, is a selfless choice. They realize that they can not care for the child and give it to a loving home. That shows the depths of their love-- they love them so much that though "giving" them to someone else may be hard it is best for the child. Sometimes the teens are capable of caring for the baby and thats sometimes a good thing to.

Answer 10

I agree with you 100%, because everyone makes mistakes, its unavoidable. I really feel for those girls because 1. I cant even imagine how pressured they feel 2. All these people who just rip on them It's really not cool to freak out when people enderstand that they have made a mistake, and when they come to look for honest advice because they know that the need help and some people just rub it in their face that they messed up. Those people need to put themselves in a pregnant teen's shoes and ask themselves, "If I was looking for help because I made a mistake and people just exagerrated my situation how would I feel?" Then all the haters just go, "well, I wouldnt make that mistake...blah blah blah you're a bad person" I really don't understand why you purposely look at those questions if you hate hearing about this, and then you go so far as to try to make them feel worse about themself than they probably already do. Anyway, I think that if you don't have any advice, just, you know, dont answer, the people asking don't need anyone telling them they messed up, they know that already, and they are more prepared than a lot of people think to have a child.

Answer 11

I really don't think people hate teen moms, I think a lot of people are sick and tired of young girls being grown enough to have sex, but not take the most PROPER precautions to protect themselves, not only from getting pregnant, but also from diseases, and I think people get an attitude that now it seems like the young females are being catered to, with special programs, daycares in schools.... it really is no joke raising children period, personally, i don't condemn young chicks for having babies, because your right, they are a miracle, but a lot of people don't consider the CHILD a burden, its the mother that does the burdening because she was too wrapped up in her own desire to think straight, like, if i get pregnant, (1) where is myself and child going to live?,(2) how am I going to support myself, while im on maternity leave?, (3) Most important, Is the father going to be supportive emotionally and with finances? Can you pay rent, utilities, groceries, health insurance, life insurance, daycare. I say there nothing wrong with waiting!