My Ex husband is always finding reasons to argue with me. This time he is mad because its summertime and I found our children clothes at a garage sale that were way nice and perfect for summer. What I got for them I couldnt touch in a store for less than 500 dollars and I only paid 30. He accually told me that he dosnt pay me child support so that I can buy the kids garage sale clothes. I tried to explain that what I did with that money for my kids was none of his buisness and now he is trying to have his rate reduced. I will buy them new clothes at the beginning of the school year but for now they play outside alot and I dont see anything wrong with it. Does this make any sense or am I wrong?
2007-06-28 06:48:23 · 16 answers · asked by YouAsked4it 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My kids told him
2007-06-28 06:52:52 · update #1
He is trying to have control over you...how and in which manner u spend the $. U did the smart thing. If u do go back into court over this, tell the Judge what u just said about the play clothes-garage sale..school clothes--new. YOU will win, u did nothing wrong,bad or illegal. You did spend the $ on the kids...right. Well there u go.
Hahaha, u wanna go 1 further? Tell him to buy the clothes he wants them to wear. And btw, it won't reduce the child support. Do u get more if you spend not 500.00 but, 2000.00 on clothes?
2007-06-29 06:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do the same thing. My son spends the summer outside and getting dirty, garage sales are a great way to clothe them for the summer, and when school starts you by all new clothes. I am on your side with this one. I think your ex is just trying to find a way to lower his child support and this seems to be a good reason for him. OMG do men like that get on my nerves. They have no idea how much is cost to raise children these days. Hold your head high and know you are NOT in the wrong on this one. Good Luck to you and your children!
2007-06-28 06:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by Kail 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely NOT wrong. Not only are you not wrong you are very smart to do this. What you don't have to spend on new clothes I'm sure will be used in another way to make your childrens life better. Your husband is a jerk. Sounds like he is just looking for an excuse to get lowered support payments. When you get support for your children it isn't just for clothes. Its for food, what it costs to house them, gas taking them to and from wherever they have to go, medication and a whole number of things your husband needs to be reminded of. If he were paying only for the clothes then by all means, let him purchase them for the kids. It would leave you a lot more time for yourself and less aggravation from him. Tell him to go ahead and claim less support. Let him spend the money for a lawyer for nothing. Looks good on him.
2007-06-28 06:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by Carl 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He's wrong.
There were summers when our girls out grew clothes so fast, yard sales and garage sales was the only way to keep clothes for them.
Our oldest still goes to yard sales and she has been out of the house for 6 years.
2007-06-28 16:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by NMB 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's just being a ****. Mine does the same thing. Let him try to lower it. Unless he makes substantially less than he did when it was set, it won't change. As long as you are spending the money to provide things for his children the judge isn't going to care if you bought them summer clothes at a yard sale. Just tell him not to worry about it, if he doesn't like it he is free to go buy their clothing himself if he so chooses. Wish you luck.
2007-06-28 07:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by stacilynn26 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are right he's wrong, crap on that. i have 4 kids and clothes aren't cheap. if he doesn't like how your spending the money tell him to kiss your rear end, those are your children just as much as they are his, and he has zero right to reduce his payment because he's being a selfish two year old baby and not getting his way. if the kids are playing all day long, what does he care if they are wearing brand new clothes or used clothes? they are going to get them dirty and ruined anyways. and like you said your going to buy them new school clothes so who freakin' cares what he thinks. you aren't a bad mother, he's just trying to stress you out for no good reason. he needs to grow the crap up and be happy his kids are alive and happy and playing, instead of starving, miserable, and dead! your ex is a true ding bat!
2007-06-28 07:11:37 · answer #6 · answered by You asked 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it, but this isn't the first story I've heard like this. From what I've heard, it's men like this that just generally complain about having to pay child support in general and if they have it in their heads that your spending as little money as possible on the kids and blowing the rest so therefore they threaten to reduce their child support! I don't think he'll get very far with this! I don't think the kids meant anything by telling him, but just to shut him up, I'd try not to let them know where you get the things either!
2007-06-28 06:59:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
He is an idiot. Child support is for keeping a roof over their heads and food in their tummys. If he wants them to have brand name clothes he can buy them those clothes out of his pocket. He won't be able to get the child support reduced because of his stupidity, don't worry. And be glad you are getting child support in the first place ;) I have gotten 200 dollars and a pack of diapers since January, and its almost July.
2007-06-28 06:52:38 · answer #8 · answered by busy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with it. Kids grow so fast, it is too expensive to buy them new clothes all the time. Don't forget: you are the mom. This is your call. If your ex wants to buy them some new clothes, let him. Your thinking is sound and reasonable.
2007-06-28 06:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by Toby G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He has no say over the child support money....those funds go into the household budget.
Tell him to go jump. If he wants brand new clothes for the kids, he can go buy them. He has NO say over what child support buys or doesn't buy unless you are a druggie.
You don't have to explain anything to him....if he asks or demands or says something like that, tell him it's none of his business and then don't respond to his anger....that's exactly what he wants...don't fall for it.
2007-06-28 08:30:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋