What are your thoughts on Egg donation?

Question

I was wondering your thoughts on egg donation. I am contemplating becoming an egg donor and i would like to know everyones thoughts?

I am in no way doing this for the money. I have family and friends who have gone through the recipient part of this and they are so grateful. So i see the difference in their lives and i want to help someone. I have three great kids and i am having no more. The money to me is just a 1/8 of the pie. giving someone the CHANCE to have children is the other 7/8s. I just keep going back and forth, thank you all.

Answer 1

I think that it is a wonderful gift that you can give an infertile couple. Make sure that you learn everything about the process before you go forward. It takes a real commitment of your time and it requires you to basically go through an IVF cycle. You will have to take injectable medications and be monitored with bloodwork and ultrasounds regularly during the process.

There is no greater gift that you can give someone. You could make the dreams come true for a couple who are no less deserving of a child than any one else. They will have enormous love and appreciation for the child and for you.

Answer 2

As a 4x egg donor I can probably write you a novel on what a wonderful gift it is to donate your eggs. Someone mentioned it's like killing off your babies for 1 baby because they take several eggs out..how ridiculous...If you weren't TTC on your own those eggs would be flushed out with your period. At least this way they are given a chance at life.
Anyway it can be a long and sometimes hard process. You have to be ok with needles (lots of them). You have to decide if you want the donation to be anonymous or open (all of mine are totally anonymous). Different Dr's have different protocols, my 1st 2 donations I had to go in every single day for blood and vaginal sonograms. That was tough because it has to be early in the morning. My last 2 weren't so bad only going in every few days. Once your follicles are mature they will do a vaginal procedure in which you're out for..no pain..and aspirate the eggs. Takes about 15-20 minutes usually. The worst I've had is minimal spotting and some cramping afterwards..2 of them I went out shopping/eating right afterwards. I don't know what all you want to know but it's a great gift you can give to someone to enable them to have a family of their own =}

Answer 3

I've considered donating eggs too, its not the thought of someone else looking after 'my' baby that puts me off. As far as I'm concerned its not my baby, would you try to get your donated blood back after it had been used in a transfusion?? I think not! Its an egg nothing more, sorry to ppl who think differently but this is my opinion! My babies are the 3 children i have who i nurtured and cared for in and out of my womb, an egg is just an extra bit of body stuff floating around that i most likely will never use!
The only thing that has made me reconsider donating my eggs is the new legislation that the UK government has brought in saying that children produced from egg/sperm donors can trace the donors in later life - not to sound cruel and heartless but to me that's awful! I wouldn't want to donate my eggs and then 18yrs later some stranger come knocking on my door and say 'hi, I'm your son/daughter' cos in my mind they are not my kids!! To be a parent takes a lot more than egg/sperm - its raising them and loving them!

Sorry if I've offended anyone, I'm just stating my opinion.

Answer 4

to me egg donation is a wonderful gift.. Donating an egg is not actually donating a baby as it is an unfertilised egg.....
Egg donors are the ONLY way my 10r old daughter could ever give birth to a child as she has non functioning ovaries (no eggs of her own) i know a lady who is in hospital now having a baby via egg donation (she has the same condition as my daughter) some kind lady has given this couple the chance of having a child who is very much wanted...... hope i my daughter decides to go down that path she gets lucky but she will need help from a kind donor

Answer 5

You must come to grips with the physocogical damage this con inflict upon you by knowing there is a child in the world that is genetically linked to you, but will not be legally allowed to be raised by you or even see you. You may be able to have an agreement with the intended parent(s) to have some visitation rights, but remember that it is no longer your child. Some women think it would be nice to earn money, but it is only about $3,000-$5,000 in compensation.

Also, you may be allowed to be put on a donor list, but you must tell all your family and personal medical history. If you have done drugs or have serious genetic medical illnesses in your family (i.e. cancer, diabetes), you may not ever be picked to donate.

Answer 6

I think if you are doing this for a very close friend or for family, it's very honorable. There are risks, of course, but my hats off to you for even considering it.

I also think it would be a great thing for you to then donate any remaining eggs (not needed by your friend or family member) to another gal who needs donated eggs. However, consider whether you want a random donation or whether you want specific women to have them (i.e. someone with PCOS, or women over 40 with no children, or a young woman with ovary damage or no surrogates--these are just examples that come to mind).

Answer 7

i've thought about that too. it'd be weird having a few kids with my dna running around out there. kinda like sperm donors, but as a woman, i guess it'd bother me more. but. . . the money is supposed to be wicked awesome. i still haven't made this decision yet. i'm still quite young, and not in any immediate need for money. but i will be contemplating this myself later. i mean, you have sooo many. there's now way you can use them all, so why not bank off of them. . . but then i go back to thinking about having "kids" out there that i dont get to be a part of their lives. i'm gonna follow this question, to see what others say.

Answer 8

I think if you are doing it because you want to help an infertile couple, it's a viable decision. It's not "your" child just because you give up some genetic material, any more than a sperm donor is someone's father.

If you are doing it to earn money, I think it's a pretty crass way to earn the green.

Answer 9

personally I would rather be a surrogate than donate my eggs. I would have a hard time knowing that it is my child out there somewhere being raised by another person. However, by being a surrogate it is someone else baby that you are helping enter the world because they are unable to do it successfully.

Answer 10

I think that it is a great gift to give your eggs. It takes a strong woman to do it. My cousin was able to have two babies this way. And she was so grateful to her egg donor. I think it is a great idea, and very unselfish. YOU GO GIRL!!!